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Can't cope with mornings anymore!

Hi Everyone,

I am Wondering if anyone can help me?

I wake up every morning, trembling with fear, sweating, stomach churning. My teeth hurt from clenching and my jaw and shoulders hurt. I wake like this as I am so terrified to get out of bed and face another day of aching and feeling unbalanced and feeling sick. I only have diazepam which are only there for emergencies, but every morning is like an emergency to me, but I don't take them, and I have an antisickness pill which I take when needed. I have had all the tests done including a brain scan which is all clear.

I just do t know what to do, I can't live like this, it's torture, even though I know I am doing it to myself. I was getting better, then one morning, I felt really weird, sick a d dizzy, and now I am worse than ever every day!

I just wanted to ask, if anyone e is going though this how do you cope. And if you've been there, what is the way to get out of this cycle of absolute fear every day.

Thank you xx

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Anxiety is a 24 hour a day exhausting job. Words can not describe how draining this disability is. I understand where you're coming. I struggle myself almost every day.

It's not easy. This is easier said but you need to practice better management tactics to alleviate symptoms. Eat better, exercise, meditation. Try checking this link out. It's helped me somewhat.

unlearninganxiety.com

It's not going to be an easy journey. Stay blessed.

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Thank you and thank you for the link xx

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Go look up anxoety guy on YouTube and go to anxietyexit. Com try to educate yourself... did you ever try a daily medication like zoloft? I got prescribed it but I’m scared to take it ... I think I am going to start soon

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I'm a Ares to take drugs too. I seem to get strange effects from them, maybe I'm too hyper sensitive.

I'll check out the anxiety guy. Thank you xx

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Sorry, you are having these problems. What are you afraid of? Sometimes we imagine things that will never happen. Other times we worry about people who we think are judging us. Then there are those times when we worry about things we can do nothing about. You have one life to live. Try not to please people...some people you never can.

Do things you enjoy and try not to overthink.

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Hi steadfast66,

Just afraid of another day of aching and shaking, feeling faint and sick..., I can't seem to break the cycle as you say that'd what I have to do.

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I’ve woken up like this every single day for the last year. My heart races to extremely high numbers, my face goes numb, my body shakes, my teeth chatter. It’s the worst! But no one can help me. I was on Zoloft for year, come to find out after a swab test my body doesn’t metabolize Zoloft... then Paxil, it made me mean... now they want me to try Viibryd. They say it’s a great medicine. I hope it helps me relax. It’s the worst feeling in the world and a horrible way to start the day.

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Sorry to hear you suffer the same way in the mornings. I think if I could wake one morning ok, then I know I would turn a corner.

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you are anxious, take your diazepam, i've never had a single side effect from it, you can buy it from twitter now,its mainstream, once your anxiety lowers, do something just a little different to shift your focus, very best wishes ciley

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LOL did I read that right? You can buy valium from twitter???

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Can you actually buy diazepam from the internet? Think I'd be a bit afraid

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I recommend you Dr Claire weeks bad I do for everybody. I use to have this awful morning anxiety for 5 years, scared to face another day.listening to her and reading the book helped me very much. For about 2 or 3 weeks I wake up feeling normal which is not actually normal for me. Oh, that makes me so happy. You got lost of advice here, try everything and something might work for you. Fingers crossed.

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Hi Chilout,

Thank you.

It is being scared to face another day of symptoms and misery. I'm sure a day will come when I wake up feeling ok. It's terrible, but it makes me not want to wake up....

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sleep in another room, so when you wake up everything is different.

Something is really bothering you and you need to get to the bottom of what it really is.

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Hi Indigojoe,

It's the fear of feeling sick and faint that's bothering me now. It may have been started by burn out at work, it I have left my job. I am now just stuck in a cycle of physical symptoms now, that scare me to the point I'd physically shaking, I feel out of control sometimes. I've tried everything, from tests, drugs, vitamins, exercise, physio, counselling...I am at my wits end. I think I just have to give in, maybe that's the answer xx

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Yes Dr. Weekes, yes yes absolutely. I have 2 of her videos on my profile along with some other resources that approach anxiety from the same angle. Dr. Weekes has been a Godsend to so many. My advice is to listen to her/read her books and do it many times- until it starts to sink in. Because changing your mind about anxiety takes some time. Check out her book reviews online- her work is a lifesaver. Best wishes to you!

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Hi Calm mama,

Strangely, I came across you last week and actually watched those two videos you have up, and did find them very helpful. I do have Claire's book, so I shall dig it out and read it again . Thank you

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Dont just read it. Live and breathe her advice and keep doing it until it becomes second nature. No half measures either. Accept it all. If you understand that the symptoms are harmless and learn to be ok about not feeling ok, it removes the stress and worry about not feeling ok, allowing your mind and body the chance it has been craving to begin the recovery process. By allowing yourself to think and feel everything and carrying on living your life, regardless of how you feel, normal thoughts and feelings will return without you doing very much, apart from accepting that this is how things are going to be for a little while.

