Cheating boyfriend , advice truly needed

[masa2333]

Hello everyone. So these past few weeks I worked so much on my mental as well as physical health. It was finally getting to start being better for me.

And then one night - I am not proud of what I did nor would I advise anyone to do this thing , I’m the first person to advocate for honesty and trust in a relationship - But I did take my boyfriend’s phone because my battery died. And then, I found out he cheated on me when we were 4,5 months in a relationship. We are together for almost 2 years now. I don’t know what to do. I cannot even feel angry anymore because so many peiple dissapointed me and stabbed me in the back that I feel « used » to being used .

I just don’t know what to do with this. He acts as I’m a princess and now he is barely going out without me , he is kind, my family loves him, his family loves me... and so on. I am ashamed of my actions (about reading his texts) so I don’t even know what is smart thing to do next...

[Damian]

That sounds a really difficult situation. If you say anything, he'll be angry that you looked at his texts, so you'll end up having a fight about that as well as his cheating.

Of course don't post more than you feel comfortable with, but I was wondering how far he'd gone. Was he just flirting with someone by text or was it a full-blown affair where he was dating someone else without you knowing?

It also doesn't sound as though he's done it for a long time. That might be a reason to ignore it, especially because it was quite early on, and perhaps he didn't feel quite so committed to his relationship with you at that time. On the other hand, it has to be said that men who cheat often do it more than once. There seems to be something in the psychology of some men that makes them do it whenever they feel they can get away with it.

No easy answers but I hope this helps!

[Brumchick]

i generally dont believe in staying once a man cheats BUT because it happened so early i too believe he might not have been as invested at the startas you were or he said he was. If all is well now and he is treating you well with no red flags of any cheating then i think this is his very lucky day. ,He has stuck around and is obviously very invested to stay ,when they arent they leave. i think just this ONCE you could let it go.and just be sure that you dont go through his phone agan without permission. However if he ever cheats again under your now very commited circumstances then you' l know to call it off. all the best for the future