My husband had three children and last year he cut two of them out of his will. Neither of them gave their Dad the time of day and one of them he hadn't seen for 7 years. He turned up at the hospital once and was their 2 seconds and then said he was going to the toilet and never came back - yes it could have been shock. Both of them are adults and quite heavily into the drugs scene.
I have given both of them bits and pieces although I didn't have to and loads of photos. My husband had two ISA's, one he took out when the eldest grandchild was born and the other was for us. We spent ours on our holiday to Cyprus last year which I have only bad memories of because he was ill every day.
Me being me, always trying not to upset people spoke to his ex-wife regarding the ISA as I was toying with the idea of giving the three children something and the grandchildren the rest (there are 7). I spoke to his ex about it and she asked what I wanted to do so I said give it to the grandchildren. Today she has bought up the relevant documents in order for me to open the accounts but has said that one of the boys says its not really fair on the middle one as he has no children! I am a mess now. I know I have done what Tony wanted but why do I always feel so guilty!
The ISA wasn't even mentioned in the will, I've shared it out because I know that is what the money was for but if we'd had to go to the second executor they would have got nothing. I've decided that when I send the documents back that I am going to write a polite note stating that it was my thoughts, not Tony's, that may be the kids should have something. On top of that my eldest step-son has said that it explains the middle son's comment on Facebook - he always loses out because he hasn't got kids.
What do you think? I didn't need this today.