I can't take much more of feeling like this 😫

[Danielleapet]

Day 8 of crazy anxiety and panic attacks and mild depression so the doctor said today he's give me ciltlopram 10mg I feel like I'm loosing control and I can't be like this I have 3 sons to look after my youngest been 18mth is there light at the end of off all this 😢😢😢😢😢

[Agora1]

Hi Danielleapet, You have 3 sons, one being a baby. Your mother is ill, you had to quit your job and become a full time stay at home mom. It is a difficult job. Like the commercial on tv, "moms can't call in sick". Sometimes it would be easier to work full time, have dead lines, breaks, lunches, socialization but then leave it all behind and go home at the end of the day.

That luxury is not there for the stay at home mom. (especially who has anxiety) I know you feel afraid to be alone but it's something a lot of mothers feel. Working on your deep breathing once you are in the throws of anxiety is not going to work that well. You need to work around the schedule of your children. Is school involved with the other 2? Does the baby take an afternoon nap? I've said this before that we all need that "me" time in order to energize and refresh our worried minds. In the mornings, don't jump up as soon as the baby wakes up. Plan you day so that you are up, washed and dressed before the children. That few minutes of lost sleep will better prepare you for the day. Make time for practicing relaxation and deep breathing whenever there is quiet time. Doing this will give you the stamina you need when a hectic day or crisis arises. The calming down and breathing will come much easier if you are prepared for it. Life situations can and do become overwhelming at times. Do what you can in dealing with it. Maybe get a high school teen after school who wants to make a couple dollars and will provide you with that help you need in getting out to shop, taking a luxury quiet bath or just meditating. Always remember that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. It's waiting for you.

Let us know what you plan in any given day. Keep on the forum and talk with other stay at home moms. We give each other support in many ways not just with anxiety. Keep strong.

[Danielleapet in reply to Agora1]

Hi Hun thank you so much for taking the time to write all that back to me, you've made loads of sense it's like you can see why I'm like this when I can't yes my other two boys are in high school big age gaps between my first two and my baby so it was a shock to the system to be doing it all over again , my baby does have a nap 10.30am till 11.45 usually but that's it all day but he then goes to bed at 6.45 till 6.30 the next morning so can't complain. I'm currently taking me time Iv had a shower and I'm laid down listening to relaxing sounds of nature and doing breathing exercises. I have been to the doctors today and I asked him I said do you think this is some sort of beak down I'm I going mad ? he said what you have is anxiety and mild depression and has referred me to see a therapist and give me ciltlopram only 10mg Iv also asked my husband to take the rest of the week off work so he has , and I can't wait to see the light at the end of the tunnel hope it's soon my boys depend on me Mainly my baby thank you so much for taking the time to talk to me xxx

[Agora1 in reply to Danielleapet]

Danielle, you are taking the right steps. Good Luck with your medication and therapist. xxx

[Danielleapet in reply to Agora1]

Thank you and thanks for all your advice much appreciated so glad I found you guys to chat to as it really does help 😘 xxx

[Lyns1411]

Have u taken the tablet yet? Xxx

[Danielleapet in reply to Lyns1411]

Iv started today yes 10mg ciltlopram xxx

[Lyns1411]

Is it making u feel bad? I still haven't took my tablets cos I'm a softy. Hope your okay Xxx

[Danielleapet in reply to Lyns1411]

Hun I'm like you I didn't want to take them but thought what harms it going to do if they make me feel better then great xxx

[Lyns1411]

Are u feeling any better yet? Xxx

[Danielleapet in reply to Lyns1411]

Hi Hun Iv been asleep most of the night this anxiety shit really takes it out of you but yeah feel a little better thanks for asking xx

[Lyns1411 in reply to Danielleapet]

No problem Hun. Just wondered how the tablets actually made u feel? Have u felt drowsy on them or anything? I need someone to come pin me down and force me to take my tablets cos I know I really need them as I've went a year of doing this on my own and got no better at all. Sometimes ya just need that extra help off medication xxx

[Danielleapet in reply to Lyns1411]

Tbh I can't say Iv noticed any change only took my first one today and doctor said could take up to two weeks to work 😒 But will let you know .. And a year Hun oh my gosh 😱 I couldn't stand a year of feeling like this no way hope you find it in yourself to just take them xx

[nathan022]

Your not alone iv been through the same they put me on 10mg its not enough iv uped too 20mg amd now slowley on track to recovery it helps alot it might be the case of the medication aint strong enough hope you feel better soon i know how scary it is i feel for you

[Danielleapet in reply to nathan022]

Hi Nathan thanks for replying to me as when your like this you do feel alone but helps to chat to others who know what your feeling I only started my tablets today just one a day 10mg maybe I will need it upping in a few weeks when I go see doctor again x

[nathan022 in reply to Danielleapet]

Yeah best thing todo is keep talking to people tell them how your feeling things get worse before they get better i hope its not too bad in your case but there is light at the end of the tunnel just stay strong

[Danielleapet in reply to nathan022]

Yeah there's always a light at the end of a tunnle just got to find it bloody nightmare when anxiety is looming all the time never had it this bad before mind but I guess I will beat this bitch 👍 Thanks again x

[nathan022 in reply to Danielleapet]

You go girl chin up and be positive x