It takes time getting over someone.......

Well they say it takes half the time that you have been with someone to get over them, which means I have another 7 months before I feel ok...............

Id started to feel depressed and anxious while I was still going up to see him cos of the circumstances..........namely interfering mother in law, and some things I wasnt happy with about the relationship too............ So initially it was a relief to finish, had a lot of abuse off his family too,,,, but why do I feel such a loss when I know in my heart this is the right thing for me to do...

Fear of being on my own? Fear of change? Lonliness?

They say there are 7 stages of grief after a relationship ends.....

Shock

Denial

Isolation

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

Do does this mean Im at step 6.... depression?? I hope so, so that I can start to feel ok again, Ive forgotton what it feels like to wake up in a morning and feel ok!

Anyway less of my moaning.......

I hope everyone else is ok xx

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I'm feeling a mixture of 1-6 at the mo which is fun. Well I'm guessing if what you've said is true I've got about another 5 months yippeeee lol.

How did your weekend go?

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I didnt really do anything other than meeting an old school friend in the pub yesterday afternoon....got a little drunk and ended up texting stephen and telling him I still love him.... dowhh........ he had text me sat though saying sorry for all times he made me sad!

Anyway heyho........

what about you??

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Went out Friday had an ok night. Still feeling a bit out of place and edgy when I'm in a group. Chilled out Saturday. Ex text me Saturday afternoon which I wasn't expecting after bank holiday Monday. Only asking how I was (which I thought would be obvious) and how to cook something. Was still like being punched in the chest seeing her name pop up. I just said I good told her where to get the recipe and said how's you. Sunday morning was at work so Sunday afternoon I just chilled.

Have you heard from him since you text?

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Do you feel like youre coping better??

He text me back and said I love you too!!

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Not really. Still struggling most days. It's still a fight not to text. I'm still in denial about it being over thinking she will see sense and want me back. Still miss her like crazy and yes I'm still in love with her. So nah not really.

Bet that hasn't helped at all as it?

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Nah not really........ but its my own fault.......

Feel like Ive taken a step back ........

I dont really change the problems just cos we still love each other........ dowhh

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Yeah I know where your coming from I did the same thing the other week. True doesn't change anything, but as you said knowing that is a big step backwards. Why can't things be bloody simple? Lol

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I need to toughen up then I wouldnt get myself into these situations... no one to blame but me..........

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You can't blame yourself for falling in love. I'm quoting a line from a TV show now but it very apt "love makes you do the wacky".

Trust me if I could turn of my feelins I would because as you well know this isn't an enjoyable way to be feeling. I'm just annoying myself now for no being able to move on.

Really sorry your having a tough time. BUT WE WILL GET THROUGH THIS. Not sure if shouting it has made me believe any more lol

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thanks Will, yeah Im annoying myself too...

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Hope you ok xxxxx

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Well apparently I'll be ok in approx 5 months.... lol

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Hey you

Dont beat yourself up about txting him. You cant help how you feel. Can anyone explain or know why you go through the stages of a breakup. I dont think they can. Sometimes i see people who seem to get over a relationship without any emotions and seem to get on with their lives. One day at a time, thats all you can do. Your feelings wont disappear overnight. xx

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Thanks Lou............ I'll be ok tomorrow when Im working!! xx

How you doing?? xx

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I am ok thanks. x