Anxiety overthinking

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My anxiety really effects me intimate relationships. I sit up at night overthinking things and make things up in my head and start to believe them. Sometimes there true and sometimes not. Most of them of being insecure of cheating things like that. I tend to accuse my sig other and it turns into a fight. Anyone else have a similar problem?

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Hello

I think when we have anxiety we have very low self esteem so therefore when someone says they love us and want to be with us instantly our guard comes up and we start to question why because all we can see is what we feel our negatives about us and we cannot always see what others do and that is all the good about us because we usually are very nice people and well worth loving

No relationship will ever come with a guarantee no matter who you are or what age you are you can only expect that from an appliance and humans are not appliances but when we love we have to love unconditionally and yes that means putting out our emotions and letting them go something we get so used to guarding just in case we get hurt but without doing so we could miss out on something wonderful so we have to learn to do it unless we want to be on our own which some do prefer

I have always thought like this , you can spend a life time worrying about the what " if's" and they may never happen or you can enjoy what you have now each day and if the " what if's " ever did happen in a relationship and your fear they cheated I would have to look at that as the person I thought I was in love with was not the person I actually thought they were and so therefore what would I have lost

We all or most experience the pain that comes with a broken heart and it hurts I admit but it also heals and we learn through the most hurtful experiences lessons we need as we go through life so sometimes the most painful things we encounter can turn into a positive thing later down the line when we need to draw from our experience

You are not the first one though to fear and have these thoughts but remember they are thoughts , no good as they are making you anxious , you are worth been loved and you don't have a crystal ball so you cannot see into the future so try and let go and don't let anxiety rob you of any happiness no matter how long that may last which could be forever !

Take Care x