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Fear is ruining my life

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I fear death, it has became a phobia, a phobia that has also turned into health anxiety, "hypocondria". I've never feared death like I do now, I've never even had Heath anxiety. I mean yes, I have thought about it here and there but, not like now. I am constantly looking things about death up, looking up symptoms, thinking I have a horrible disease or cancer or even an anerysum. I've been to doctors and they tellme I'm fine, it is just anxiety. I just want my old life back. I want to be okay again. This all started after I passed out from being over dehydrated and then I had a severe panic attack, I thought I was having a heart attacks. I wonder is there anyway I can get my old mentality back?

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Charm2012 profile image

Yes you can.. And you are not alone there millions of people who suffer from some type of anxiety or mental disorder.. Therepy helps, spiritual support such as a pastor, exercise and get a hobby..

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Thank you so much! It really means a lot for the support and for the recommendations to help better myself. :)

Geometro profile image

I almost have the same thing but I suffer from general anxiety disorder and I constantly think that I have a disease or cancer too and you are not the only one. I suggest you go to therapy or try exercising and both of those things helps me a lot.

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Thank you so much for the suggestions and I will try them. I am sorry you are going tthrough similar problems as me. And thank you again! I hope all goes well for you!

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I hope everything goes well for you too

Calico1 profile image

Definitely try what the others suggest, but if the fear persists, you may need an anti-anxiety medication. I tried various lifestyle changes myself but didn't make progress until I started on a mild benzo. Dependence is a concern with such drugs, but in the face of debilitating fear, it could be worth looking into. I wish you the best!

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Thank you so much! I will definitely try what others suggest including you, and honestly I will probably have to get on an antidepressant just until I can get better. Thank you again! :)

Wendymary profile image

Anxiety is awful people that don't get it cannot understand it ., it takes over your life ., I felt scared of going out etc ., but I saw the docs he put me on a low dose of sertraline, I stopped alcohol completely & started having magnesium citrate everyday (Google about its benefits) calming mineral ., I feel great now , & do not seem to worry or panic so much I feel free now,, good luck but try the magnesium !

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Omg, thank you so much. I am definitely going to try that. I also drink alcohol and am the type that doesn't know when to stop. That is actually what I am doing now, quitting and trying to find ways to find happiness again. Everyone on here are such help and I am so thankful. Thank you again! & you are right a lot of people don't understand, they just say move on with your life and quit thinking about it , like it's that easy and it isn't.

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To be honest I had a big problem with alcohol, some people just have a bad effect with it , I couldn't stop! I used it to overcome problems but believe me it just adds to them it's a depressant., takes all your vits away! I couldn't just have one like normal people ., so had to go teetotal & I feel like I have been let out of a living hell, I have Mag citrate with warm lemon water everyone morning before food ., please give up the alcohol it's hard at first but now I don't even miss it! It controlled me, I am free now & enjoying being lucky to be here! Take good vits especially b complex ., & eating lots fruit & veg., it works! Hope you feel better soon give it time ! X

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Ohhh I so understand, I am going through the hard times of quitting now. I hate how much power alcohol has over me. Especially when it comes to the weekend I want to party and I realize I can't and being around everyone drinking makes me want one. But, imma stay strong and get through this I want what's best for me and I think what you said is best for me. Thank you!

Colby profile image

I'm going through it right now bro and I'm still in high school

in reply to Colby

Oh no, I hope things get better for you. I know you must be going through so much right now. :(

I know exactly how you feel, I have the same symptoms as you. I had counselling and that was a great help , I also find relaxation music helps I downloaded mine from mood juice on google. I have been like this for the last 5 years and I am now slowly learning how to control things.

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Omgosh it must have been a hard 5 years, I am so sorry you had to go through that. I am gladyou are getting better. I've been thinking about trying therapy actually, I've also been trying to find way to better myself. Y'all are so much help on this support group, I don't feel so much a lone now, because a lot of people don't understand.I will also have to check out the relaxing music. Thank you so much!

cheito profile image

I've been there, trust me. It's all in your mind. I myself have gone through the same issues. I thought I was going to die in my sleep and I was very very fearful of going to sleep and dying in my sleep. So I went to a number of doctors and specialists and nothing was wrong with me, so after realizing it was all in my head I use meditation, you have to control your mind. Mind over body, you would be amazed how your mind can control your body and manipulate your body into having symptoms you don't have...find a quiet place and put on some meditation music in control your mind you will soon see a huge change for you.

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You are completely right, I 100 percent believe you. I've never really tried meditation but, it is definitely something I could try. I've heard about meditation from a lot of people being a great help. And the way you explained what it does for you I definitely will try it out because you are totally right. Thank you!

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cheito in reply to

No problem, if you need help let me know, I've been in your boat

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Sfqueen in reply to cheito

Is there any places that they show you how to meditate I have a hard time doing it

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cheito in reply to Sfqueen

Go on YouTube, type "how to meditate"

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Are you religious?

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Tbh I'm scared of nothingness after death.

Aks00 profile image

Here's what I've been told... You can't sit there and focus on something you have absolutely no control over. Death is going to happen to all of us. You can't sit there day in and day out and think about it. The more negative things you think and think you have, eventually start happening. Don't waste your life being afraid of what you can't control. Go out there and live your life. Don't put yourself in situations to cause accidental death such as speeding, doing drugs, etc.. Live your life to the fullest you can. Make new friends, occupy yourself and your mind with the things you love and soon you will have the peace You desire. It doesn't happen over night but the more you keep that focus on things you love the sooner you will be feeling better.

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You are absolutely right, I am gonna start learning how to live my life the right way again. I ccan't do this forever, I will be miserable. Thank you!

