Dont know whether I should to talk to someone about what I'm going through? What if isn't the right person??

[Dreamer468]

Everyone,

I've been going through a bad bad phase for a while. I've became fat, lazy and can't focus on any studies or work. I've been eating alot than usual, I dont even know how much I wanna eat. I've feeling ashamed of it because i feel like I'm the one who eat large quantity in family. I cant get rid of that feeling which also depresses me even more.

Other thing is that, I cant even talk to someone about what I'm going through. Even if talk to someone, I'm not sure he will understand it because may be he isn't the right person. In my class, some girl like me and I dont know and my friends are the ones who knows all about. I'll be hearing from them about her soon. I'm worried how she is gonna react when she knows about my problems? What if I'm not what she expected to be? Even everything works out, how am I supposed to share these problems with her?

My family sucks because they don't a shit about what I'm going through. They just say it's a phase or stop acting so lazy....my minds getting darker......

[Laurennnnnnn]

I’m so sorry that your family isn’t supportive or understanding of your feelings 💙

If the girl is right for you, she’ll do what she can to understand and help you out. When I met my boyfriend I was so worried about it because he’s never had or been around depression or anxiety. But he took it upon himself to research it all to help me out. The right friends and significant others will do that for you. And if the can’t handle your problems, then bye lol there will be someone who can (even though I know it can feel impossible).

Also, have you considered talking to a therapist? I know it’s a scary leap (I put it off forever lol) but it’s been a lifesaver for me

[Dreamer468 in reply to Laurennnnnnn]

Yeah I've a therapist. But lacking someone to talk is making me pretty bad

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Hi you sound depressed having a girlfriend will help you feel less lonely as you don't get support from family and feel loved by them, you should speak to doctor and counelling really helps it helped me they help us to see things differently which we can't when we're feeling bad about ourselves and anxious and depressed, you won't turn to food for comfort when you have a girlfriend or if you get the support from a councellor, I binge drink when I'm unhappy or binge eat when not drinking j wish you well x

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What laurenlyn said is very true

[Dreamer468 in reply to Hidden]

Curly_1, thanks for the reply. I'm going through a bad phase for a long time. My parents love me very much and cares about me. The problem is they dont understand what I'm going through because according to my knowledge both of them never had long term depression. They had some family problems and fights other than that I dont know they have any problems. Plus, they are extroverts and active. So, I cant blame them for not understanding because they are helpless. This girlfriend thing is just a probablity, I'm not sure about that. Hope it will give me some positive response. I'm figuring out problems and solutions. Plus I can't control myself...... eating problems, emotional ups and downs......

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Hi I understand about extrovert people they just get out there and get on with it they can lack sensitivity I was very shy when younger but gradually I gained confidence I am 56 now I suffered bouts of depression on off I found it helpful talking to a councellor,it would be good if you had some friends your age to talk to what is causing your depression, it could be chemical in your brain if so a doctor will give you something my friends husband was very confident but depression hit him some problem at work triggered it he couldn't work he became withdrawn wouldn't laugh it helped him he back at work now, I found Buddhist meditation classes helped or if you can find groups with people similar to you but the virus has stopped a lot of things is your therapist helping at all you could get Paul mackenna hypnosis cd he has confidence one to build self esteem I'm going to try get back to sleep I not been sleeping well take care x

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I feel also if you can foccus on exercising this is a great mood lifter I know it's hard to motivate but think of how good you will feel if you lost weight and the exercise will lift your mood do it for this reason just start by going for a brisk walk prefarbly in nature, I used to like swimming it really helped me do you know anyone with a dog that's really good gets you out and it's fun been with a dog