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We often hear of Christian values and i am fortunate to call my friend Neil a true Christian, in the years I have known him I have never heard him say one bad word about anyone, he doesn't gossip ever. He does so many good works quietly without fanfare expecting no thanks, in fact he shuns any thanks from numerous people for the help he gives them. I remember quite recently his unwavering kindness to two brothers who have serious mental health issues, his support to them is extraordinary and their parents are so grateful, especially as Neil is aware of their total commitment which would test the most able. I know of many similar acts of kindness which Neil does without reward, although his reward is knowing he is doing good for mankind. Almost every day he is traveling here and there helping and cajoling people who are lost in dealing with various problems. I would find it totally exhausting but he soldiers on with no regard for his own wellbeing.

I can write this because he is not on social media or on any forum he is a true Christian and a Gentleman, which is very rare in this world of turmoil, jealousy and spite. If you have one friend with these values, hold them close. for they don't come around too often.

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Agora1 profile image
Agora1

How true that is secrets22...to find someone like that as a friend.

It wasn't until I found this lovely older lady in my life did I learn the joys of life

and what kindness was. Never did she utter a word about someone else

that wasn't positive...Never.

It's nice to be around people like that. She's gone now but she lives in my heart

and I am ever so grateful for having met her. :) xx

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secrets22โ€ข in reply toAgora1

And you to are blessed to have known such a beautiful friend,๐Ÿ˜‡

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Turnipgirl

Back when I was in my 20s I worked in catering and one of the supervisors there told me I am an excellent friend after she had told me lots of private things and how she had never heard any of those things be repeated!

The supervisor had been of great comfort to me after I was devastated after they had given the cooks job I had wanted to someone else which had filled me up with spite and ill will as the way that was done was unkind and unfair and there was no need for it!

With myself I can swear on a stack of bibles when ill will came round after I never got that job it wasn't something I sat down and planned to do in deliberate malice like when I sit down and plan to go out to things like to the outdoor cinema in Newport yesterday which was a laugh when a 2 year old stole some sweets off my friend and his mummy told him off and took the stolen sweets off him and apologised for the theft!

Today it has been a day in eating loads of veg and having a root veg fish pie for Sunday lunch for a change with white turnips and carrots and cheese sauce from the cupboard which was delicious and dinner was a mushroom stir fry with store cupboard noodles and saved me ยฃ20 not going to have roast dinner out today!

How are you and the dogs getting on?

Baby is great and enjoyed her fish pie!

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secrets22โ€ข in reply toTurnipgirl

hey my friend, you are a lovely lady with principles'๐Ÿ˜‡๐Ÿˆโ€โฌ›x

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Turnipgirlโ€ข in reply tosecrets22

Had a lovely relaxing lie in as planned this morning and yesterday morning until 10am and feel lots better for it!

The rest of the week will be early starts so I wasn't missing out on anything by lying in until 10am this morning!

It's an interview in Newport Friday coming at 11am at a pharmacy near the Belle Vue park so I am going to turn it into a day out rather than coming straight back home!

Tomorrow its swimming at 10am and the job centre at 3pm on video and Wednesday it's a 9am interview down the hill which I don't mind doing as with 9am once you are done its over for the day!

One of my friends says they hate lunchtime interviews as they think the people who organise those between 12 and 2 are plain old selfish with no consideration for others who might want a break between those times so I said you could always do lunch at 11 or wait until 2 to fit them in!

I'm used to early or late lunches with working in catering and the pharmacy and would ask for the 2/3 break at the pharmacy when they could fit me in as it finished at 5 so a nice short afternoon and 11/12 and 2/3 aren't busy like 12/2 is!

If meetings between 12/2 have been prearranged in advance then fair enough I will do them but what annoys me is when you have just sat down to break after doing all your commitments and the phone goes and someone wants to do an interview there and then and once I was so infuriated when this happened I slammed the phone down on them as I felt it wasn't fair having my private time impinged on!

Thing is why should I miss out?

bless Neil. and Roddy.

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secrets22โ€ข in reply tolitethatnevergoesout

And may blessings flow to you my friend,๐Ÿฅฐ

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Shnookie

Iโ€™m so happy that you have a friend like Neil. However I am Jewish and have what I follow as my Jewish values of how to treat my fellow human beings and be a good citizen in the world in general. There R people on HU from many different backgrounds and religions and non-believers who are kind and compassionate human beings. Tolerance is very important in todayโ€™s world.

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secrets22โ€ข in reply toShnookie

Like you i respect other faiths and beliefs, to be compassionate is a joy indeed. ๐Ÿ˜

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Shnookieโ€ข in reply tosecrets22

yes to be compassionate is a joy and it is practiced by believers and non-believers as well.

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Arymretepโ€ข in reply toShnookie

To each his own ๐Ÿ™

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Sugaree

he is a good friend, his values and the way he lives can be a great influence on you. I am practicing Catholic and I find I gravitate towards older women in my church, they seem to have a peace about them which I find very comforting. They pray for me and my kids as I do theirs. I learned alot about Godโ€™s love for me and that is the same for you. I hang onto any peaceful thoughts like gold because my usual way is to be anxious and worried. Religion is not such a bad thing but may not always be what others believe.

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gettingsomewhere

What a wonderful friend secrets! So glad you have him in your life - sounds a real gem.

I have met people like this very occasionally.

Being religious makes no difference. Its kindness that counts!

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