A little down trying to be positive

[down1234]

Does any else find it's the littles things that affect you. Xmas just about done. Definitely feeling a little down. A few regrets. No point in worrying about the past though. Not sure if this is the best place to list concerns. So let's be positive somehow, or at least find a distraction

[Hidden]

Hi Down1234 and welcome.

When you have anxiety it only takes a little thing to start you off, don't worry about any regrets what's past is past, try and think positively and stay focused.

Best wishes Kenny xx

[down1234 in reply to Hidden]

thanks, i cannot fix the past. But it still there, and perhaps always will be. The thing is to try and be at peace with it. And count my blessings. There are many positives in my life so I need to think of them, not the failures. And what is a failure anyway? It only inside us that determines that anyway. Perhaps a list of what i small changes would help. I certainly need to positive if i can...

[bonny65 in reply to down1234]

its things that happened when 5 must have a closure ,so i have been told during treatment,that not going to be easy

[Hidden]

Hi

Sometimes I find it is the little things that make my anxiety worse & can surprise myself that I deal with the bigger things better than the smaller ones

I do have to keep reminding myself that as long as I have done as much as I can & tried then I have let go , that is easier said than done I no but otherwise I will send my anxiety through the roof if I don't

I also can find I get a little low after Christmas , I put this down to all the hype over Christmas keeping me distracted & then it's back to reality

Hope it helps to know you are not alone with how you feel but it will pass & you can talk on here & people do understand which really helps

Love

whywhy

xxx

[down1234 in reply to Hidden]

It certainly helps to know I'm not alone. It does feel difficult to talk on here, especially some of the things i think are trivial and some which are not. I try will pluck up courage to talk about the anxieties I have. For example I worry about my daughter being an only child, and because I'm an only child and my partner is an only child that she could have a lonely time of it, with no brother or sister to turn to. A worry that I always have, but not one I seem to be able to do anything about. So i suppose i need to stop worrying about it..

[Hidden in reply to down1234]

Hi down

I totally understand these feelings

I have two daughters & a son , the girls are from my first marriage & my son is from my second one

All 3 of them are close but obviously the girls have more in common as he is a boy & they are girls & I have thought Oh what if one day they don't include him & leave him out

I know these are irrational thoughts as they would never do that but I think if you have an only child or 2 or more these worries are normal & cross every parents mind but when we have anxiety we feel & worry so much more & don't let go very easily

The way I think about it is that it's my job to make sure they are all independent & that way they will never feel lonely

Yourself & hubby found each other & one day your daughter will find the man of her dreams & maybe have her own family & she wont be lonely at all

Also sometimes even when we have siblings as I have one sister it doesn't stop you feeling lonely , my sister hardly has anything to do with me we are not close at all we are like chalk & cheese !

So I wansn't an only child but there are many times I think I might as well have been , but I have my own family & friends & they make all the difference

I am waffling now a bit but I hope you will feel you can talk on here as you will always find someone that has thought or felt the same way as you & no one judges or thinks any worry is silly as it is not if it is a concern to you

xxx

[shadow45]

Hi.. I just came across another interesting book "Kick the Thinking Habit" The main premise is the Brain lies to us... we take everything the brain tells us as truth... when In fact a lot of the stuff that we think about is pure fantasy... Unreal expectations..unreal worries, Stuff the Brain spins into anxiety and panic.. It`s my new Mantra...So now whenever I start to play that same old BS tape I shut it down " Hey that's a bunch of crapola". I say and move on... If I have to do it 20 times a day well so be it.. The brain can be a very determined trickster Don't let it!!!

[down1234 in reply to shadow45]

thanks shadow45 i'll look it up

[Yummimummi]

Hey there... Welcome

I'm so like you, I have a daughter my only child. I do worry about her being lonely but she does surprise me... She is a lot stronger than I was at her age (14).

She has a wise head on her shoulders that sometimes I forget she is a youngster :))

I do worry a lot about little things,but you have to take hold of yourself and put things in perspective . Hope you have a good day xx

[down1234 in reply to Yummimummi]

thanks, your right I do need to put things perspective,

[bonny65]

at the moment i feel that wont be easy,friends invited me to their house christmas,i let my hair down,must have been with my not many good days