My anxiety is triggering depression in my wife

[AnxietyMan41]

Due to my anxiety my wife is falling into a depression. How can I help her while my own self is not well. I love her so deeply.

[kenster1]

hi have you ever thought about joint therapy.

[AnxietyMan41 in reply to kenster1]

Have not at this time but may need something. So discouraged at the moment. She is my rock.

[kenster1 in reply to AnxietyMan41]

maybe you could bring it up in conversation.if both of you are struggling it will have an impact on your relationship.

[Lvee]

You need reach out to professional therapist they are people who are their to listen and giving a non bias opinion and this will help your wife from having all the responsibility. She needs to hear from you that your making an effort and that you are strong even though it is hard at the moment to say it. You need to believe it and say it.

[Cat33]

Anxiety can be overcome don't ever lose hope At the end of the day it's thoughts that fuel anxiety and they can be changed although when you feel so ill its hard to see that

I'm so sorry that your wife is becoming depressed but there is help out there A therapist will be wonderful for you both

It's so lovely that you care about her so much

Please see your GP he will guide you to the right help

There is light at the end of the tunnel and you both will enjoy life again

[Cristina554]

I haven’t had one in a long time, but this weekend I experienced an Anxiety attack at a movie show. I felt stuck and exposed for whatever reason. I got all the symptoms, but soon I realized it was Anxiety and I had to do my steps of recovery. I learned this by so many episodes, so I hope it helps you; 1. Drink water 2. Yawn 3. Don’t feed the monkey (ignore the feeling by pretending it’s a monkey making you sick) 4. Tell him to fuck off 5. Smile 6. Do Confidence meditation 7. Exercise 8. Focus on positive uplifting music

I hope this helps. I don’t visit this site anymore because I thought I was cured, but I guess it can creep up once in a while. Good luck

[AnxietyMan41 in reply to Cristina554]

Thank you for your reply.

[Cicinoodle]

Because she loves you too, she gets sad to see you like that and sadness equals depression. I had an anxiety attack in a hairdressers chair, so I know how awful it can feel.

Deep slow breathing helps alot, but getting up and moving away from the "monkey" at the monent it begins and maybe splashing your face with cold water helps bring you back to reality, that you are ok. I feel they come on when you are overwhelmed or scared about being stuck in a situation and cannot move. ie the dentist chair

Be sure and openly talk to your wife, LISTEN TO HER, SHOW HER YOU LOVE HER WITH ACTIONS AND NOT JUST WORDS. together you can conquer this stinky monkey.

Best of luck to you and let us know how you are doing.

p.s...You are not alone!

[AnxietyMan41 in reply to Cicinoodle]

Thank you kindly

[kevinloveslen]

Dear @AnxietyMan41,

I am so sorry that you are going through this right now. Anxiety and depression are such difficult things to deal with and they go together. It is so wonderful that you love and care for your wife so much. Are you involved or interested in getting involved in a church? As one who suffers from both anxiety and severe depression, one thing that really has helped me has been to get involved in a church. Another thing that has helped me has been to read the Bible. One of my favorite passages is Psalm 91:1, “He who dwells in the shelter of the Most High, will rest in the shadow of the Almighty.” With free access to any version of the Bible online, there is no time like the present to start reading. I wish you the best and will be praying for you.

May God Bless You,

Kevin

[AnxietyMan41]

Thank you kindly, Kevin. I have been praying and did read a little of the bible. Having faith is a blessing. I have lost it for so long and now finding it again.

Bless you and thank you for your prayers.