Over sharing and obsessing

[sps10]

Recently I've been having a lot of panic attacks and anxiety about having secrets that people have told me. I start to obsess heavily, and it's like I take on what they've done (or told me), as if I myself have done it; and I start to feel severely guilty. I obsess about the secret and worry that I will tell someone I shouldn't, and that everyone will be mad at me. It's like I don't trust myself. It's gotten to the point where I don't want to see my friends because I'm afraid of what I will hear. I never used to be like this. I feel like I'm loosing my mind. Has anyone else come across this? Any tips or advice?

[change2014]

You're taking on too much, I mean like me I try and listen and help everyone with their situation. I try and do what's right, YOU KNOW TREAT OTHERS LIKE YOU WANT TO BE TREATED, I always try and be the strong one, I take on too much. But when you think about it, we bring it on ourselves, you know? We don't mean to bring on these issues but it happens, don't like confrontation we want everybody happy.....buy start thinking about YOU more often, not in a selfish way. But others need to realize what their putting you through, its like they are being a bit selfish and don't even realize it. They don't mean harm, they just need to VENT . Like we all do, its normal.....your a generous person....we sometimes need to JUST SAY NO..

[sps10 in reply to change2014]

Thanks. I think that's exactly what I need to do. I spoke to one of my friends today and she said the same thing. I just don't understand why I'm so heavily affected when people tell me things.

[Lbk64]

It may be time for you to take a step back and politely ask your friends not to tell you things at the moment as you are trying to cope with some stress. It's not unreasonable and actually very necessary to be able to allow your nervous system to start to relax. I used to do this also and it comes from emotional and mental overload. You have to take care of yourself and allow your mind a break from the stress of keeping everyone else's secrets. Saying no to listening to others worries will do you wonders. Good luck.

[sps10 in reply to Lbk64]

Thanks for the advice. I think you're right, and I will take a step back. I just don't want to start avoiding my friends out of fear. I need to speak up, but it makes me feel unsupportive.

[Timsmith]

Tell your friends to hold off onthe secrets. Tell them at this moment in life you have enought to deal with and dont ever carry anyone elses burdens we have enough of our own to deal with

[Timsmith in reply to Timsmith]

Enough lol didnt meant to add the "t" to it lol