So I’ve recently quit drinking alcohol, I’ve quit cigarettes and I’m taking driving lessons, but I find it hard to feel proud of myself, it feels like no matter what I do I can’t seem to give myself a break. A voice in my head keeps saying at 37 i should’ve achieved so much more. I hate being like this, I’m always battling the voice in my head, the butterflies in my stomach, the fear.
Does anyone else ever feel like this?
Thanks and I hope everyone is doing well
Yes, me too...
I’m sorry you struggle with this.
You have achieved so much and it’s not easy to do..well done to you !
We can be so hard on ourselves and find it hard to be kind and proud of ourselves it’s true....I often feel I don’t deserve or someone else deserves it more
You do deserve and so do I , we just find it hard to acknowledge..
Best wishes to you xxx
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You're amazing harv_singh 
Giving up 2 difficult habits to break as well as learning how to drive. Makes no difference what age you are at, those are hard to do at any age. It's not about what we should have achieved by a certain age. After all, who sets the standards? Somethings are more difficult to change such as not smoking or drinking.
I'm proud for you. It shows me you are a determined person who achieves what they really want to do. Now it's time to work on your battles with anxiety. I know it's hard dealing with fear and butterflies day in and day out. The voice in your head is nothing but negative thoughts trying to under mind you going forward. We are here to help you work on your self esteem and confidence skills. You have it, it just needs to surface and take over.
Congrats on what you did achieve. Good Luck with the driving lessons. Believe in yourself harv_singh. You've got what it takes to win. x
Thank you agora, I honestly don’t know what I’d do without all of you, thank you so much for your message it means a lot.
These are HUGH accomplishments. You are entitled to feel very, very proud. They are enormous accomplishments at any age.
Yes I know the feeling. I always feel behind. Or like I want a do-over. Like, if I could do it over I'd have majored in (fill in blank) at (blank) college and gotten better grades and then an internship at (blank) and then I would have moved to (blank) and then I would have blah blah blah. One of the things that helps a little is that I visualize myself giving a stranger advice or telling them their mistakes do not define them and that they have so much to be proud of. And when I read your post I felt very proud of you! It's easy to be a person who never made a mistake and never struggled with any real problems in life ever. It's harder, but kinda more noble, to have to overcome stuff in life.
That feeling is very normal and it shouldn't put you down.
I remember i had started Guitar lessons when i was about 16 but quit a few months down the line due to School and College pressure! I only resumed some two years ago and at 35 at times i wish i continued especially when i look at young ones playing songs i can't....
Don't be hard on yourself and bravo on the driving lessons.
Enjoy life.. You can't do it all, but what you can, you can try to enjoy it while you can! You are doing just great mate!
Well first of all I like to say "I'm proud of you",an yes we all have felt self doubt or unsure of ourselves at times,but do give yourself a break you deserve it
Ativan withdrawal 
i feel like such a piece of shit parent
Don't feel like myself anymore.
Fed up of health anxiety 
