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[Kimmy14263]

My best friend died recently. I feel like I am trapped somewhere, like I am not on the same plane of existence as the people around me. Which is very few, I am alone most of the time and I have zero interest in meeting new people or talking to the ones I know. I think that's weird because here I am posting to a support group and looking for someone to talk to. I guess I'm hoping talking online will feel less dreadful, or like I am replacing my friend who died.

[Shnookie]

My condolences on the loss of your best friend. You are so young in your life for this to happen. You are very brave to reach out here. U R going thru the grieving process. We are an accepting and supportive group here. Think of this place as going to a bereavement group. You can express the various emotions and feelings that U R having about your beloved friend. I’m here 4 U

Hugs 🤗 S

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

You don't have to worry about "replacing" your friend you lost. That will never happen. Because your friend will always have a place in your heart. You will take your friend everywhere.

It is natural for you to be in this state. Grief is a funny thing. Its not a one size fits all. Some people when they grieve want attention from others and some just want to process this on their own. There's no wrong way to grieve.

Right now you are in this grey area kind of like limbo. Just stuck in this fog.

It's really brave of you to reach out for help. That's what we are here for. To help lift each other when we are down and out.

My condolences to you.

Sending you love and hugs 🫂❤️

[Kimmy14263 in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

Thank you, this makes me feel a little better.

[Midori in reply to Kimmy14263]

Hi Kimmi; First, welcome to our friendly community. Grief is a terrible thing, it takes it's own sweet time, and it can't be hurried. It takes as long as it takes.

Some people only grieve for a short time, and some for the rest of their lives, Queen Victoria for instance. Your friend will always be with you, in your heart. You may experience dreams of them.

As time passes, you will find the pain being gently blunted, and eventually you will begin to look forward to life again. In the meantime don't hold back the tears, they are healing. Don't be afraid of them. Don't suppress them.

Don't let anyone tell you to 'Get over it' ; That is the cruellist thing anyone can say to a grieving person, and deserves a smack in the teeth (I didn't just say that!).

I've experienced the loss of many of my family and friends over the 76 years I have lived. I am sorry for your loss, but I hope I can help a little.

Cheers, Midori

[Dolphin14]

Kimmy14263

I'm very sorry for your loss.

It's quite possible you are still grieving and all these things you ate going through are normal. You did mention it is a recent death.

We do have a bereavement site here on HU. Perhaps joining that site in addition would be helpful

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[kenster1 in reply to Dolphin14]

bereavement care and share it is... so sorry to hear of your friend Kimmy hopefully being here can be of some comfort and make you feel less lonely.

[Cheetahone]

Way to go on reaching out to friends online. I, like the others, am here for you. It may sound contrived, but your dear young best friend would want you to reach out while even smiling at the favorite memories of your friend. It will take time, but it will also improve as you realize how important, meaningful and lucky you were to have known and loved her/him. Enjoy your life and time as you know, we don’t know how much time we have to experience the great joys of life. Remember to let your emotions flow as they come up, and know your friends will help the best they can. Take care and know that you were and are loved as well.