Anxious About Relationship

[Cruncher]

Hey all,

I am with the best man I have ever met. I am 19, he is 25. Everything is overall great, but there is one key issue that I am anxious about.

He does not want kids, and I want them. He says he would have them for me, but I am anxious that he will resent me because he looks like he would be dreading having kids. I feel terrible, but I will unfortunately have to end the relationship if I cannot have kids. It has been a dream of mine for a long time, and I will resent him if I never have them.

I hate that this is adding anxiety to our relationship... we have plenty of time to think about it. I am only 19... How do we not overthink/get overly anxious about this yet? My parents just said to relax for now, see where me and him are in a year or two (since I am so young). But he and I are prone to overworrying, and it is too early for that.

Any tips to not get ourselves down the rabbit hole of worrying when we don't have to entirely yet?

[LadyBarb]

Hi Cruncher ~ please don't end what sounds like a wonderful relationship, over something which doesn't matter 'today', 😟

You've a lifetime ahead of you to have kids ... and quite literally, I mean a lifetime (yours) as women are having kids at age 38 and older. ❤️️

Your lovely man has a lovely young girlfriend (that'd be you!) ❤️️~ and while he doesn't want kids right at this moment in time, as men grow older and mature (yes! he's young too!) ~ they tend to want to have a legacy ~ children ~ who can carry on their 'name' and bring joy into their lives. 😊 So, if he feels that way in 10 years time (perhaps even age 30 will be a time for him to reflect on how he feels about kids, as 'milestones' in life tend to bring changes, and trust me, age 30 IS a 'milestone'!), you'd still only be 24! 😊

❤️️ Don't you have things in your life that you want to achieve before you bring a young life into this world? 😊 Don't you have any ambitions? 😊 Get a great job? Save for your own home together? Offer stability for your future child/children? ❤️️

Would you rather lose this lovely man now, when life and circumstances can change so quickly.

You're so young ~ you've a lot of dancing, pleasure and life experiences to add into your life, to give you the ability to raise a child happily and successfully. 😊❤️️

Be kind to yourself ~ and to your future children ❤️️ ~ get some 'life' under your belt before you end up resenting a child who has taken away the years of pleasure you could have had..! 😟

TIPS..? ~

Live in, and for, the "moment". 😊 No projecting into the future. 😊 No over-thinking (you know when you're doing it, so stop..! ) 😊 No sudden moves which may affect your whole life (and lose you the man you love). ❤️️ No manipulation,. ❤️️ No bending your man to your will. ❤️️ Live life as though each day is your last. ❤️️ Enjoy life. 😊 Have fun. 😊 Have and achieve work ambitions. 😊 Have a career you can be proud of. 😊 Get financial security. 😊 Get your own home. 😊 Plan for the future, ❤️️ BUT live in the day! ❤️️

Above all, Blessed Be, ❤️️with Love, Barbara xx