I came back to post a reply on someone's question and I can't find their post now! But it was a great question and if the original person who asked it sees this please let me know!
His or her question was about replaying stressful conversations in your head over and over to a point things are even more elavated and anxious then they really likely are.
I do this too and it really is a lose lose situation. Stressing yourself out, replaying conversations looking for clues or better replies we could of made during that conversation.
I decided I really really dislike my boss at work. Other workers just laugh behind his back when he takes his hissy fits blaming everyone in site for often his own mistakes. He will tell someone to do something infront of witnesses and then go back later to say he didn't say something. He also embarrasses people by yelling at them infront of others.
It is almost 6am now and I have not even laid down in my bed because a repetitive infomercial of his tyrannical garbage is running threw my brain. I am struggling to make sense of something I can't make sense of. I should of took some anxiety medications 8 hours ago.
My doctor just smiled when I told him my problem and said I have to learn to brush unimportant things off. But added he knew I was a sensitive person. I dislike when my mind goes to a very unfamiliar place wishing something knocks the winds out of my bosses' sails. That kind of negative thinking just drains me. It is not like wishes have any effect on things either way - but he wastes enough of my time without giving him more.
When I was in bad relationships or around my mother my brain would repeat our anxious conversations over and over too. It is a symptom of anxiety for sure. I handled myself excellent at work yesterday during one of his fits. I was rather proud of myself for keeping calm and stating my case without showing anything other than professional conduct when he wrongly accused me of something. But then after I got home I started to remember other times things did not go so smoothly.