Still scared of dying in my sleep but now I’m scared of just dying in mid day sometime. People tell me I will be fine but It’s just hard to believe people now need some advice
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I’m freaking out about dying in my sleep or during the day
Well look at it this way. If you are going to die in your sleep or midday you might as well enjoy your life the best you can meantime. There is no point in spending your last days miserable is there? There would be nothing you could do about it after all.
The fact is the it's very rare for someone to die in their sleep or drop dead suddenly unless they are very ill or very old. You are neither so why would you? Your mind is telling you that you will so tell your mind not to be so daft and to concentrate on living instead. I hope this helps a bit. x
Does being tired have anything to do with this I’m scared I will have a heart attack or stroke either during the day or in my sleep
Tiredness won't cause any heart problems or a heart attack. if that was the case we would all have multiple heart attacks weekly. Our bodies are amazingly strong and are built to last a long time so please try not to worry. x
Last night I woke up at like 3 and I just walked around my house for about 10 minutes and I came back to bed and just sat there and my heart just kinda stopped for about 2 seconds and it scared me this made the fear worse
This is normal too so try not to concentrate on it too much as the more you do the more anxious you will get and the more symptoms you will have. It's a vicious circle. Try and distract yourself instead. x
My friends told me to try to find a quiet spot somewhere outside or inside and just meditate there for 20 minutes
Wise friends. x
I went to see a doctor and he said I’m healthy I’m going to see another doctor that talks to me about this and tried to get my mind off it
Tries
I also went to my church and talked with the preacher about this and he gave me spiritual advice
Tell the doctor you have health anxiety as maybe meds and/or counselling can help you.
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Yes I take nerve pills for this
They really don’t work but I just started taking them about a week ago
Nerve pills? Do you mean antidepressants? Are you having any counseling? Didn't your doctor tell you they take up to 6 weeks before they get fully into your system, so give them a chance to work. x
I always question myself before bed “Am I gonna wake up in the morning?” I get so scared and I’m thinking I will or death is near
Sometimes I will just completely freak out about this and start crying praying I won’t die in my sleep I just walk around and I just feel freaked out
I just feel like death is near is this normal to think this
This is silly of me to say because I know exactly how you feel. But... I purchased a smart watch just for this reason!! I used to have the feeling my heart wasnt beating, or it was stopping. My heart rate was too low. Etc.
Now I have my little smart watch will tell me how fast my heart is beating
It's a nice little reassurance. It may not be totally accurate but hey, atleast I know I still have a pulse! Maybe you could find a cheap one
It’s hard to spend time because I’m so tired from waking up early in the morning
Why do you think this is going to happen?
Sometimes although we want reassurance from others, it doesn’t help us as much as we think it will - as you’ve kind of realised for yourself.
Maybe you could make yourself a list, reasons why it is likely and reasons why it isn’t. Hopefully you will see the reasons why it isn’t is a much longer list.
This sounds like an unpleasant way to be living at the moment. Have you spoken to anyone professionally about your anxiety? I have had similar fears in the past and do empathise with you but what I have learnt , over time and with support, is that no matter how real it seems in the moment, it is just the anxiety.
My worst fear was strokes & seizures but that because I felt like dying in the hot or just The way my body feels like most of the day I don't feel like myself tiredness head pains and bumbs shaking shocks in head or hands juss alot of torture in my body and felt like I couldn't make it and pretty much every single day I think something bad gonna happen but it anxiety and maybe it just some health problems that trigger anxiety to make us think worst but we gotta fight it n try to get back to feeling okay and not scared anymore I know it it what I gotta learn I Kno it hard🙁
We tend to think about it tooooo much. Anxiety does not deserve that much attention. When we feed into it (I am guilty of this) it spirals out of control.
Does the same apply to happiness... x
Hypercat54 it does apply. I am glad you mentioned that.
I’m freaked out about this
I keep telling myself it will happen and then I tell myself it won’t
Ha ha. x
What’s funny
What Boober said about happiness. x
Oh
I wasn't laughing at you at all. I have an older sister with severe anxiety and has been dying for the past 55 years. She is 70 now and will outlive all of us. x
I know do you think I will die in my sleep
No. Why should you? I am much more likely to coz of my age and lung disease, but I don't obsess over it! If it happens it does and there is nothing I can do about it is there. x
I’m going to the sleep doctor today to see if anything wrongs
Why do you put an x after your sentence
Yes it's a hug and kiss. x
Is it normal to wake up and be sweaty
Yes. x
I’m going to get a sleep study done soon
I am at a doctor right now getting checked out
Getting a sleep lab July 2 so there gonna watch how I sleep so can’t wait
I take these melatonin pills and they help a bit they let me sleep better so I think those help aloy
I don’t know I just think I will die I don’t know why though
I downloaded this beats per minute app and I check my heartbeat before bed it’s usually in the 80s or 90s that helps me a little bit
Do You think it’ll happen to me
My doctor said I was healthy
Don't take this the wrong way but do you think your mind is just seeking attention? I sometimes feels mine is in some way in the way I think
No way
Hi. Your anxiety has got out of control again hasn't it? Emm. I do feel for you. I'm afraid there is no good advice for this one as anyone of us could die. We just don't know how much time we have. But in your case it's best to look at it on the balance of probabilities. I like to combat negative or anxious thoughts with different ones. Then I can have a choice! I don't have to believe everything my head starts up. If I have other ideas from other places I get better at making educated guesses as to what is likely to be true. At times, I just can't make my mind up and that's ok too! Kinda normal really.
