im so lonely

[bagelbagelbagel]

I'm in university and I have never felt so alone and trapped. I don't know if I have anxiety or depression but it definitely feels like it. I just feel like I gave up my previous life for something that is making me poor and the unhappiest I have ever been in my life. I have almost no friends to talk to, and I don't think I could bring myself to open up about this to anyone anyway. I just want to be loved and love others, I did before, but now she is so distant and it hurts to even think about her. I'm slowly starting to lose sanity and I loathe myself. Please help.

[LazyXrayEyes2255]

Rest and have long break and rethink everything. Try to find people that are nice to support you or be your friend. It helps to Journal sometimes when we don't have anyone and we can keep or understand ourselves better. This can also help bring you out as especially Audio Journal will help improve your communication level. Just keep posting and try to stay on your side and not beat yourself over everything. Mental health is important and keep top priority and do better.

[LazyXrayEyes2255 in reply to LazyXrayEyes2255]

Mental health journal on youtube, just google game changer!!

[Mentalhealthmatter]

one thing I’ve done is ask myself why I am uncomfortable in my own company…. If you can process the logic and the emotions behind your loneliness and put it into a different perspective, it’ll help a lot. something that has helped me is to understand that I am not missing out on what other people consider cool. Keep asking yourself what am I really missing? Or am I missing anything? I think it can be uncomfortable to love ourselves because we don’t want others to think that we’re selfish or stuck up. most people in my life have alienated me and tried to point their finger as if there’s something wrong with me. One thing that has also helped me is to repeat to myself that there is nothing wrong with me even if I don’t believe it. our brains start to create neural pathways, and eventually, we start to reason why we might be worthy of being around. Also, it is important to understand that not everybody is going to enjoy the same things that we enjoy and that’s OK. Some people will put others down for what they enjoy because it doesn’t fit their interests. It doesn’t mean that there’s anything wrong with you at all. Sometimes people are mean just for the attention as I am guilty of doing that as well. You are not the problem. keep being yourself. You are doing just fine and don’t get stuck with the opinions of wrong people. I can’t tell you exactly what to tell yourself to make yourself feel safe and accepting of yourself, but I think if you work on your perspective of yourself and others would help a lot. you are not be beneath anyone. you are also worthy of genuine friendship… I sincerely hope that you find a new direction in your career and passions and interests. I understand the feeling of choosing the wrong path as I was a pre med student. I am still figuring out what I do with my life. I think what you’re doing now is only temporary and you may need to do what you need to do to survive. In the meantime I do really hope that you find your gift and your purpose. For right now be easy on yourself. being alone is not an easy thing to deal with. Feel free to chat. 🙏🏻👍🏻

[pablovodro]

you can talk to me I m facing the same friend

[Beepbeeped]

Maybe switch universities? I was at Reading and it was very elitist and I was on a finishing school favourite course - History of Art. I sat next to the Don's daughter. Most students were middle class/upper class and I never fitted in. I applied and got into Salford on a vocational degree - Graphic Design, which I throughly enjoyed as it involved the exercising of far more different skills. As for Salford, being in the north, it was full of working class students like me. I had a great time and lived on the campus in Castle Irwell Hall of Residence. There was a clubhouse and we used to hire a minibus to go to Liverpool once a month. It was the best time of my life. Please don't waste this opportunity to experience the same. Your energy will fail and you'll drop out and not return to higher education, which will be a great shame as you're clearly capable. Please consider switching universities for a friendlier northern one. Sadly, it's hard to turn things around after a bad start that is not your fault - the place doesn't suit you.

[UglyDuckling546]

It's been a long time since I was at university but I remember at first feeling alone too, what helped me is joining societies there will be lots of like minded people that enjoy doing the same things you will make friends and then over time it will get better

[LoveforAll41]

I am so sorry that you are struggling this way bagelbagel. Starting university was where my mental health really went downhill. I still struggle with school. I did make it through a tech school. There are options for you, and changing is not failing. You got this ☮️

[youknow224]

Reach out to me I would love to be your friend if you are comfortable! I am also a college student struggling with loneliness