In need of a Support Network

[robin0507]

I find myself constantly checking for Advice on diffeent AI tools. I think this tells me that I don't have a true/strong support group of friends and family. I am wondering how I can go about building so I can really be surrounded by people that follow my same values and can guide me in the best direction.

I received a job offer back in November and it kind of fell down as the person who extended the offer just left the group last week. I was looking forward to it until I received a call today from the person who replaced him and something about this person's tone or mood just didn't sound right to me. It put me in an overanalytical and down mood.

It could just be my anxiety talking. It could just be my OCD or a panic response. I am looking for the light.

[robin0507]

I am wondering how I can go about building *a support group* so I can really be surrounded by people that follow my same values and can guide me in the best direction.

[optimismrus]

Hey Robin. It sounds like you want to change and begin building a new life. That's step number 1. Find groups that interest you or that you enjoy. Look at a religion or philosophy to follow that shares your values. Friends and community will grow out of these activities more naturally. 🥰

[moxond in reply to optimismrus]

Hi you are in a supportive environment it's OK the feel weary or off set sometimes life cues are off set. we stumble. It's how we get back up and find the finer things that gives us a positive outcome you have being mindful and made the move too self awareness a higher purpose you will find lighter burdens and you're approach self worth can be you're new self belief

[robin0507 in reply to moxond]

Yes! life is throwing curves at all times. I'm hoping I can learn from this

[robin0507 in reply to optimismrus]

yes! thank you I'm open to new beginnings!

[zeezou]

I am in the same boat and honestly, it sucks. I have decided to put myself out there and talk to people. There are some really good ones out there, I just have to figure out how to initiate conversations. Social anxiety is a fucker but I am going to do it. Hopefully, you will also find your people. Best of luck! 🍃

[robin0507 in reply to zeezou]

making friends it's harder as we age but social anxiety gets easier with time because we become "picky" and life always brings us to really good people out there. For me it's just a matter of trust and being mindful so that I can truly see the good in people

[zeezou in reply to robin0507]

You will, have faith. 💞

[SsgCulldelight]

Hmm you do know that AI is an analytical, eval, suggestive program yes? Key sir bring program in this. When it dealing with real people it's best not to show that ur dependant on those tools, besides they are Tools to help you organize evaluate and decide what you can do, not should do, that's yo to u my friend. Groups are here and in abundance to give you feedback, suggestions and guidance in some circumstances, however those are other people's experiences and thoughts that THEY have, and everyone is different though there situations may be similar or sometimes spot on. YOU have control over this bro and you decide what is best based off the facts and theories, drop your Fear and get in there so u can thrive. You can't succeed if you don't fail, they are 2 parts of the same animal which require balance. Let's get to it. Cheers

[Oceanwaves120]

I would feel the same, if the person that hired me was no longer there. Be careful to not let your anxiety take over and make decisions about the replacement before you’ve met him or her. Remember that person is also new and walking into a situation blindly. Stay positive and focus on what you can bring to your new opportunity!!

[robin0507 in reply to Oceanwaves120]

this is a great perspective. thank you so much

[robin0507 in reply to Oceanwaves120]

I want to find that balance so I can stay true to me without letting my anxiety decide!

[robin0507 in reply to Oceanwaves120]

I'm finding that I am possibly triggered because of my last manager and I may just need to challenge it or my instincts are trying to speak the truth by telling me to stay away.

[blimpsgo180]

Well, you have a pretty terrific support network on the message board!

[majones_0608]

I can kind of relate to your post robin0507. I do have my parents but other than that I don't have any friends left. The only other support system I have is my counselor, my psychiatrist, and my social worker who are my paid support system for a mental illness support group I am in. They are paid to care, and I have no idea how much they truly care about me or if it is just that they are paid for it.

Robin0507 I hope and pray you will make friends soon.

[robin0507 in reply to majones_0608]

I'm sure they truly care. Sometimes it's hard for me to see clearly because of my fears, and trust issues yet again each and every person, pet or any living thing around us is there for a reason. We are protected

[majones_0608 in reply to robin0507]

That is very true