Need some advice!

[Lnd13]

I’ve noticed within the past year I’ve had feelings of worry and extreme nervousness when I went to work. I was a preschool teacher and I made it through my first year okay. My co workers and boss said I was doing a great job, but I did not think so. Fast forward to October 2018, I realized it was anxiety. It would be so bad that I called off work because the thought of going in made my heart pound and I was breathing really heavy.

I left that job in December and work full time for a very flexible, but overall rewarding job. However, the past month I have been getting extremely anxious on Monday morning. Monday’s can be hard, but I feel with this new job there is always a part of me that is thinking “will I make my hours this week?” The unknown seems to always be around in my mind and I can’t handle it.

I don’t want my anxiety to control my life. I try so hard to relax after and before work. I work out every day and I eat healthy.

Does anyone else fee the way I do? I would love some advice. Sorry if this is a long post, and if you’ve read it all, thank you. It makes me sad that I am feeling this way. I am trying to not let it effect my life, but today my feelings won.

I also sometimes get a rash on my neck when I am feeling very anxious. It’s large and red. Now that it’s affecting my body physically, I am getting worried.

[Wizardsmom]

Hi Lnd13! I know exactly what you are talking about. Mondays induce so much anxiety for me and I dont even work! I think it's because the relaxing weekend is over and my husband goes back to work. He works evenings and when he is gone my anxiety takes over. I have heart palpitations and worry that something bad will happen, like someone breaking in. It's so hard to relax enough to sleep.

I have found that when intrusive thoughts creep in I count up to ten and then down to one. Its hard to be anxious when you're counting.

Good luck!

[3wooddriver]

Maybe try breaking it down into smaller, simple steps. Try not to think of it as how you can get through the day or week. Get into work first, and believe in yourself that you'll get through the first period, then the next, then to lunch or recess.

I also like to talk to myself in the 3rd person. Uplift yourself. Say that you've been here before and you'll make it, that it's just anxiety and won't hurt you. Don't get caught up in the negative thoughts. When the slightest negative thought enters your mind, try to get rid of it quickly. Sometimes it can trigger a downward spiral. All easier said than done I know.

I'm not sure if you've tried any meds but maybe they can help.

Also, if you read, check out Hope and Help for your Nerves, and the Worry Cure.

Hang in there! You'll be fine!

[Nebraskaman]

Hey Lnd13 I'm brand new to the group, I can definitely relate to how your feeling as I have been off work for the past 3 weeks due to anxiety and possibly some depression. It makes no sense to me as to why I'm feeling this way because I've been at my job for the past seven years. I'm now afraid to go back which I don't understand why. I know this isn't helping your situation but I at least wanted you to know your not alone. I hope you can find answers!

[Lnd13 in reply to Nebraskaman]

Thanks for responding! I’m hoping tomorrow is a better day. And you can make it through this!

[Blondyjuju]

Hi, u say u get a rash when anxious! Im the same, tho y i get anxious, il never no. I get rash on my neck, my face burns! To the extent its quite painful. My manager picked up on ths, which has made me more anxious, i get it wenever i go drs, dentist, work

[Sallyderek]

Rewind many years ago and that was me. Never realised I had chronic anxiety until I left work after my night shift 5 1/2 years ago and never went back.

I don't know your position in life but if you are able to not work at the moment then I think that's your best option...you need to feel safe and sometimes your home or bed is the best place🙏🏻❤️