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What Beevee said. You won't wake up one morning and not feel this way as you describe:) It doesn't work that way really. When you truly start to get these concepts, you will next wake up and not care how you feel because you will have lost your fear and obsession with how you are feeling now. Eventually, over time, you will notice one day that you feel pretty good. But you still won't care- because if the feelings/symptoms return, it won't bother you, because you no longer fear them. That's true acceptance. How do you lose the fear of all of this? practice leaning into these feelings. Practice saying things in your mind like, "it's just a little adrenaline- perfectly normal." and then get on with your day. Really understand what Dr. Weekes is saying so that you truly see anxiety for what it is- a big nothing. So much fear over a big nothing. Once you start to lose the fear of how you feel, you are well on your way.... :)

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Absolutely agree. She helped me more than medications. I listen to her every morning while preparing lunch boxes for kids. As someone here mentioned we should get her book from GP instead of antidepressants.

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Which book

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Self Help for your Nerves

Dr Claire Weekes

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I have to respond to this.

I suffered so bad. Listen to me this will pass!!! Think tough skin, you need to think beat the shit out of this world..you live this life till nothing left..you are the best at what you do!..what do you do!

Who cares!! Do it better than the next asshole!!...trust me anxiety comes from letting other mess with you. Be sure of yourself period!!

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Anxiety comes from fear, whether it is a fear of something (e.g flying or heights) or, in the case of those with chronic., inappropriate levels of anxiety, fearing the feelings of fear. It's great to be able to have confidence and be sure of yourself but that is usually the first trait to disappear when in the midst of a panic attack or constant feelings of anxiety. You cant be confident when anxious. Just the same as trying to laugh when you are very upset. And this is key to recovery. Not trying to change how you feel because all you are doing is fighting or suppressing which is the reason people stay stuck in the anxiety cycle. If you feel bad, so what and carry on. Recovery is a by product of living life and taking the anxiety with you.

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Anxiety ia awful, scary debilitating, fear inducing, sweaty, hearty racing. But you're not alone. I went through exactly what you went through, i have ocd and would get panicked at thoughts. You are strong though. Something that truly helped me is the Dare app. Calming, helpful. Or deals with anxiety and fear and worry. Give it a try it's free but it's truly been a huge help, I prayed for help and God brought me to this app. Pacifica is another great app. Helpful full of support and mindfulness meditation. God bless friend, :]

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Thank you all for your words of wisdom and your kindness in responding to me in my plight.

xx

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I can relate. I am having much success with acupuncture, meditation, daily exercise and sleep hypnosis for sleep and anxiety (check out yoga nidra on you tube and find one you like). It really helps! Hope you feel better soon. Meds might also be required.

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I feel the same way! I wake up and go to bed in absolute fear! Idk why but it happens. Try listening to Anxiety Guy on YouTube he makes great Points and can describe our anxiety Perfectly He is awesome! But You’ll be ok it’s torture and a nightmare but your not alone At All! I hate feeling this way but I try to Breathe and Think of positive Thoughts (Even tho it’s absolutely hard to do) But you’ll be Ok!!! Xoxo

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I have shakes in morning after i try to take shower. Then i have to lay down i do breathing exercises sometimes work sometimes dont. It drives me crazy. I saw my therapist today they want me to go intensive outpatient therapy. I cant afford that. So now they changing my meds . if this dont work im done with everything. I cant live like this.

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Hi Hamx,

I understand exactly what you mean, when you say you can't live like this....I hate waking up and that's sad isn't it?I read once that you should get up as soon as you wake up which I try to do, or I end up shaking and that starts my muscle tension, that then starts my stomach churning, I feel sick and unbalanced! That's how quick it all can kick in daft after day....it can't go on forever, I didn't used to be like this. Just have to live one day at a time. I wish you all the best xx

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Ty. So far today no anxiety but feel dizzy sleepy all day. I hope tomorrow will be better. Praying for everyone to get well!

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Do you get dizzy to when your tired

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I was just like you. Every morning I would wake up and start to feel anxiety and cry my eyes out . my husband used to run me a bath and that help . I no it dosent seem like your get better you don't see at your worst time. but believe me I've suffer big time still am suffering but if I look at my myself this time last year I no how much I've improved.

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Hey I went through this too but once I took Zoloft For a month I noticed I started to wake up and feel better x

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Hi Catlover,

Is Zoloft an antidepressant? Does it calm you down?

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Zoloft is an antidepressant. It helped calm me down but took months. You gotta give it time...

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