How do I get over disappointment?

[DemureRose]

In my last post, I said that a trip that has been being planned for a year was cancelled because of the coronavirus. I thought I would just be disappointed for a hour or two then get over it, but the disappointment is so overwhelming. I mean it's hard to think back to only a few hours ago when I was so excited and starting to pack. I would give anything to be back to that person, who was just so happy. For weeks, things have been going wrong and I just kept telling myself "Just wait. You're almost at break. Then you'll get to have a relaxing vacation that will result in amazing memories." It has been the only thing helping me stay positive. And in one split second, that's gone. Just like that. I mean I have dealt with disappoint before, but there was always something I could do to ease that. I can't do anything about this. And that is what is so overwhelming to me. It's like I'm just watching as everything i have looked forward to is slowly going way. I'm now left with the realization that I may very well not have a formal graduation. Fourteen years of hard, brutal work and I may not get to be publicly recognized for it. It's just so overwhelming knowing that so much more disappointment is so come.

[Hidden]

I know this is a tricky one.. but I suggest taking up a new hobby even if its only a distraction I know that wont take the disappointment away but it can help in another way not to dwell too much thats what I find helps me to take my mind off my OCD for a certain length of time. Maybe play your favourite music or watch your favourite TV programme, even dancing or singing these are things that can be enjoyable to do at home thats what keeps me going and even talking to a family member or friend on the phone these are all good motivators take it from me.

[DemureRose in reply to Hidden]

Thank you.

It just makes things so much harder when you didn’t plan to have a whole week off you know? I was supposed to be on vacation next week making memories that I will never be able to make with people I won’t see after graduation. But I’m going to try and take your advice on finding a new hobby. I have a lot of watercolor paintings to do so maybe that’ll distract me.

[Hidden in reply to DemureRose]

Well at least it could take your mind off what you "fear' what might or might not happen after graduation and if you think about your vacation a different way at least you can rearrange it for another time in the future so it will still be there at a belated date.

[DemureRose in reply to Hidden]

It was supposed to be a trip with the high school baseball team (which my brother is on) and this would be the first time my school has ever sent a sports team on a trip. It was going to be a very unique experience and unfortunately there are no plans to reschedule it for later this summer.

[Hidden in reply to DemureRose]

Oh, I'm so sorry I forgot it was an organized school trip and your brither beibg in a baseball team I'm with you now . I used to play baseball and basketball years ago in my school but there wasn't any arranged team trips I just enjoyed it and watch these onTV now. I personally would ask your family what their suggestions are and that in my opinion that maybe needs to be called off till we get the all clear because it wouldn't be fair on your brother or anyone if they were to catch the virus then it would be contagious etc. But I totally understand now where you are coming from. It would be better for everyone concerned if it were to be rescheduled for say the end of May after Whitson. I know its not upto me though. Still ask one of your family to gave a word with the school headteacher to explain your situation to them on your behalf I wonder if that might help in some way. Best of luck.

[Jiwa]

Hi. I know how you feel..I was looking forward to going away for Easter to see my family and I planned to have an operation too. Everything was sorted.

I know it's a pandemy and that people are dying but still just feeling sad and hopeless..scared of isolation, anxious. I don't really know what we can do . I may use duolingo to learn Italian. Will prepare for my exams ( what if they're cancelled ?)

Take care