I feel defeated.

[Mexa88]

Hi everyone,

I feel defeated. My anxiety feels like it is finally winning.

I'm a 25 year old health professional (I know right, I should be all over this stuff!) and I've suffered with anxiety for the past 4 years. It's been bad/ hard to control for the last 6 months.

I feel anxious about everything. There's not much that I don't feel anxious about. When I'm at home by myself I feel ok but I know this is no life and this certainly isn't the life I want to live! I want to go out for lunch and dinner with my partner and friends. I want to go to my partners football games and be able to socialise like a normal person. I want to go grocery shopping without being on the verge of panic. I want to run my new business and see more clients than the 2 I am currently managing a day.

Has anyone got any suggestions for chronic generalised anxiety? I am thinking of trying hypnotherapy soon. I am sceptical but I am also desperate. Very very desperate. I have tried counselling before which didn't help much. I had a couple of sessions with a psychologist but these services are not available where I am living now.

I should also add that I have been taking 30mg of mirtazipine at night for the past 3 years.

Any success stories, suggestions, like minded people would be so appreciated. I feel a small amount of courage left but I am unsure how long this will last 😞

[Nicki1984]

Hi sorry to hear you have been struggling. I've been there and never realised how debilitating anxiety could be until I experienced it. I think it's about working out what has caused your general anxiety maybe something from your past and now what your day to day triggers are. Counselling helped me maybe try it again I was lucky to have a good therapist it's important to get the right person. I have also found self help books good DARE by Barry McDonagh and Anxiety Panicking about Panic by Justin Fletcher. I'm now finding meditation classes helpful in supporting my body to relax and breath normally. You'd be surprised at how many of us are breathing wrong and the impact this has on our anxiety x

[Mexa88 in reply to Nicki1984]

Thankyou so much for your reply. It is such a horrible feeling. I think a lot of it stems from my previous relationship breakdown- he left out of the blue and I didn't see it coming. So when I've entered a new relationship I have it in the back of my mind that he too will up and leave without notice. I freaked out when he said he loved me! I don't even know why I freaked as I love him dearly too!

I will definitely look into those books- thanks for your suggestions. Hoping my hypnotherapy works well! x

[Nicki1984 in reply to Mexa88]

Good luck with hypnotherapy would like to try it. Sounds like you need to accept and process your past experiences in order to relax and enjoy the now. Keep going it's trial and error to find what works for you. YouTube has lots of anxiety and meditation vids that I've found helpful x

[NotToday in reply to Nicki1984]

YES to EVERYTHING you said!!

[mz_rachel]

That's actually what I've been listening to. I listen to it when I need someone to tell me that it's gonna be ok. I know exactly what you're going through. We all do. If you wanna check out my posts you're more than welcome to. I'm going through an "obsessing about my breathe" syndrome and it's sucks sooooo bad. You're not alone.........

[Mexa88 in reply to mz_rachel]

Thankyou! I will go and check them out. How often do you do the meditation?

[mz_rachel]

I'm actually listening to him right now! My go-to's honestly is just searching what anxiety is and going from there. What a normal symptom is just so I don't feel weird. I should meditate but I can't hold still and my mind runs a million miles a minute...

[TheHistoricalPresent]

Sorry to go through your posts...but you are on 30mg Mirtazapine and SO WAS I. In regards to your fatigue post... I just found it really interesting the similarities with every darn thing you are describing. If you like, please PM me. I got better, I'm far from perfect but your post brings back memories of a time where I never thought I would be functioning at my current level.

I've done a lot of counselling and workbooks as the first poster mentioned. It's hard but it became amazingly helpful.

And hypnotherapy and meditation are pretty awesome!