Is it normal to be bullied at from family members and childhood friends from a really early age ,, or to be sexually abused at the age of 5 by a family member and no one trusted me . and guess what who supposed to be "my father" abandoned us and putting the pressure on me from a young age to provide to my family after him cuz I'm the oldest and the hope to my siblings , is it normal to be the outcast in every clique I thought they were my best friends being judged by them and finding out they all hangout secretly without me , it happens 3 times !! And my boyfriend who said he loves me and will compensate all of this dumped me after he promised me to stay together. I'm that bad for doing nothing to them but loving and supporting them unconditionally!!!!!!!! I was here when they needed me , what did I wrong to deserve this ? I was so innocent I believe in love and justice I loved peace and equality I never bully underestimate or insult someone! I loved good people I believe angels exist and life is beautiful why they all betrayed me ๐
What did I do wrong to deserve all th... - Anxiety and Depre...
What did I do wrong to deserve all this?
you listed quite an unfortunate list of traumatic events cutiepie_ itโs sad to hear, I wouldnโt go as far to say the events are normal but they are not uncommon. also depends on what youโre referring to as a normal. I do know that being molested as a child is usually always by a person close to the victim unfortunately.
consider putting a trigger warning on your post title regarding child sexual abuse. thatโs quite a sensitive topic to just stumble upon for someone thatโs been a victim of the similar heinous crime.
many people, too many, go through these very things and more, theyโve done nothing wrong and neither have you.
Yes it's a terrible act I wish myself and everyone who went through it to become better ๐๐ผ๐๐ผ. I got so many panic attacks after the previous events I couldn't breathe and my heart aches from pain, I wish I was treated the way I deserved or at least the way I treated them all ๐๐๐
Cutie pie_
I'm so sorry for everything you have been through.
You most definitely deserved to be treated in a much different manner than you were. No one has the right to hurt people like you have been hurt.
One thing I did have to learn through therapy was that I can't expect others to treat me the way I treat them. Meaning it sounds like you have your all to these people and unfortunately some people will never treat us that same way. It was hard for me to figure this out. I wanted people to be different but reality is so much different than my expectation.
I hope you know that there are good people out there. You will find them, just continue to work on yourself and different doors will open for you
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What did you do wrong?
You were born, beautiful girl. And a monster preyed on you.
The people who should have supported you didn't.
Not your fault. Not in any way. Do you hear me? NOT YOUR FAULT.
Find a support group in your area. They can be very healing.
Your job now is to heal and take care of yourself first. Like when an airplane is crashing, you put on your own oxygen mask first.
Every time I try to explain that I was a victim of the toxic environment around me I was accused of being dramatic and oversensitive, I felt alone . Thank you so much for your support I appreciate ๐๐ป๐ฅนโค๏ธUnfortunately there's no support group in my area ๐๐ I wish it was I would definitely talk to them ๐๐ป
Don't let that stop your search. I'm sure there are online support groups. I'll see what I can find and get back to you.
Thank youuuu so muuuuch I really appreciate your help ๐ฅน๐ซถ๐ผ but I'm not from the US ๐๐
Cutiepie_
I'm sure we can help you find a hot line if you want to share what country you are from
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Thank you Dolphin. It felt intrusive for me to ask.
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It did for me also. I hesitated but we are only trying to help so I hope it's seen that way. Privacy is important so the poster may not want to share and that's ok too.
I hope you are doing ok.
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Well... the spider that ate Cincinnati just paid a visit. I thought about dressing him up in a Santa outfit, but I worried he'd object. Eeeeeww!
It is VERY common to be let down, abused and abandoned by the people who are supposed to protect us. We are born innocent. Takes a lifetime to begin to love and protect ourselves when no one did it for us when we were young. Protect that wounded scared little kid who still lives inside. Tell that kid they are OKAY and ALWAYS WERE. โค๏ธ