Disappointment..........

My birthday end of June..I'm not big into birthdays, although my daughter is, she loves surprises and planning....for her partners mums birthday s he arranged a spa day in a lovely place quite exclusive...I was invited although declined (not keen on pre planning as not sure how I'm going to feel ) I was pleased they were all going...partners mum lives a good 4 hr drive from us, I have only met her a few times, she's nice enough,

My daughter was sorting out her diary before and said that her partners mum would be coming when it's my birthday to stay that weekend.....which means anything we do she will be involved...I really cannot be assed with this, would have liked to do something on my own with. My daughter..they all go places a lot together, I usually don't bother. I don't even know the woman that well...

...I think I'm going to piss off somewhere that weekend, maybe people will think I'm mean, but her visit is nothing to do with me, I never arranged it ....

I live with my daughter and her partner it's a large house and generally works very well .....we all get on very well....

My day has not been good and I feel even worse now

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I no what you mean here , I would feel the same

My son has a GF & one day he came home & said her Mum & Dad want us all to go for a meal

I said "what " I thought why ?

Don't go out anyway & if I was , it wouldnt be with someone I don't no

Maybe you could tell your daughter how you feel , before the day arrives , sounds like you are close so she would understand

But no on my Birthday I would like to think I was doing something that would make me happy , I spend a lot of time trying to make everyone else happy the rest of the time

Sorry you have had a bad day

Love

whywhy

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Thanks why why its nice that you understand...my daughter is lovely but she is in a bit of an awkward situation over the visits of that family...and they seem to want to be involved in every freakin thing....I'm defo thinking of getting off that weekend, I will celebrate the weekend after with my daughter they can do one !!!!!

Some people just don't know when to give you a break and that family are just like that.......feelin really pissed off right now....

Appreciate your response thank you...I think what gets me mad is I'm always considerate and wait to be invited never ever pushing myself on anyone..no wonder I suffer with anxiety too many inconsiderate folk around I think, and it gets to you over time.....phew rant over hahah xxxx

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I think that can be part of the problem , we think of others & then it hurts so much when it gets to us & we realise it doesn't work the other way round

Been having some similar things myself like this at the moment , so I no how much it hurts

Good to have a rant though

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Yes it really does.....I never ever make arrangements ....or put anyone out aarrggghhhh fuming !!!!

Just had a big fat piece of cake to calm me down!

Feels a bit better..... Xxxx

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mmmmm cake I ate a large bar of expensive chocolate today, I'm feeling a little guilty

Your totally allowed to be pissed off, I would be too, now............

Have a calm talk with your daughter and explain you dont want all the stress of it all.

Communication.........and suggest having a quiet one with just your daughter etc. after.

These things can really blow out of proportion, especially if we are feeling anxious already. Once you have explained it all. You will calm down, and all will be well, remember, you are allowed to not want to socialise at the moment, with certain people.

Wishing you well

And a big cuddle

b

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Thank you see comment below...it's now letting me reply individually x

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Ah Im sorry you feel crap Sue, I know what you mean about arrangements etc.... I feel the same, and its very hard to pre-plan etc. .......

But it is your birthday and youre allowed to do what you want!! Im sure they wont mind!!

Hope you feel better soon!!

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Thanks Anne.....I was fuming...but see below ...holiday !!!! Yay....

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Site playing up a little wouldn't let me reply individually....

I am going to stay at a friends near the beach.....I remembered she was going away and I've offered to house sit and she is happy with that yay....I will have to drive about 3 and half hours but that's ok....

I know I could talk to my daughter but without going into great detail it is a little out of her hands and do matter what I say it would make life awkward for her and I don't want to do that..she's too nice....

So now I'm going on holiday and I actually feel better, so thank you to the inconsiderate family they have actually helped me....may go and by some beach wear tomorrow....gosh life changes by the hour thanks again guys for the comments this site and the lovely people help me so much...xxxxx