Was thinking the same thing I didn’t know thanks for telling me though
I can guarantee you that you will not just die .. you need to understand that the body is stronger than we give it credit for . It won’t just stop working like that . I was having chest pains and thought I was going to die and not wake up every morning . But I’m still here . Please don’t live Like that don’t let it consume your life because it will if you Let it . Also if you find it’s really interfering with your life I would
Suggest talking to someone maybe therapy will help you to understand why your feeling like this !
Best wishes
I would say this is anxiety and that your mind is constantly going around in circles with fear.
Do you work full or part time? does this happen when you are busy occupied with something or does this happen when you have nothing to do? just want to know and understand what triggers it.
I wouldn't say I have a fear of dying but I am a bit scared of it but I think if it happens then it is my time to go.
I think about it when I have nothing to do
Okay. Do you work? how old are you?
How about any hobbies? do you like to read books?
People tell me to read but I’m not really a reader does it help
Yes. It's hard to force yourself to do something you are not used to. Try watching youtube videos
You are alive and need to focus on enjoying the present. I feel the same way at times and do something to keep busy and not focus on it. I always feel better when I can keep my mind occupied with things I enjoy. When your thoughts go in this direction stop and think about something else. Good luck to you. Debbie
It’s normal because of the nicotine coming away from the body and giving you brain fog I had it but now it’s gone so please be easy you are well healthy man
What we are experiencing all together is called health anxiety . Your anxiety is taking a toll on you and has you thinking your going to die. But these symptoms cause you to feel this way because symptoms are different for everyone.
When you think your going to die , imagine heaven and accept it. Then you will find a better sense of comfort.
Shit were all going to die , but only god knows when , you can be the healthiest in the world and fall down today, or you might be the smoker,drinker with bad anxiety issues and other health issues and live a long long time....
God works in mysterious ways , all you gotta do is have faith
hey sorry that you have these thoughts.the way I see it no point in worrying about the inevitable.enjoy life when you can and fill your life with good memories to look back on.
It’s hard to fathom dying and I know what it feels like to live in fear that one day you will meet your fate. I get myself in such a bad state sometimes and feel like at any moment I’m going die. It’s a horrible feeling, I panic something terrible. I want someone or something to make it go away but nothing helps until I settle my own mind and body. I pray for you to feel better!
Yes it’s getting worse I think I need someone to talk to
I have been feeling like this a lot lately and its driving me crazy. I wake up (if I go to sleep at all). I have tried changing my mindset and it seems not to be working anymore. I can't stop crying and don't know what more I can do.
I am scared to talk to anyone about it because I fear that if I do it will come true. This is the scariest feeling I've ever had.
Ano how u fell going througth same thing freaks me out hear are some symptlms a get
Dizzy
Lightheadace
Everything looks bright
My eyes feel popping out ma head
Tight band round ma head
Always paniky
Scared off everything
Stuggle to breath
Tingling feom head to toe
Then a think am going to die our about to die always on ma mind cant seem to shift it try diff meds nothing works tryed taking cbt works for bite hooe your ok always hear if u need a chat bed times worse to a panik in bed it freaks me out
I think I will die every night when I go to bed do u think I will die in my sleep doc says I’m healthy and i will do sleep study soo
Get help and try not to complain so much
Hello MyDogMax. First and foremost, let’s take a deep breath together.
Ok now. This is a fear that has practically been ruining my life for the past month. Even if I feel completely fine before going to bed, I get terrified that I will die. I have crazy symptoms like lightheadedness, brain fog, tingling, chest pain, sudden exhaustion, aches and pains everywhere. It’s the absolute worst. However, every time I’m at the height of freaking out and I go to the ER, the tests ALWAYS come back negative. The funny thing about my fears are that there was no health episode or good reason for me to have such thoughts. I’ve always been healthy with very little health issues, yet here I am young and still terrified I’m going to suddenly drop down dead. This is when I have to tell myself it is my mind. Whatever you’re thinking, your body feels. The mind is very very powerful. Instead of worrying what the future holds? Live in the present. You are alive today. Who cares about tomorrow? There’s a verse in the Bible that says to focus on today because tomorrow has enough concerns of its own.
I know this is much easier said then done but from the sound of it, your fears are tearing you up and taking over your life. It’s been 2 weeks since your original post and you’re still here, panicking. You haven’t had any health problems. You’re going to be ok. If your doctors are telling you that you are healthy, then hold on to that and live your life. Also, when these fears consume you at night, pray. Give your fears to God. Believe me He is the only one that can take them away from you. We are not meant to live in fear but to live fearlessly, not worrying because God has got us. Always remember that.
Breathe and know you will get through this.
-Lia.
Beautifully said TrustnGod. x It helped me as well to
read your response. xx
Yes I went to my preacher when I was having these fears he gave me some spiritual advice that helped
The past couple of nights have been good but I’m scared I will freak out again
Hey TrustnGod I think and I hope I’m getting over this fear I’m not thinking a lot of it anymore thanks everyone who commented on this post as y’all helped me alot
Do you know if having nightmares has anything to do with this
Hi MyDogMax. I’m sorry for my late reply. The app stopped sending me notifications. If you’re having nightmares, it definitely could affect how you feel before you sleep.
Yea have you heard about Cameron Boyce he died in his sleep that’s kinda got me shook up but he had an illness and I don’t
Yes that hasme all upset right now I read the article and it’s had me all upset and my anxiety is bad right now ......
But he had an illness my doc says I’m perfectly fine so I’m fine I hope
May he Rest In Peace. But don’t let his sudden death make you think that you’re him. As you said, you’re healthy and unfortunately he was not. He may have known that he was at risk for dying of a seizure given that he was already being treated for a medical condition that may have caused them. Keep reminding yourself that you are healthy and are not having seizures so you have a VERY low risk of even having one. In addition to this, those who do have seizures (depending on what type of course) have a .1-1% of dying from seizures. So if their risk is that low and they have frequent seizures, imagine how much lower your risk is. When you get anxious about things like this, look up the facts. According to epilepsy.com, most seizures are not life threatening. Just don’t dwell on it too much.
