Struggling managing my mental health and caring for Mom

[Finchie2]

Today was my first time I just threw up my hands trying to care for Mom whose 84 with severe dementia. I almost yelled at her. I'm upset with myself. I just went in for an echocardiogram to find a heart valve that may need replacement. I am heading into very high housing costs, and I'm unhappy about some stuff. But I really felt guilty when I told my Mom I couldn't help at one point because something else was pressing me. I had to go to an appt. She wanted me to skip this to bring her to the bathroom right as I just sat down to wait. The bathroom was far away. She applied pressure. So I list my place in line to escort her to a bathroom, then she sits down somewhere and said she didn't really need to go that bad. Luckily when I walked back, all the way back, to the waiting room, the volunteers let me still make my appt. and offered to watch my Mom while I was in there. I will never bring my Mom to this place again. She will for now on need to wear depends if we go out.

[Finchie2]

Thank you

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As a retired nurse, I understand how difficult it can be to care for a patient with dementia. It is much harder when the person with dementia is your mom. What you are doing is a beautiful act of love. You deserve to be commended.

[catsrock]

That sounds really hard - I'm sorry. Caretaking is an exhausting job.

[casablancalover14]

I am sorry to hear about your Mom and the whole situation. It is very hard at times to deal with this crazy disease, because we know it's not your mom's fault that she has this. Please just take a deep breath and try to help her the best you can. I am here to listen any time.