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How much is to much!

So I went from pretty much housebound to getting help and finally making small steps, got a very part time job, doing good, friends are starting a bar pizza place and all the sudden I am thrown into bar manager ok maybe it won't be horrible, but already feeling bit overwelmed, plus we are trying for another baby, which will make the final 4 for me!! I'm glad I'm doing better bit terrified I'm getting in over my head!..... I really don't want to go backwards but I really need the money especially with a possible baby.... to stressed to feel all the stress... blah

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Maybe taking things slow. Start job first then see how it goes. You could also start a less stressful job first and work your way up. I personally think though that just jumping in maybe being busy and focused could help propel you forward. Hope things go well.

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Wellll! Opportunities happen at the least expected times, don't they? It would help if you had been employed as a bar manager previously. But, hopefully, you will be able to have a good planning discussion on your actual "how to do what" requirements of the job. If full time seems too much, perhaps there is another responsible person who would want or share the job, each of you covering just 1/2 of the hours each day/night. Good luck and best wishes!

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I have 5 years bartending but not managing

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OK, great. You should be fine! But maybe sharing the mange's hours can be tucked away in your mind as it could be helpful if you find the stress is "too much". Best wishesxx

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Wow, congratulations ❣I would make sure to let your friends know all your concerns & your plans for a baby.... I'm sure they will be supportive. Cheering you on Hun. Love & hugs

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Hey you!

Yeah I get the "In over my head" thing. I was so high functioning before I became depressed and anxious and I would bite off more than I could chew then beat myself up for not being able to handle it.

I still haven't overcome the self deprecation but at least now I know my limits.

I hope you do well but if it's too much then grant yourself some grace.

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That's great. You inspire me

Good luck with your job, keep reaching for the stars

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