Acceptance

[Justcallme]

I need to first learn how to accept my anxiety that’s the biggest thing for me and then maybe I will be better able to control it.But every single time I get an attack it’s so scary and it makes me start all over again it’s been 12 years and I can’t get use to it bcos I feel like something terrible is going to happen every single time.

[Agora1]

Justcallme, You are absolutely right in that "Acceptance" is the key to alleviating anxiety. BUT...you can't wait until you are in an attack to start controlling it. Acceptance is a frame of mindset that allows you to let go of the fear as fast as you feel it. Practice is important on a daily basis through meditation, relaxation and deep breathing. Giving yourself some "me" time, an escape from stress allows your mind to develop a tolerance for anxiety. It's a work out for the mind. Just as a body builder builds his muscles slowly until he reaches competitive strength then he keeps that momentum going so that he is ready at any time to compete.

The same will be in preparing for the next possible anxiety attack. If we are well prepared, it will come automatically to us in accepting and letting it float past us. Be patient with yourself, set your sights on the goal and move forward. xx

[Janco]

I agree 100% with Agora1

What also helped me was writing down how I felt during the attack "accepting " it, and then sometimes also writing what happened after the attack.

Usually, nothing catastrophic happened and I went on with my life. Slowly I built up more confidence to tell the fear "come on give it your best shot"

What was important for me was to write exactly how I felt during the panic attack, because it always seemed like nothing when it was over.

[Jeff1943]

Agora1 and Janco are right and acceptance is now central to the methods of many therapist self-help authors and practioners. Acceptance all began many years ago when Doctor Claire Weekes wrote he first book 'Self help for your nerves' in th u.k. also published in the u.s. as 'Hope and help fir your nerves'. If you haven't already read it I recommend you should, it's available from Amazon.