what do I do?

[NolatheNoodle]

im never gonna me loved. there is this guy i like and i feel like he only views me as a object for pleasure. all he has to do is hit me up and i come over snd do what he wants. idk what it is the way he makes me feel is different than anyone else. i trying to be friends with him, so we can get to know each other better but it always ends up getting physical, we just have a attraction to each other but he doesnt currently share my feelings. i try to be stong and when he tells me that a couple weeks ago he stopped talking to me for a bit, and he told me it was because he started dating some one but she dumped him...i wanted to scream, like wtf u gave this stupid girl a chance to be with u. but u wont give me a chance after all that we have been though, it hurt..im still trying not to cry. idk if i should tell him that. or what part of me whats to cut him out of my life, but i did that last year and it was a bad idea cause he tried to kill him self cause he lost me. but no i feel like he doesnt care. when we reconnected after those months apart he told me he loved me and that he missed me, that losing me was the stupidest mistake and that he wanted me to be his GF, and i said no cause he didnt know me i had changed in those passing months. so me and him could get to know each other better and he said yes. but every time we had all we do is have sex. and i feel like it not heading in a relationship direction like i want, idk what to do

[pink83737]

If he's making you upset i would cut him out of your life and especially if he's using you for pleasure that is not okay and is never okay.

[Hidden]

Hi!

It doesn’t work well if one person is doing all the work/giving, as you can see. It kind of sounds like he’s using you for sex...taking advantage of your feelings for him. Don’t you think? That isn’t the type of relationship that I have searched for. It’s obviously bothering you that he doesn’t return what you’re giving him, or hoping to give him. If it were me, I would end the relationship. Find someone who adores you and deserves your love and affection. As for the suicidal behavior on his part...I don’t know, but you can’t stay with him for that reason. I hope it all works out for you!

[GodspropLizzy]

Really NolatheNoodle, you have gotten very good advice but only you can choose and decide in your heart what you feel is best. Find someone who will appreciate you, love you, cherish you and adore you. Life is too short to waste it on the wrong guy. I don't know what path you'll take to do this but you may very well probably know. And just remember, sometimes, many times in fact, it is better to be alone than unhappy - i am living proof of that theory. I hope it works out

[Passionatebutterfly]

I dont believe u shuld leave the guy. Im sorry i dont. We all deserve a chance at love. Even the broken. Just because hes messed up doesnt mean u dont deserve him or shuldnt be with him. He just needs help. We all need help. Sex gets tricky but someone wanting nothing but sex from u doesnt necessarily mean hes using you. He might not of had parents who taught him how to treat a lady or some other reason hes like that with u. If u love and care for him the way u are claiming u do, then u will stand by him thru this. I dont mean constantly give him sex, i mean u will do whatever it takes to help ur relationship. I believe in committment. What im saying is, dont give up. If u want him to be urs but u dont like something that hes doing, change it. Form the relationship how want the relationship to be. U have the power and only u can help him be the man u want him to be. Hes obviously hurting. And he obviously doesnt know how to be in a deep meaninful relationship so teach him. The relationship isnt going good partly because of u. Not saying its ur fault, but its obvious hes weak. And ur weak when ur with him so learn and educate urself on how to be strong snd the dominant one in the relationship. U have to put in the work. Stop giving in to him and stop having so much sex with him. Im not saying dont ever have sex with him. Were human, we all have needs, men and women. I just mean, make him work for it. U might think the sex is great now but it can be even better the more u both have to work for it. And u dont want him getting bored. We gotta keep our men satisfied cus men dont really care about keeping us satisfied and im not saying every man but the majority of men. U might not know it but u have the upper hand in this relationship and its up to u to mold it into something great. Be strong. Pray to God to give u strength and make him work for it.

I hope i didnt overstep my boundaries in what i was saying. Im just speaking from my heart and from experience. Its all up to u.

[fauxartist]

maybe there are some mixed messages here....you go to him when he calls, and always end up having sex....maybe that is the type of relationship he thinks he has with you. It's how it started out and it's what he wants out of it. Trying to change what the other person wants out of a relationship usually does not end well. If you want a different kind of relationship other than sex being the main issue....then you probably will have to have it with a different guy who wants a relationship and not just sex.

[DeepSoul301]

Hello darling!

It is totally up to you on deciding what path to take. We as women and men need to learn and take time for ourselves, because then when we love ourselves more the right person will come into our lives and vibrate and ride the same wave. Most times when guys are being like so, they don't really know what they want, their focus is not our focus, their brokenness is not ours, sometimes we can be with someone and not recognize what were neglecting in our own lives...everything that you desire is seeking you, just be patient and love on yourself and be patient for what you know you so deserve. Namaste with love and light darling!!💫💃