Yea I told myslef he was ill and I’m not so I’m fine just like my doc said
You know Alan Jackson? I listen to his Christian Album on Music and that calms me down
I do not but I’ll have to look into his album. I’m happy you’ve found something that helps!
Honestly I feel like he’s putting stuff out there that are signs that death is near
Death for you is near?
I don’t know I feel like it
Is that normal
Here’s what I think. When we’re aware of something, we become obsessed with it. For instance, I recently got a Chevy Cruze and now because I have that car and am aware of it, I feel like every other car I see is a Chevy. In the same way, when you’re scared of death, you’re hyperaware of anything that involves death. Songs, movies, shows, everything. A lot of Christian songs discuss death and when we’re scared we’re dying, we pay extra close attention to that and swear it’s a sign from God. Either way, we have no clue when we could die but that’s not something we should dwell on. I want to ask- why are you scared of death? I’m terrified of it too and just last night couldn’t sleep because I thought I was going to have a heart attack. But I’ve realized why I’m so scared of death and knowing why I am gives me some solace. So, why are you scared of dying?
No idea
Or because you don’t know what it will be like? I mean think of it. Death isn’t an experience we can come back to talk about so no one truly knows what it’s like to die
Yes and that but I don’t think I will but I do at the same time
That’s a really tough thing because control is something we grasp onto a little too tightly sometimes. Unfortunately, there is no way to control death. But if you do believe in God, just remember that he will take you when it’s his perfect time. Jeremiah 29:11 says that God has plans to give us a hope and a future, not to harm us. Your thoughts are clearly harming your quality of life and keeping you from living which means that they aren’t from God. He wouldn’t “paralyze” you with such thoughts because he is a God that gives us fearlessness, not fear.
So what your saying is that it’s anxiety
Exactly. There’s a post on the forum and this lady was saying she was terrified she was going to die. She kept on feeling like she saw signs that indicated it and she could barely sleep. 1 year later and she was still living and the fear still sometimes came. Your anxiety can convince you of some crazy things but you have to realize even though you are healthy, your thoughts can still make you think crazy crazy things.
Yes I looked up something on the internet about this and it said the only way you can die in your sleep if your healthy is if your heart goes Haywire so
That as well as if you have terminal illnesses such as cancer but I don’t think undiagnosed cancer would give you symptoms of impending doom. If you google it you’ll find that a sense of impending doom is almost ALWAYS a symptoms of anxiety and unfortunately your anxiety comes in that form
Ok well I want to wish you good luck I’m gonna head on to bed now and try to get some sleep hopefully I will be on to talk tomorrow
Still feeling this fear but hopefully getting over it
Do you know of like any ways to get rid of this fear faster
Do you know how to get rid of this fear
Sorry about that. I’ve been a little busy and haven’t had time to reply. Honestly fear is really hard to combat. Usually, going back to when it first started is what helps a lot. Discovering what caused it and working through that will help. But you can’t expect results just overnight. You really have to work at it. There will be days when you’re terrified and other days you’ll be completely fine. If I’m being honest, there was a solid week where I slept in my parents room because I was so scared in my own. But once I realized 1. Our bodies are made to live for long periods of time 2. Death is inevitable and most importantly, 3. Because of my faith, I know I will end up in a better place then death became less of a fear and more of just something I accepted.
I’m terrified now I think because of my dream last night it was me dying in my sleep not sure if this is normal and also is it normal for your heartrate to race sometimes?
It’s not letting me see your message
So can you just put it on here
I get like 10 hours of sleep but some mornings I feel like doing nothing and some I’m like tired I don’t understand I’m scared
Do you actually think this is anxiety because I don’t think it is but I do I’m not sure
I’ve been freaked out because last night I couldn’t go to bed
Hey still hanging on finally got some sleep last night thought still in my head everyone says it’s anxiety going to see a specialist some time this week
I went to therapy today going back August 8 so hopefully by that time I won’t die in my sleep and be over it
Hello MyDogMax. I apologize for my delayed response. I will plan on retyping what I had originally typed out and messaged you. I really and truly do think this is anxiety. I went through this REALLY badly a couple of weeks ago. I would began to fall asleep and the second I would go into the altered state of consciousness I would wake up, freaked out that me drifting off to sleep was actually me dying. It was RIDICULOUS and cost me SO many hours of sleep.
How was the therapy session? Did it help to ease your anxiety?
Well kinda he sortves trying to get into my mind and getting stuff out that I wouldn’t say
Hmm. I’m sure with time you will develop trust and be able to talk about things. The other word of advice I wanted to give to you was to look into buying a oximeter and/or BP monitor so you can take your vitals. I think seeing a visual representation of your health may be beneficial. I have an oximeter and it has been really helpful because I get short of breath sometimes, and reading that my oxygen levels are perfectly fine gives me peace of mind. Maybe this can help ease the anxiety for you as well.
Yes I will look into that also I do a bpm app have
Hey still doing good hopefully this is anxiety and not something that means I will die in my sleep
I’m thinking it’s safe to say it’s anxiety given that you’re still just as healthy as you were when this fear first started
I sure do hope that I’m sure it is my mind just don’t think that
Having people to talk to makes me feel better
I get scared some nights and some I’m fine
Good plan. When you learn to trust God, life becomes easier but it’s a process.
