Worry about my health and a partner

[alvoltaris]

Hi.

Thank you for listening to me. I hope you all are happy and the anxious status would be improved.

I’m really nervous about this, and I know that I shouldn’t have needed to worry but I can’t stop myself from worrying.

I knew a guy, and I had unprotected sex with him. When I asked him if he was clean, he affirmed that he was clean and he knew I was worried, so he said he maintained his health very well and had health check regularly, so he is so sure he is clean.

He also said he had vasectomy, so I don’t need to worry about being pregnant.

I have never seen him lying about anything before, so I hope that this time he is also honest.

The problem is I kinda trust him, so we had raw sex. But now I can’t stop worrying.

Please help me what I should do.

Thank you

[alvoltaris]

Please help me

[Icanbeathis2016]

It would probably be best to get a check at the clinic or doctor to get some reassurance that you are all free and clear of anything. I do understand that fear. I once was in a situation like that and if you want my honesty I'll say, I probably shouldn't have put myself in that situation just to end up worrying myself. I could have just protected myself better and that would have been the best thing to do. But trust me, I get it, we get around our partners, especially if we're into them and we just forget to practice safety first. We allow ourselves to be vulnerable and open and then boom, that's how we get in a mess. But best thing to do is go get a check up and once or if everything comes back clear, then you can breathe easy and next time protect yourself. 😊 hope this helps.

[alvoltaris in reply to Icanbeathis2016]

Thank you. It’s exactly what I’m thinking. However they said it must be 3 months after exposure to do the test and have a result. So now I’m quite worried, I did ask him again and he always claimed he was healthy. I want to trust him but somehow I can’t. It’s like I have problem in trusting people. I’m really obsessed with the worst scenario and I couldn’t be calm such a big mess right now

[Agora1 in reply to alvoltaris]

alvoltaris, I've never heard where you have to wait 3 months to do a test and have a result. Have you been experiencing any symptoms of sorts? It's not all about trusting

what your partner says but sometimes they may have something that they are immune to and yet be able to pass it on. Of course you are obsessed with worry and that is why you need to see a doctor now for a gynie exam. Most STDs can be treated

fairly quickly with the right medication. If you allow an unknown STD to not be addressed, it can lead into further problems. It will be a big relief off your mind once

you get an "Everything's okay" from your doctor. Good Luck. xx

[alvoltaris in reply to Agora1]

I just had unprotected sex last Saturday and yesterday I went to doctor, then he said even the blood test is negative HIV, then it is not sure that it's correct because the virus takes 3 months for the body to react.

And I haven't had experienced any symptoms.

That guy said he could send me the healthy blood test result, but he hasn't yet. Is there any way I can urge him to send me ? I don't want to think that I don't trust him or offend him somewhat.

[Agora1 in reply to alvoltaris]

I'm sorry alvoltaris, I learned something today in that HIV tests can take up

to 3 months for results. (I did not know that) I am sure that the doctor does realize how anxious you

are in getting the results as soon as possible. But I'd give it a couple more days.

I hope everything does turn out okay for you. xx

[alvoltaris in reply to Agora1]

Thank you Agora, I pray everyday to be okay. My partner is Australian, I also told the partner about my anxiousness, he said he gave blood several times and everything was fine. He kinda understood my worry and said he would take a fresh one when he went back to his home. I am still worried but relieved a bit. I hope he is absolutely clean and I’ve got nothing from him. Swear to God I’d never risked myself like this anymore. Have you ever done something and then couldn’t stop regretting?