looking for support-move coming up

[Daisy425]

I’ve pretty much packed most of my apartment except for some kitchen stuff and stuff in my closet. I move Tuesday. My stepmom is coming tomorrow to help finish packing and to start cleaning the place. I’m having a lot of anxiety about moving out. I think I’m mostly sad because this was my space for so long. I’ll miss it. I’m also a little nervous about moving in with my boyfriend. I tried talking to him about how he feels because part of me feels like I pressure him into it. He said he isn’t nervous and that he “didn’t care either way”. Which makes me feel like he didn’t want to live with me.

I’m so exhausted from packing. There’s more I could work on today but my dad told me I should just take the day to rest. This also may be TMI but I keep having to go to the bathroom. I feel weak and exhausted. I have been eating. I’m drinking some Gatorade right now too.

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

It's only natural to be nervous moving into new digs after being in your old place for so long. This is a new chapter of your life you are starting. Nervous and Excited are the same coin just opposite side. Sure, you'll miss it but after you are moved it. It won't matter that much to you.

Your boyfriend could have been a little better at answering that question. But I think he was trying to say is that he would have been fine if you wanted to keep the old living arrangement. He has his place and you have yours. Because at the end of the day, your his girlfriend. He isn't going to miss his place because well it's not a big deal to some people. It's an apartment, I'm only going to be here for certain time until I can do better deal. People tend to not be too attached to there apartments. Now houses that's different. People get attached to houses. Because of all the memories that can be created in a house.

Now as for the peeing...More than likely anxiety. I pee a lot when I'm anxious. It could also be a UTI but there could be some signs like burning pee, smelly , cloudy. The feeling unwell could be from running your dagger. So listen to your dad. Take a breather, relax, grab yourself a nap. You'll be okay. But if symptoms do get worsen go to your doctor.

Wishing you peace and love 🫂 ❤️

[Daisy425 in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

Thank you so much. I’m feeling a bit better today

[CL3V3R-G1RL in reply to Daisy425]

I'm glad to hear it 😄 🫂❤️

[Daisy425 in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

But now I’m starting to feel anxious again and my belly hurys

[CL3V3R-G1RL in reply to Daisy425]

Aww I'm sorry about that. Anxiety tummy cramps suck. I get those too. Just remember that these uncomfortable sensations will pass. Just sit with it and tell anxiety "I know you are here. You can settle down with the theatrics. Let's talk this out and explain to yourself that moving is a bit tiring but it'll be better once we are settled in. You'll get to be with the man you love everyday. We should be proud that we are making progress. Look at what we did! We went on a cruise ship! Now we are moving to a new place. The skies the limit! "

[mizzou7016]

new chapter for you....it's natural to have a little bit of anxiety when you are dealing with something new...I am struggling with a lot of emotions about my current chapter and the next chapter....I just went through some of the same stuff with my gf. ...you'll be fine....what you're feeling is NORMAL....but I agree that sometimes we just need to hit the brake pedal and slow down......you've got this

[Daisy425 in reply to mizzou7016]

Thank you so much. I took today to just relax and rest and it was so so needed

[mizzou7016 in reply to Daisy425]

I am working on that........hard to relax and rest when you have 1000 different things going through your brain......hoping to take the time to do some artwork in the next few days....

[bethelbee in reply to Daisy425]

Glad you took some time to relax and rest!! You have a lot going on. The physical symptoms are most likely just from all the stress you're going through. After the move is over and you're settled in try to take more time to relax and nurture yourself. Best wishes with this new chapter in your life with your boyfriend!

[Cookie2217]

Hi Daisy. I'm glad things have begun to settle down for you and you're not feeling as nervous as you were the other day. Just so you know moving is one of the top five most stressful things you can do in your life so it's totally normal to feel so anxiety with this next chapter. But have no fear because once you're in to your new home have some fun decorating your new place and take it slow day by day you'll get used to it soon enough. This is the next big thing to happen between you and your boyfriend and I think that you're very wise in living together before marriage because you will definitely know one way or the other if he is definitely the one which I hope he is for you. Decorate together that might be a fun thing to do if he's into that he could nail the nails into the wall and you could hang the pictures. Good luck with everything and wishing you peace and well-being.