Question about my life

[Trees2357]

I have bad anxiety and depression. My husband won't let me drive the car. This has been for a couple months. So yesterday I left my purse at mother in laws. She lives right down the road so I told him I was taking the car because my phone was in it. He said no and I said I'll be right back and he no I'll go. I said I'm 60 years old and you can't tell me what to do. So when I got back he said He's hiding car keys, hiding money, and won't take me to therapy or doctors. I don't know if he was just mad or serious. I don't know what to do. He's mad because I take pills. So I'm always punished.

[RachieW]

I hate to say this but what he is doing classes as mental abuse.. I’ve been through this myself. You’re in a toxic situation and while ever you are in it you’ll be stuck feeling like you are. As you say you can’t be told what to do, you know this situation is not healthy. I understand it’s difficult but he’s not helping you or supporting you. You need encouragement and help what he is giving you is the exact opposite the best help you can give yourself is to take yourself away from him. You’re aware his treatment is unreasonable you shouldn’t be treated this way x

[Trees2357 in reply to RachieW]

Thank you. I know what your saying but it's so hard. I don't want to be alone. But this is not good

[RachieW in reply to Trees2357]

It is hard I understand that believe me but it does get easier and you’re never alone. There are people who will be there and sometimes being on your own is the best thing you can do for yourself. You’d have your life back which will make you feel happier and lift some of the cloud which blights your life it won’t cure you but ask yourself (surely it couldn’t be any worse?) you’d be able to get the help YOU need freely without someone bringing you down for trying to make yourself better x

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Trees have you tried to get him into counseling with you, marriage counseling. Maybe your therapist can recommend someone if they can not do it. You should have a serious talk with your husband. A gentle, loving reminder of the words, in sickness and in health, may help him. Marriage counseling may help both of you, our spouses can cause us such anguish sometimes. Hope it all works out well for the two of you,

[Smd22]

Does your husband think that he is protecting you by not wanting you to drive? Or has he always been controlling? No matter the answer, it is not okay. Do you think that he would consider some counseling?

[lin62-65ze]

Poor you, you say you suffer with depression, I presume you have never done anything erratic to make your husband react the way he does? If you are safe to drive etc is he being over protective! Might I suggest that provided no medical person has told you that you are unfit to drive you just take the car otherwise he will drive you insane, it appears from what you have written that he is home with you. I do understand as my husband almost drives me mad, I have reached a stage where I just go out and leave a note telling him where I have gone. You need some independence and being cooped up with someone all the time is not beneficial. Just because you are on medication does not mean you cannot do things. You need to see your GP no one has the right to stop you. I wish you well with your quest it sounds like you are in a controlling situation to me which is not healthy 😊 xxx

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[Lostjoy]

Hi Trees, has your husband always been controlling? Do you think he could be the reason for your anxiety?