Feeling like everyone hates me.

[Rosmi]

I recently lost my group of closest friends about a year ago and I feel like that is what brought on a lot of my anxiety. The group of friends basically fell out with me over me not attending one of their birthday parties because my gran had died but they thought I was spending time with my boyfriend. They wouldn't listen to me and we haven't spoken since. Since then, I feel like relationships with people have gone downhill. I think I have about two friends of which I feel both don't really want to hang out with me. I feel like I'm always making the plans. I have another person I text a lot but can't seem to get her to hang out with me.

I'd like to feel part of a close group of friends. Also recently I got let off from a job because of unfair reasons and I felt like I was getting bullied by one of the employees there. I had to sit down in a room with two employees reading a list of bad traits I had and things that other employees had said about me. That day crushed me. I now have no motivation to do anything because I can't imagine another company would want me.

I'm at college now and having to do group work with three people who are all friends despite the fact they all talk about each other being their backs. I feel like every idea I contribute to the group, they put it down and talk about things without telling me about them. I recently told them that I thought we should go out one night (a big step for me actually asking people to hang out) and they said that they had already organised where to go. I jokingly said "thanks for telling me about it" and they replied with well it wasn't set in stone yet they could all tell each other about the plans.

I don't know if I'm making this seem more than what it is, but I genuinely feel so friendless. It's really draining me, I feel like everyone stares at me when I go outside and I cry a lot about it. I feel like the only friends I have are my boyfriend, my parents and my sister.

Thanks for reading and sorry for blabbing.

[Petita]

Hi Rosmi. Family can be the best of friends through thick and thin, I've learned that in dealing with my anxiety, so be thankful that you have them as many people go at this alone. "Failure is an event, not a person", continue to put yourself out there try new things and those who matter will genuinely appreciate you.

I've recently began to do things outside my comfort zone to meet new people. I realized that if I want change it has to start with me. I've felt the same way at times, that my friends where limited. But, now I see part of that was my fault because I was too afraid to try. Its still a work in progress, but it has helped my anxiety to get out there and try new things.

[mimii]

Hi there sounds like a lot of things have happened recently to knock your confidence and self esteem , so now you're more sensitive to any conflict, for now you could just try and focus on the positive things in your life, sounds like you have a great boyfriend and family, if your friends are worth having they would listen to you and be more understanding, if not then they're no real loss xx

[jandeb007]

Hi, so sorry to hear your last group of friends were so fickle - maybe they need to grow up somewhat and experience life a bit more! As for yourself, you seem to have a great boyfriend and close family - and that counts for a hellover lot. As years go by, you will find that you can count true friends on one hand only - and that is if we are lucky. My own boyfriend can vouch for that, and it is true. My closest friends are now some miles from me, but I know at the end of the day, I only need to pick up the phone and they are there for me. Especially at the moment, as I have some health issues (myself and my immediate family) and need all the support that comes my way. I am emotionally stressed, but still make time for others, and I know I will be repaid tenfold, and just to sometimes have that hug - can mean all the world to me, or a few kind words brightens my day, my life good luck and take care. Jx