I feel that. The other night I couldn’t sleep a wink but the next night I was completely fine. It’s a very annoying process
Yep me talking to people helps soooooo much
Doing better going to beach tomorrow so hopefully will have good time and get my mind off things for a little
Good to know! I was thinking about you today. I hope your beach trip goes well
Thanks hopefully I actually get to go and this is all anxiety
I’m honestly freaking out u think this is the worst night I think like it’s actually gonna happen tonight I’m freaking ouy
You’re going to be ok. What’s causing you to think this? Are you experiencing any symptoms?
No I don’t think so I think it’s just the fear of death wandering if I’m gonna go to heaven or hell which I hope I’ll go to heaven
What do you believe ?
But i don’t wanna die in my sleep I don’t wanna die that way
I’m going to heaven
I just want this fear to go away right now I’m so scared I feel like he’s telling me I will die in my sleep tonight
You need to breath. You’re going to be ok. Why do you feel like God’s telling you you will die tonight. What’s your religion if you don’t mind my asking?
I’m a Christian definitely but i don’t know why I think this
I don’t believe this is from God. 2 Timothy 1:7 says “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” God would not make you fearful of dying in your sleep. That is not him speaking to you. You’re allowing yourself and your life to be controlled by a fear that is not being produced by God. You’re going to be ok. Ask God to take the fear away and to give you peace of mind.
Ok will try that thanks
Keep me updated
Ok I will sometimes I’m so tired I will just be like if it happens it happens but some are just bad like this one
Oh ya I know that feeling. Sometimes you’re so exhausted you can’t even begin to acknowledge the anxiety. Sometimes I long for these days so I can just get some sleep! I think you should look to see if there’s a pattern of events that lead up to this happening or if it’s sporadic.
Yes I will, hope to talk to you tomorrow gonna try to get sleep now
Hopefully I will be alive to go to the beach hopefully
Don’t hope you’ll be alive. Pray you’ll be alive. Let me know how you’re doing tomorrow. You’ll be ok. Don’t let the anxiety and fear take over. God’s got you.
Ok I’m taking your word
Hey there heading to the beach now stopped at the gas station to get gas will keep you updated
Awesome! So glad you made it through the night
Same here made it to beach hopefully get my mind off things for a while
Hopefully nights won’t be as bad probably gonna take a nap soon because I’m exhausted
Glad to hear you made it. As the saying goes, this too shall pass. You’re going to be ok. On nights when you do feel fearful, remember nights like last night when you were sure you wouldn’t make it but you did.
Ok I will keep that in mind thanks for being here for me I really appreciate it
Just woke up from nap feeling a little bettee
Anytime. That’s what this forum is for. I’m glad you got to take a nap. Now go enjoy the beach!
Thanks I will, and will keep in touch with you to update you
I think is this fear when I’m not active so when I’m active I love it because I never think of it
Yup that’s how anxiety is. But it will get better
So basically my little counsins and uncle surprised me here and now I’m even more scared because I’m scared I will die in my sleep and they will try to wake me up and realize I won’t wake up I’m scared
Don’t think about that. You cannot let this fear interfere with your life. It’s going to be ok.
Ok I took a melatonin which helps calm my nerves and makes me tired
I’m literally crying right now because I’m so scared please help
Ok I want you to bend all of your fingers except your thumb and ring finger. Take your thumb and cover one nostril and breath in. Hold that breath and then take your ring finger and cover the other nostril. Now breathe out and then take another breath in with that same nostril then switch fingers again. This is going to calm down the fight or flight response you’re experiencing.
I can’t deal with this anymore
You can do this. Believe me you can. I know you can.
Ok I’m gonna take deep breaths and try to get some sleep talk to you in the morning
Ok. You’re going to be ok. Reach out tonight if you need to.
Slept pretty good tonight gonna do some shopping with family go out to etc hoping to have a good day
Is it ok to be really tired after a 2hour nap and 8 hour sleep
I’m glad to hear you slept well! Don’t think about death today. Try to redirect your brain to thinking of something else. It’s very normal for you to feel that tired. Your body is so anxious and going through a lot. It’s exhausted so I’m not surprised that you’re still tired.
I think this is anxiety because god wouldn’t want you to go through this thinking he’s gonna take me he wouldn’t want you to think that and it come true
Exactly. I was just listening to a video this morning and it said if you have fearful thought, it isn’t from God. Remember that. Yesterday, I was driving and kept seeing signs that said “if you were to die where would you go?” If I’d seen that sign even a month ago I would’ve panicked because I would’ve thought God was telling me I’m going to die. But I realized that that’s not the first or last time I’ve ever seen and will see that sign. Don’t let your fears control your life. We must have faith in God when those fears become too large for us to handle.
Yep I just can’t wait to go to my preacher I feel better talking to hom
Definitely. Keep me updated! I’ll be here if you need me.
So u don’t think this is not a sign from god or anything
Sign that in gonna die in my sleep
The fact that you’ve felt this way for so long but you’re still ok is a testament that you’re going to be ok.
Nope. In fact I KNOW it isn’t because you’re terrified. God doesn’t give us fearful thoughts always remember that.
Yes and I read something that said when you sleep your hearts at its calmest point of the day
Exactly. Do you ever get a feeling like you’re sinking when you fall asleep?
Yes I feel like I can’t feel anything if I’m tired alot
Yup. It’s because your muscles are constantly tense so when you’re too tired to keep them tense, they relax causing your body to feel like you’re turning to jelly and it’s terrifying but it’s just your body relaxing.
Yes I just took a walk down the sidewalk to relieve some nerves
Last night was bad because I just got the beach and it’s different from my home so I had to get used to it
Good good. You’re going to be just fine. Are you still at the beach?
Yes
Not leaving until next Saturday
Is it ok if I don’t poop as much as I used to but eat normally
I would think so. I’m guessing your digestive system is working a bit slower because so much of your energy is going to your anxiety.
