Life anxiety.

[Juneyse]

Please help. I've been with my girlfriend for about 3 and and half years. I do love her very much. We both have our issues, but we get on well. My anxiety has been with me since childhood. I get panicky, can't eat, often puke, my brain gives me all sorts of messages etc. It's horrible. My girlfriend would like a baby and I'm completely freaked out! If we do, it would have to be ivf as my sperm count is low and she is 35. The thing is, I keep saying yes and then my anxiety kicks in and I freak out and change my mind. Which is very unfair on her. Just not sure what to do, it's making me very ill, not sleeping, not eating etc etc. Feeling very down and thinking of ending the relationship which I don't really want to do. But she deserves a lot better, and some one with out this silly anxiety problem!! No idea what to do.

[Whizz4]

STOP putting yourself down!!! For a start... Maybe tell her how you feel I'm sure if she wants you both to start a family that must mean she loves you very much , so talking to her would help. But do make sure its really what you both want, and as you say you both have issues? Well you really need a stable solid relationship to be starting a family babies I'm sure you know come with a lot of worry and stress , as someone who deals with panic and anxiety I know to well but my children get me through this they make me stronger and make me deal with his monster so I'd be lost with out them but talking about it and telling her your worries I'm sure she will understand , good luck

[Juneyse in reply to Whizz4]

Thank you for replying. The issues are my anxiety and she suffers from depression. It's not bad, she just gets down. It doesn't stop her working or getting up and looking after herself. She's also very sensitive and gets very down harted quickly. The main problem is me and the stew I get my self in. I'm meant to be going to the clinic with her Thursday, not sure how I'm going to get through it and very worried that come Thursday, I'll be too anxious to even go.

[Whizz4 in reply to Juneyse]

Well while your at the clinic why don't you open up then, the people there are there to listen to any of your worry's about parenting and how it affects people, don't feel scared your not the first to go through this a most certainly won't be the last , just try get it sorted before you start ivf . I really wish you all the luck and I'll look forward hearing you got on and don't worry you will be fine don't be frightened just be honest xx