my boyfriend of 5 years lies about things. He talked me into a lease with him
And everything he told me was a lie. I think he is cheating also. I have ten months on the lease so saving money and hoping I can make it through the depression and stress of this whole situation
You must feel betrayed by your partner. It sounds like you have a plan to take care of yourself in the future, and let him go. Good job. Stay strong. 🥰
I do and plans are the only thing keeping me going
I feel for you and know how you feel. I had a thought that my husband was cheating and found out after he died not only did he cheat, but had 3 kids with 3 different women. Be strong and follow your instincts, you're doing the right thing by planning for yourself.
Thank you. It’s so frustrating feeling that I am lied to but ignoring it for now since I cannot change my living situation right now
Very sorry about your situation. That had to be tough on you too
Thanks, I thought my world was ending at the time, but it just made me stronger, except for the damn anxiety.
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I'm sorry you are going through this.
You have been together 5 years. Is this all new behavior for him?
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It was all I found out recently. But thinking back I think he was cheating before and I didn’t realize it
Your eyes are open now. I hope you can find a way through this, you don't want your life ruined by his behaviors.
I don't know about breaking your lease. Have you inquired?
I am saving up money and then I will inquire on that also.
it’s hard to not let behaviors effect me I know
very true, we take everything to heart, always overthink that we are the ones in the wrong.
Apologizing constantly is draining, try and take a look at what transpired I bet you will see that it is not all your doing.
Yes I do apologize for everything and I know it’s not my fault either these behaviors. I am faulted in listening and expecting people to change based on words but not actions
Whose name is on the lease? If it is joint it could be a problem, but if it is just you, and you can afford to, Boot him out! Get another housemate temporarily.
Cheers, Midori
There is also sub letting if it's allowed on the lease. I'm not sure how willing he would be to have a roommate.
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He wouldn’t and could afford on his own but he wouldn’t want to so that’s what I cannot just leave either. It’s a all around sucky situation
I figured he wouldn't do that but just thought I would throw it out there.
I hope you are safe, that's the main thing
Yes, her safety is definitely the most important!
Yes safe. It’s just toxic for me is all
Glad to hear you're safe. Sorry it's so toxic..Hope you can make it through the next several months while you save enough to move out. Try to spend as little time with him as possible. That's what I did before my ex finally moved out several years ago..
Yes that’s what I need to try and do. It’s tough sometimes
I'm sure it is. I used to go to a park and write in my journal when I wasn't working. One of my happiest days was the day of my divorce. I went to a friend's and we celebrated with champagne 🍾 🥂 and chocolate 🍫.Take care and sending hugs.
Thank you. Yes that’s a good idea to get outside. I quit drinking but definitely up for chocolate
That's a problem, it makes it more difficult. Sorry I haven't any more clues.
Cheers, Midori
Yes it’s tough. I’m just trying to focus on it’s temporary and saving up money for then.
So sorry you are experiencing this! But you are wiser now and have a good plan in place. I once was in a similar situation and a good friend helped me understand that there are 2 sides to this game. I could start getting stronger by claiming better boundaries and behaviour from “him” while I was waiting out my time and building up my resources . Of course he couldn’t get there but I felt stronger when I could call him out while keeping myself calm and secure in my future. It wasn’t pleasant for him anymore and he was astonished by my strength when he realized I wasn’t going to be a participant in his charade. He tried many tactics but none would work as I used the anger to stay true to myself. Anger can be therapeutic sometimes. In the end I was able to leave feeling stronger and healthier and had my savings to start a new. Keep the faith in your convictions, you are worth it.
Thank you. This helped hearing this.
I'm so sorry. I'm glad you will get away from him in ten months. You deserve better.
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