Yea probably so just wandering
If you feel like super constipated or something I’d watch it but if you’re just pooping less frequently don’t worry about it.
Yes don’t feel constipated at all
I think it’s the devil putting this in my mind
I hate it when I my mind says it’s not gonna happen and then like the other my mind says it will
The devil is absolutely putting this into your mind. Rebuke him! The Lord is more powerful then the thoughts he is putting in your mind. You cannot let fear rule your life
Yes I know it’s just I’m so scared it will happen
question does cramps have to do anything with this
I get cramps constantly. They usually don’t mean anything serious.
Or mean death is near
Just read something that said the sleepiness can be a sign of death
Please stop reading. Do you google symptoms often? Sleepiness is your body telling you hey we’ve had an awesome day now please let me have a break.
Had a really good time at water park got my mind off things now going back to my condo to probably take a nap
So now I’m freaked out once again I’m scared
It’s ok. Breathe breathe breathe. Try hard not to think about it
Ok I trust u i hope tonight will be good
Ok can I tell you something
Of course
At the water park today gonna have a good time good day for relaxing and getting my mind off thing
Oh ok just didn’t know
Yup don’t worry I am a very very patient person. When do you get to see your preacher?
Gotta plan appointment when I get back from beach
Tonight’s war better still in my mind but not bad
Good! I’m glad. Just keep breathing and don’t think about it
But it won’t happen either way right
I cannot predict the future but based off of the fact that you’re healthy and have lived with this fear thus far I think you’re fine.
Ok I hope that too I hope something doesn’t happen
I’m probably going to go to bed and have a fun time tomorrow
Nothing will happen. Remind yourself that this is anxiety. Have a good rest.
Ok thanks
Doing a lot better went down the the beach today and had lots of fun
I’ve got a question
Ok go ahead
Is it normal to urinate about 3-4 times a day
Well how much water do you drink on a daily basis?
I have no idea probably 3 glasses a day
I’d say that’s normal. From what I’ve read, on average people pee 6-8 times a day. But given how little you drink, I’m not surprised your numbers are lower. I sometimes pee like 2 times a day when I’m drinking nothing and when I’m drinking lots I pee upwards of 10 times a day. It all depends on what you’re giving your body to work with.
That sortve scared me a little bit
Still praying it won’t happen and to please give me a peaceful mind
What worries you about that?
I have no idea just think it has something to do with bladder problems
If you had bladder problems it would be more apparent because other symptoms that effect your urine are more likely to show up. Don’t worry about it. Every body is so different some people just pee more frequently. That number is an average meaning plenty of healthy people pee under or over that amount.
I hate this fear so much I just want it to be done and then I don’t think about and then it pops out of nowhere and I think it’s gonna happen
Do you still think it’s not gonna happen or have you changed your mind
No. My mind hasn’t changed. I think you’re totally fine but I want you to be able to have peace of mind too.
Yes same
Because me sitting here telling you that you’re fine and it’s just anxiety is so much easier then you saying that to yourself. It’s not fair that you have to go through this on a daily basis so I want you to find a solution- hence my suggestion.
I hate going through this I can’t thank you enough for dealing with ne
No worries! I go through this too so I feel your pain. But it’s going to be ok.
Ok thank you so much
Living like this is just ridiculous. It’s crazy how our fears can just take over our lives.
I just hope it doesn’t happen I really hope it doesn’t happen
Breathe. Don’t think about death. Focus on the fact that you’re living. Have you tried meditation?
Yes doesn’t help but I still do it
Well good on not giving up. You’ll be ok
Ok I’m trusting you hopefully tomorrow we will do something fun
Don’t trust me. Trust God. Have a good rest.
I’m scared now right before I go to bed I’m freaked out I think it’s gonna happen
You’re going to be ok. Remind yourself that all of the facts say you will make it. You are healthy and this is anxiety. God doesn’t give us spirits of fear.
I know it’s just it can’t get to my mind that I’m fine
I’m gonna try to get some sleep praying I will wake up tomorrow
It’s ok. It will take time but you’ll eventually get there.
My uncle I talked to him about it and he said I know for a fact it’s not gonna happen and if it does it’s gonna be by a person that breaks in and kills you while your asleep or your heart just goes haywire and that’s almost impossible to happen
Exactly.
Do you think I handle stress good
I think you’re doing a good job. The fact that you’re still out and about and can distract yourself means that your body is getting a break.
I take melatonin which calms my nerves down a lot
Good! Have you tried magnesium at all?
Nope
It can help calm the nerves as well if you want to try it.
At the local pool right now haven’t thought about my fear at all today
Doing good today praying it won’t happen tonight or any night
Don’t anticipate it happening and it won’t. Just live your life and if it comes remind yourself it’s anxiety. I’m glad you’re having a good day!
Doing better tonight took a nap and woke up so I didn’t die in my sleep during my nap so why should I tonight
When you wake up do you always think about how you didn’t die?
Not really when I wake up I kinda just sit there relax and then when I get up I’m like well didn’t die in my sleep and go on with my day
Ah ok.
Is that good
Ya that’s pretty good. It’s good you don’t wake up anxious or anything.
Yea then when I wake up after I do I’m just like it didn’t happen live another day happily and nothing will happen
Doing way better tonight praying I won’t die in my sleep though
Good! Keep praying
Doing a little better need someone to talk to now
Ok I’m here.
So I need to talk about something to get my mind off things
Ok well what do you want to talk about? You can tell me about your week with your family.
