Blindsided

[pancakesarefine]

Been dealing with PTSD, anxiety and depression for a long time. Turns out that for the whole time, about 17 years, my wife has taken my emotional shutdowns and avoidance of certain situations to be a personal attack on her. Once she told me that, I apologized profusely and made a lot more effort to be as open as I could be. And I thought we were patching things up, but today I get a text that she and our kids are moved into her new apartment, out of no where. (I deleted a paragraph where I speculate on my failings and beat myself up , but that doesn't help right now) I'm feeling pretty destroyed right about now, especially considering the deception and it being the holidays and all. Staying safe, but man, I'm hurt bad. Can't eat, can't sleep.... Just been trying to practice my mindfulness exercises. What helps?

[fauxartist]

Oh man that's a low blow....I am so sorry man..... I hope you have someone to hold onto right now...I know you have everyones support here...but in the real world it's important....

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[CanYouHearMe]

yikes! That is tough.

Unfortunately people who have never felt with depression don’t understand how it affects a person.

To help, I would talk to trusted person, or better yet perhaps a therapist to get you through this extra rough patch!

[catsrock]

Oh no, that's awful. I'm so sorry. Tapping meditations help me. thetappingsolution.com/

[Mindloss]

Thinking of you. So sorry you have to go through this.

[pancakesarefine]

Thank you so much for the replies, it really means a lot! I have a therapist appointment next week. I'm gonna be ok, in time. I have to remember that. Again, thanks for the support!

[CanYouHearMe in reply to pancakesarefine]

Great attitude. You are right, you will be better In Time! ❤️ reach out anytime. I will always listen!

[Midori]

Oh; that's not good. A kick in the teeth when you don't need it at this time of year. She could at least have let you know what she was contemplating.

Try if you can to get together with old friends so you are not totally isolated over the holidays, and I hope you can get access to see your children soon. I would suggest you consult a lawyer about your options.

The fact she has done this without telling you says a lot about her rather than you, and I am assuming you are a vet. with combat stress.

I'm pretty sure you have some strong options. Don't despair, take things one day at a time to work it out.

Cheers, Midori