Isolated

[Racoon_]

My counselor recommended I join online groups for mental health because I am extremely isolated I'm a mom so my interactions are with my kids or spouse very little interactions with my in laws and have no friends sadly I also don't have family besides my dad and grandma I haven't seen my dad in 3 yrs my grandma in almost 2 yrs so I'm alone I'm new to this um sorry if this isn't right idk what or how to do this

[Beevee]

Hello Raccoon and welcome!

You will find understanding, support guidance and zero judgement from the members of this site.

We've all walked or are currently walking in the same shoes and got the same T-shirts, so to speak 😊

Best wishes

[Littlecook]

Welcome to this friendly site ,we are all here for a reason but I can promise you that you will get any advice possible so don't be afraid to ask .

[Arymretep]

Hi, and welcome, we are all here for one another 👍

[Zaid08 in reply to Arymretep]

How is your night going?

[Icare67]

Hi! I also want to say "Welcome".I am thankful you are following the advice

of your counselor to join an on line group.

I hope you can appreciate this group like the rest of us do! Feel free to share your challenges of being a Mom, cause I m sure there are plenty. We are an understanding group. Courage to you!

[quietmaroon4]

Hello Racoon. Welcome. It's a pleasure to have you here. I struggle with isolation too so please know that you're not alone. Congratulations for taking a healthy step forward in joining this forum.

[gajh]

Hello and Welcome. I am glad you have joined us.

[Dolphin14]

Racoon_

Welcome to the community

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[chronically-online]

hi an welcome hope you find what your looking for here <3

[hypercat54 in reply to chronically-online]

I hope you do too as you only joined today. Unless you have been here before?

[Dolphin14 in reply to chronically-online]

chronically-online

I would like to welcome you to the community as well.

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[casablancalover14]

Welcome to our friendly group. There are many members that have gone through similar situations. A lot of times when I'm feeling really down, and all alone, I turn to my books and music. They have always given me comfort, and get me through some tough times. Please feel free to reach out anytime. 😋🥰

[Racoon_ in reply to casablancalover14]

I love reading and listening to music I've actually listened to music so much all my kids love music if they are upset music helps lol

[linuxusr]

I agree with your counselor's advice. After all, I am here, too! But a big limitation of any online group is that communication is limited to text. TEXT HAS NO EMOTION however hard we try to express it, using emoji's, etc. There is no substitute for being with a person, live, in real life, face to face, talking, and hearing each other, and being able to express feelings. Can it really be that you have no special friend, any female buddy you can hook up with? I think it is very worthwhile to work on finding friends in real life in addition to coming to a forum like this. You can do both in parallel, one does not exclude the other. They are both valuable and serve a purpose but IMHO having a friend, live, in real life, is more powerful and has stronger benefits than texting online with someone who you'll never meet. Now if it's true that you just don't have any friends, well, it's time to think out of the box! Find volunteer work or go to a church or go to some social activity, a club, someplace where there are people. In time, you will make friends, in time you will not be so isolated or lonely. Think of it as a long term project to work on, a step at a time . . . Hope this helps.

[Racoon_ in reply to linuxusr]

I moved to my spouse's town almost 4yrs ago in a small town and I haven't met anyone not even my spouse's friends I just reconnected with a friend from high school who lives an hr and half away last night and he called me so a little bit better but I can't visit him I can't even go see my family the car that everyone uses is only allowed to be driven by my spouse and his parents and we do live in the woods and my spouse does t like bringing me and the kids places unless it's 100% necessary like grocery shopping and doctor appointments or appointments in general since we have wic

[linuxusr in reply to Racoon_]

Well, this is good, a step forward! You just reconnected with a friend from high school. Time to cultivate this "new, old" relationship. Here's one thing I would advise and I apply it to myself. I have a network of support to help me with my psychiatric problems when I'm struggling or really, really suffering. Some can come to my house. Some will do a "live" Zoom meeting. Others I can speak by phone. They all understand and agree that I can communicate with them when I need help. But there is something I have to be mindful of. If I ask for help too much, they might run away! So I have to be careful that I do not abuse this help and go kind of easy--talk about "normal" stuff too, what's going on in their lives, etc.

So I think this is a step forward for you. It's very hard to meet people when people are strangers. Very hard. One way to do it is to do something like volunteer work--for example, helping some organization hand out food to the homeless--or something like that. That way you are around people, can get out of the house a bit, and have the chance to develop friendships, which always takes time. Hope this helps.

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

Welcome to HU community!

Don't worry, you did just fine.

These months can be hard for people who don't have family near by or any for that matter.

Feel free to express yourself with as much as you want. There is no post limit or anything. If you want to vent, go ahead. If you just want some understanding, we can do that too.

You are not alone here.

Sending love and hugs 🫂❤️

[catsrock]

Welcome to the group!

[Cheetahone]

At one point everyone here was just beginning. It’s a great way to find people who understand what you’re going through.

Just saying what you want helps you get it out and helps ease your mind. Sometimes someone will respond and sometimes not. But you can follow your favorites by tapping their name and when the screen opens, tap the “Follow” button. They’ll get an alert and so far no one has answered me that they didn’t want to be followed. It’s a great way to connect to others, that you like.

Over time you’ll probably find yourself replying to others posts and sharing, connecting and helping them.

I’m fairly new myself and as you might see, by replying you help yourself with your own life.

Good job, and may you find peace and happiness.