Well we went to the water park which was fun then we went shopping and found some cool stuff and went to the pier and saw some guys catch fish and then went to a bar/restaurant and then the next day we went to a pool and had a blast there came back to the house took a nap and these last few nights have been pretty good I have to say now gotta be quiet don’t wanna jinx it so here we are today/tonight and tonight’s kinda good
Good to hear! Sounds like a blast. How long are you going to be with your family for?
All leaving tomorrow
Nice
Yes but don’t want to leave so peaceful here
I can imagine. I live nowhere near the beach so on the rare occasion I go, it takes everything in me to
Leave haha
Yes I know that feeling it stinks
What’s your favorite dessert?
Sorry fell asleep last night um probably banana pudding
Can you explain what a pause in breath is
Do you mean you voluntarily paused or??
No i don’t know if I pause while I’m breathing so I was asking you what it meant to see if I pause while I breath
Here’s the thing...it’s easy for us to see if we’re short of breath or can’t breathe but it’s very difficult to see if we truly pause during our breathing because when we focus on something that’s relatively involuntary, we aren’t able to view it normally if that makes sense.
Yes I don’t think my breath skips but when I was driving today my heart fluttered and I was freaked out I was looking around like are these my last breaths or not so I probably won’t go to sleep
My heart flutters too. It’s a normal feeling. If you were having serious issues you would be able to tell. I don’t think you have flesh eating bacteria. This is all anxiety.
Now I’m kinda scared about that flesh eating bacteria because my throat hurts and I’m scared that’s something that tells you that you have it
Well I don’t have it because we went to the Atlantic Ocean in Georgia
Good
I think I just got tired of being in that car driving so I think that’s what triggered my anxiety
I just don’t know why I my throat hurts that scares me
I wouldn’t be surprised. When you’re in the car you have too much time to think about stuff like that. What kind of pain is it?
Oh just sore throat
Well given you’ve been around kids and just a lot people in general I’m not surprised if you’re getting a cold or something. Maybe allergies.
Just got back from swimming at a friends house kinda freaked out again I believe it will happen tonight
Ok I want you to start taking your worry and saying ok this is normal. I feel this often. I have made it past this many times. It is anxiety. I am healthy. And then let it go.
Didn’t get much sleep last night woke up at around 2am and went back to bed and then woke up at 6 and didn’t go back to sleep
I have no idea what just happened I’m freaking out I came back inside I was doing stuff around the house wasn’t hot at all then I started to feel light headed and my back was hurting like crazy and I felt like I was about to pass out or something I’m literally crying I took a little time and I went to the bed to lay down and took a small nap now I feel good
I’m sorry to hear that. It’s probably your body adjusting to being back home. Did you have anything to eat before doing stuff around the house?
Nope
That could be it. I for one get very ill (lightheaded, hot, shaky) when I don’t eat before going about my daily activities, even if they are small.
Oh so that probably is the problem now I just feel weird like my fear isn’t like it used to be
It seems more serious than before
Made it back home but today I just can’t get my mind off dying in my sleep
It’s going to be ok
When you were at the beach did you have people who were staying in the same house as you or were you alone there?
Same house
Oh another question would this like fear be different on like a 14 year old or would it be the same as what I’m dealing with
I think maybe you being alone (I am assuming you live alone?) may have increased the fear. But as far as we both know, you’re healthy.
I mean it depends on the 14 year old. Everyone is so different I couldn’t tell you. But I think the fear would be less real and extreme to most.
Yes I do do you think a 14 year old could die from this considering their young
Could die from their fear of death?
Yes
Do you think they will
No. Your fears can’t physically hurt you
I just think it’ll happen
We’d all be dead if they did. Do you think you’re in bad health or something?
I feel weird I’m so scared it’s gonna happen I feel more confident it will
It’s ok. You’re probably scared to be alone after being with people
I don’t think I’m fine honestly it sucks being like this all the time
I might go swim with my friends and still praying i will wake up in the morning
It does but it will pass. Think of how long you’ve had this fear. A long time and you’re still fine now. Keep praying. God will give you peace.
I sure do hope so
No idea what’s going on in my head I’m positive I will die in my sleep tonight
Is there an urgent care or ER you can go to?
Yes
Sometimes fear gets really serious like that but I think you’re fine. Give me all the reasons why you could possibly die. Do you have any health conditions ?
No I don’t went to the doc and he said everything with me was fine
Then believe that and live your life. You can’t be consumed by fear. It’s ok to be afraid but you can’t let it consume your life like this
I’m just scared I will stop breathing in the middle of my sleep and not wake up or my heart just stops
And then plus earlier today I was feeling like I was gonna pass out I’m so scared I don’t know what to do im just so scared
It’s ok. Your doctor checked you to make sure you didn’t have problems that would cause complications like death and you don’t. Remember passing out is not the same as dying. You probably had a drop in blood pressure or something which has been resolved since you’re not feeling the symptoms anymore.
I went 3 times one doc 2 times then the other even heard my heart flutter and said I was fine that’s the heart growing and even checked my pulse and everything and was all good
If they heard it flutter and said it wasn’t a problem then the only thing you can do is believe them. If you’re this worried though you could make an appointment with a cardiologist or something just to ease your mind.
I went to therapy and I’m going back August 10
I just feel good talking to someone
Well I think it’s because I’m really tired and my anxiety goes up when I’m tired I woke up at 2 last night and then went to bed and then woke up and 6 and didn’t go back to bed
I just don’t want to die yet I want live out my life to the fullest
It just doesn’t feel like it used to feel like like the fear is almost like it might come true
I’m glad talking to someone helps. Tbh I think it’s going to take you making peace with death to get over the fear because for it to be such an inevitable thing, we can only accept and take each day and live it to it’s fullest. Are you feeling any alarming symptoms right now?