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Aks00 in reply to

I'll be praying for you! Now, get out there and enjoy that beautiful life you were given! 😊

Angep profile image

That is so totally right!! But sometimes fear gets the better of you and we need reminding about what you said in your post. It's so hard to drag yourself up sometimes, especially when your on your own. Thankyou for you post👍

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It definitely does. And thank you!

kate5 profile image

I feel like this too,it's awful. I constantly check for symptoms online and that's probably the worst thing you can do. I still haven't found a way to manage my health anxiety, but I hope it gets better for both of us. Good luck x

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It is such an aweful feeling. &I I hope so too. :(

luckydon profile image

Hi tox I suffer from anxiety its got worse as ive got older I think of death alot but I try and keep myself busy and not dwell on it

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I have also been trying to do the same thing, keep myself busy. I also have been trying to accept things I can't control. I'm so sorry you are going through the same. We are all here to help each other out. Stay strong dear.

Stay_strong85 profile image

I can totally relate.

steadfast66 profile image

Talk with a therapist. Death comes to all. No need to worry about it. You won't die before your time. Concentrate on living. Live healthy: try to eat healthy, think good thoughts, and do good deeds. Try not to worry about what you can't control. Here is a good prayer: "God give me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference." I hope you feel better soon.

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Agora1 in reply to steadfast66

steadfast66 my favorite prayer. I have a plaque on the wall to remind me as well as just purchased a gold band that believe it or not, has the whole prayer written around the band. Great advice. x

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Thank you so much, I've actually been trying to get myself out and about and keep myself busy, meeting new friends. I have to say it has helped a bit. Thank you so much for your suggestions. They are all great.

Stay_strong85 profile image

I have to admit, my biggest fear of all is death. My health anxiety consumes me on certain days, it feels so hopeless sometimes because I look back and remember "The ME" that was strong and brave with none of these issues. Everyday I think about how I want my old mentality back, but I've had to accept me as I am now and that's all that matters now...getting through this and learning bravery and rational thoughts again. We are going through this for a reason...it is pretty hard, I know, but we have to conquer and face our fears. I am beconing a better person through all these struggles, so maybe the fear and worry is simply making me stronger and happier in a weird sense. I know much here is easier said than done, but i really do care and feel like I can get through it just knowing we all have similar struggles. I mean no disrespect for those of you who have different beliefs, but I want to share something that helps ME....when I feel out of control and my anxiety convinces me of all the horrible possibilities that drain me emotionally....I say to myself, "God IS in control." Psalm 23 also helps me a whole bunch...at least through the distress. Again, I mean no disrespect to anyone who has different beliefs. My love truly goes put to you all. Thank you Toxicity33. 🙄

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Thank you Stay_strong85 for your kind words. It is definitely a battle going on in your head that also makes you feel physically iIl. I tried to just finally accept that there is somethings I can't control. I've notice after I drink alcohol and have a hangover the next morning I have the worse anxiety so I've stopped that. I started getting out of the house with friends the otherday and my anxiety was wack I started ffreaking myself out. But then I kept going out having a good time with friends and the more I didn't think about it. It is mostly when I'm alone I think about it and I hate it because it makes me so depressed.

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Stay_strong85 in reply to

I quit drinking and smoking because it was really contributing to worse anxiety and physical ailments. I know one day somehow we will overcome this completely, at least we have to think that way. Making life changes to help lessen our anxieties is a positive thing. Keep going! 😚☺

emmamyrna24 profile image

Toxicity I feel for you. You won't believe it but I have the very same fear. It eventually totally consumes you so please don't feel alone.. Let us try to be there for each other and just lift each other up when we have these fears come on which is almost all the time in my case. I find it such a burden. I think we are going to have to see someone professional who can help us.

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I wwould certainly like that Emma, I too thought about it all the time until a few days ago, I've noticed when I'm not a lone and keep myself busy with friends I don't think about it often. I won't lie when I went to hang out with my friends the first time I had anxiety bad but the next couple other times I felt better and eventually I didn't think about it as much. I'm trying to accept what I can't control. But yes I agree we can be here for each other. I am sothankful for everyone here that has helped. Seriously it mean a whole lot

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But so true what charm says. Find Jesus and let Him fill that huge void in our lives. Also yes keep yourself very busy so that you don't have the time to even think about it.

Oliveira42970 profile image

I'm in the same boat as you every little things makes me think I'm dying hang in there praying we can all over come this

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Thank you so much

Hi I am the same way. For the past few weeks I've thought I have a very rare disease. I was actually at the Er yesterday for it. I had blood work done. They say I'm fine but I don't feel fine. The thing is I actually have the symptoms. Well some. Especially muscle aches. I have been so soar and stiff feeling.

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Oh no, I hate the symptoms that come a long with it making you think there really is something wrong. I am so sorry you are going through it also. I always have to tell my self there's nothing wrong it is my mind playing tricks on me. And I try to keep my mind as busy as possible now. Its so hard.

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Funkyfaerie in reply to

Hi Kgreer,

Just wanted to say you are not alone with your muscle, soreness and stiffness.

I feel bad that way every day, from my neck and shoulders to my low back and my arms and legs. It makes me feel unsteady, nauseated, sometimes shaky....and every day can be different, yesterday I had a headache from hell with it. The best thing I have found is doing relaxation exercises via youtube, it helps, but you have to keep it up. Sometimes I have thought it was too much like hard work, or there must be something really wrong to hurt like this all the time. But I read a lot of the stress websites and they all say the same( muscle aches and pains)

It's horrible and I feel for you but at least you are not alone. I'm sure if we could get together over a cup of tea we could calm each other down a bit....

Take care and when those muscles start acting up bad try the relaxation. I am not over it , just coping.

J x

Scottkom20 profile image

Atleast I am not the only one struggling with this I have stiff muscles and muscle twitching and it has given me such fear of getting ALS

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