Hello

[Gypsy1980]

I joined because I am recently unexpectedly taking care of my terminally ill dad. With whom I’m very close too . My siblings don’t help much and it’s extremely stressful. I took 3 months off of work and now I’m worried to go back and leave him alone although he can be .

My boyfriend/friend and I are having difficulties at the moment . One cuz he has commitment issues . Two my situation makes me more stressed and I take things out on him and we argue . I need advice .. I feel like my world is falling apart and I have no one to talk too

[VirgoChild74]

Hello I just wanted to say that I understand what you're going through I had to do the same with my mother with no help from siblings also al I can it does and will get better you're not alone

[Gypsy1980 in reply to VirgoChild74]

When does it get better ? He is dying . It’s hard I’m watching him die while taking care of him . Although I wouldn’t change it for the world cuz I have “ extra” memories with him that I never would have got . But mentally and physically it’s taking a hard toll on me

[CLB1125 in reply to Gypsy1980]

I don’t know where you are located but here we have hospise. It’s a group of people who can help you and your dad. They let you have time to get away for a little while. They help you and him prepare for what’s to come. Im sorry to hear your dad is dying. I will tell you from experience having this time with him and taking care of him will give you a lasting closeness even after he is gone.

[JadeNguyen in reply to Gypsy1980]

So sorry to hear that but please take care of yourself too. You are not alone, I totally could relate to your feeling because I’m taking care of my mother who is 81 with several health issues. I left my office job for more than 2 years and now I find it’s hard to come back because I could not leave my mother alone at home. I’m afraid I would regret if something happened to her. Like you, I feel the death coming closer and closer to my mother every day. That feeling is really difficult for me.

[Arymretep]

Hi , it’s an extremely stressful time, I cared for my Mum 24/7 when she had vascular dementia , without much help and it affected my health in the end , but I too was very close to my Mum so I would t have done anything else, im so glad that I was there for her.

Have you talked to your boyfriend about what you are going through, is he a support to you ? You’ll get through this but you have to take care of yourself too.