Not really I just sometimes sit quietly to listen to my heart i just get freaked out
Is there any reason why that freaks you out?
Just because I don’t wanna die I think I will every night
My stomach is growing right now but I’m not hungry
I mean logically speaking no I don’t think it will. Your stomach is just settling itself. It’s normal for our bodies to make weird sounds. Mine does all the time.
It said that if you were like old then dying in your sleep is the best way and will more so happen to them and then it said if you are young it is unlikely to happen
Exactly. It’s very unlikely you would unless you had a serious disease you already knew about.
Or someone busted in my house and killed me which I don’t live in a place where those are common and I just took my melatonin so I’ll be getting tired soon
I think I have a cold I’m cold right now I’m under the covers with a long sleeve shirt and pj pants
Would that be serious to dying in my sleep
That’s ok. It’s cold season and flu season and allergy season. I wouldn’t be surprised if you had a cold. I don’t think you should think what if I die in my sleep or is it serious if I die in my sleep. You’re only making yourself more scared. Just breathe. You’re going to be ok.
If you did I would go crazy your the only one that’s helping me besides the docs
Have you thought about incorporating a mindful routine in the night where you wind down enough so you’re less anxious?
Well when I get tired I don’t care as much because my anxiety goes down
But even before you get tired I think you should do something to help relax yourself.
Yes I just kinda sit there and watch my dog run around for about 30 minutes
How are you feeling now? I reckon you’re sleeping?
Yes I’m sorry I just left you had a pretty good nights sleep
With me
I’m having a sleep study tonight I’m just scared they will find something
Going to sleep study at about 8 o’clock tonight
Glad you had a good night sleep. I’ll be praying for you as you go into the sleep study.
Yes I will keep you in touch I will be on my phone to talk with you
Sounds good. I had surgery today and I’m on pain meds so if I don’t respond I’m just sleeping.
Ok
Now I’m scared
I’m scared they will give me something that will kill me
I’m so scared
At the lab now I’m so scared that they will give me some medicine that will kill me in my sleep
They would never never do that to you believe me on that
I sure do hope they don’t
They said if it’s sleep apnea then i would come back
They’re doctors. They want to save you, not kill you. They wouldn’t be doing this if anything they’d give you would kill you.
I’m just scared
I just think of the worst that could happen
I’m going to bed at 10 and getting hooked up at 9
I’m all hooked up and about to go to bed
Will you talk with me for a little bit
If you’re still up, I’m here.
I survived just with a lot of stickers on my face that hurt
See, there was nothing to worry about!
They said nothing was wrong
That’s great news!
Well doing better now I feel like I want to go to the sleep study again
About to go to bed praying I will wake up in the morning
Doing better do you still think it won’t happen
Doing better still praying I will wake up
Still doing a little better I might go stay with some family members tonight I’m just scared if I leave my house I will die in my sleep there
Doing better
Doing better how about yourself have you been doing good
Hello MyDogMax. I’m sorry for not replying to you. I’ve been in recovery from my wisdom teeth extraction and I’ve been off my phone due to the pain. I’m doing well otherwise. It sounds like you’re doing much better too! How are things?
Good now tonight I just feel like it’s going to be the night I won’t wake up in the morning from
This is the worst night out of this week I’m scared
I think it’s because I’m tired or something
This week, I’ve had a couple of nights like that. There was one night where I kept jolting out of bed, convinced that I was slipping into complete unconsciousness. Honestly I think the only way you’ll ever combat this is if you come to terms with it. Just typing that, I feel hypocritical because I know I haven’t quite come to terms with dying but just accepting it and not constantly thinking about when where why how is going to give you peace. Like I’ve said, I think you’re healthy. I really really do. This isn’t a sign from God as it’s causing you so much fear and that should be reassuring.
Yes people say it’s so rare to die young but I just don’t know how young that is like 10-14 or like my age 18
Remember this: our bodies are made to last a long time. Most of the time, we are aware at a young age if our bodies have some type of issue that’s going to make it not last as long. Of course as we get older, we can develop things but just as you said, most people do live to be older. If this gives you any form of solace, the Bible says, “As for the days of our life, they contain seventy years, Or if due to strength, eighty years, Yet their pride is but labor and sorrow; For soon it is gone and we fly away.” I do believe you are very young being 18. I’m 20 and I consider that very young. Even people in their 40’s are still referred to as “young”.
Oh ok that helped a little bit I read something the other day and it said some girl died in her sleep but it was because of her phone and it was charging and caused her to die In her sleep
Oh yes...but realize these odd stories happen once in a blue moon but they’re overly broadcasted because they are so rare and odd. Unfortunately a lot of children whose lives are taken are taken because of accidents that sometimes arise from their inability to use common sense.
It said the ages 1-35 die of natural causes
But you need to remember these are most likely people whose bodies had problems that weren’t going to allow them to live for long...hence them dying of natural causes whilst being so young.
Is it normal to hear your heart without a stethoscope
Hear it or feel it?
Hear it
What were you gonna tell me
Two most common something
The most common causes of death in people your age are accidents (think along the lines of chemical accidents, car accidents, etc), homicide, suicide, cancer, and heart disease. Now, you can pretty much rule all of these out because as we’ve discussed, you’re a healthy individual. Very rarely do people your age just die, as you’ve told me.
Yes do you believe that
The statistics point to it. That’s not just a random statement my friend. Those are facts so I do believe it.
I think I think too much when I’m tired
You definitely do. It’s normal though. Have you thought about journaling?
Not really
I’m scared if I pray for peace it will be mistaken as like peace for dying
You should try journaling your thoughts. It helps tremendously. Most of the time, I write them as letters to God so I can acknowledge my exact fears and then pray he takes them away. If you’re scared of that, then be specific! God give me peace so that I may have a sweet sleep tonight and that your goodness my dwell over me so that I can wake up tomorrow.
I pray I will wake up more than ever I think I have had worse nights than this
Please be honest with me do you think I will die in my sleep?
You’re going to be ok. I really don’t think you’re going to. You’re healthy. No sleep apnea 😁 just anxiety. Remember this is anxiety. You have got to tell yourself that.
Ok I’m trusting you with everything
You cannot trust me. You have got to trust in God. He alone has your entire future right in the palm of His hands. Who better to trust ?
God
When my anxiety first began this summer and I was terrified of dying constantly, my mom told me this: Lia, sometimes God puts us through things like this so that we can later on help others going through this. So as you sit here and work through your fears remember that you are in the hands of God who has a purpose for your life and plans to help you prosper and give you hope. These fears are only temporary because you will overcome them with God’s help. And when you are victorious over them, you will be able to help others who have the same fear.
Just like your doing I text my mom every night asking her if I will wake up in the morning every night the answer so yes same with my dad
Wow so you really do live alone at 18? That’s mighty impressive. I told my parents I’m living with them until I’m 40
Yes I hope that’s not the problem is living by myself
I don’t think it is. You had these same fears when you were with your family a couple weeks ago.
Yes true
What did u message me I can’t unlock into it
U there
I messaged you a couple of weeks ago...are you talking about that?
No no tonight I was seeing if you were still there
I just had a panic attack and I’m a little freaked out
Sorry haha I’m still here. You’re ok. Remember panic attacks can’t harm you. Breathe through it.
It just caught me off guard
I feel that. I once had a horrible panic attack while playing candy crush. I went into urgent care and the guy told me “it must’ve been an intense game”. It’s ok that it appeared out of nowhere though. That’s how those crazy things are
You there I’m still a little freaked out
I am here. What’s going on
I feel weird like really weird like I feel like he’s telling me tonight is the night you will come home I think I will die in my sleep tonight
2 things:
1. God does not give us a spirit of fear
2. Listen to this video youtu.be/3bl2BSuum2o
That helped I will definitely watch that allt
I love that video I’m still praying to give me a peaceful mind and that I will wake up in the morning
You’ve prayed now don’t worry. Let the fear go. God has got you. As I’ve told you, Jeremiah 29:11
I’m still thinking I will though but then after that video I’m a little better
I honestly don’t know how to let the fear go
I do play games on my phone to get my mind off things I don’t know why I’m so tired when I got 10 hours of sleep
I have do therapy and I go back this Thursday
The only way to let a fear go is to accept it. You will eventually learn to do that. There is such a thing as oversleeping which causes just as much exhaustion as under sleeping. Also, you go to bed so anxious that your brain is probably wanting extra time to have a break. I’m not surprised. Think of your anxiety as running a marathon. Your brain is running a marathon every single night. Wouldn’t you think it’d be tired?
Yes I think earlier just hit me harder than ever I just was like it’s gonna happen for sure tonight but I got over that
Doing a little better
But I still don’t think I will make it through tonight
Like I feel like tonight’s the night I die in my sleep more than ever
U there
I need someone to talk to
I’m here. You’re going to be fine. Watch the video I gave you again.
Yes I did my granddad recently died do you think that has to do anything with this
Like before my gear
Fear
When did he pass? I’m so sorry to hear that.
He died about two years ago and then I had a tutor that also dies a while back December of last year and my fear kicked in about the end of May my granddad died April of last year
Definitely. I would almost guarantee that your fears are from this.
My uncle unexpectedly passed away in March and every single bit of fear that I have of death began then
Ok there’s that phobia thanatophobia
Ya. I think you’re on the verge of having that but remember that’s a phobia, and it’s not life threatening. Also, it’s treated through therapy.
He’s linking that with other things
I just don’t understand how my mom and my dad didn’t get this phobia and my dad was really close to him
I think that as you get older, you just kind of accept things like that. My dad’s eldest brother passed away suddenly a couple of years ago from a blood clotting disorder. My dad has the same disorder and he just continues on with life like nothing is wrong. When we’re so young and have so much ahead of us, it’s so difficult to have that fear because we have this sort of FOMO that we’re going to leave behind this great life we didn’t get to live. At this age we also are still going through brain development and we really don’t have common sense until mid 20’s and even later on for men. So when we see facts about how most people our age don’t die and when we’re confirmed to be healthy, our minds can’t process that the doctors are correct, we’re healthy, and there isn’t anything to worry about.
Ok I think your right
Please be honest I’m probably annoying you with this question do you really think it will happen I’m too scared to trust
I’m not going to answer that question for you because I want you to be able to trust God with this.
And I think you already know what my answer will be based on previous responses.
Like when I hear something I am like will this be the last time I hear this or do this I’m scaree
Ok so now I’m freaking out I was watching this movie and all of the sudden they were talking about dying in sleep oh my gosh I feel like this is a sign from god that it will be tonight
Are you there
Yes. Check your private messages. I think we should bring this conversation over there as were about to be in the 600’s with the amount of replies we’ve been doing to each other.
Oh I have to set up my email and it says it doesn’t work
I do resend email and it doesn’t put it in my inbox
In the messages part of the app?
Yes
Weird
It’s says one more thing verify your email
I say resend email and it sends but u don’t receive it
You should see about getting that set up soon.
Ok
I feel like it is a sign from god that was in the movie
Do you feel like it’s a sign
No I don’t think so. It’s a movie. Had you watched this same movie without such an anxious mind, you would’ve thought nothing of it. God doesn’t give us signs like that often. He made the Bible for a reason. The answers you need will always be in there.