I feel really bad

[sad_watermelon]

The realisation just hit me so hard these days. In 10 days I am starting the trip with my family. In about 15 days we will be 2000km away from home. I will stay there and they are coming back in our country. I will be by myself. I am terrified. I feel like everything is going to be awful there, that I will cry a lot and I won't feel safe. It's not only the idea of being away from my family. It's the idea of being away from everything that is familiar to me.

[Guido8]

Why do you have to go away and put yourself through this? Seems like staying put is better for your overall well being. I was on a trip recently a couple thousand miles from home and longed for being back home. I took it day by day, hour by hour and included a lot of breathing exercises.

[sad_watermelon in reply to Guido8]

I am moving abroad for university. I had a huge discussion with my parents about it and they didn't allow me to go to university in my country. I actually had a post about it, if you would like to read the whole story.

[BlueAgave]

You have every right to feel this way. It is a huge change in your life, one of the biggest stressors a person can go through.

Give yourself permission to have these feelings, but do things to care for yourself at this time. Visit places you love at home, eat at places you love at home, visit with people you will miss.

Make yourself a box of things that remind you of home, some things that you can smell, taste, look at, that will bring you comfort when you need it. Make sure you have all the phone numbers of those you want to keep in contact with.

Then when you get there, focus on getting to know your surroundings. Find important places like medical facilities, banks, grocery's, etc... After that I'm sure you'll be getting to know the university. I'm sure they have student services for anything important you may need. Probably medical facilities too. I've never been away to college, I'm assuming they would have services for those away from home.

You're going to be sad, but give it a little time and I bet you will have the best time if you allow yourself. I believe in you, it will be a wonderful experience ✨️

[sad_watermelon in reply to BlueAgave]

Thank you so much

[BlueAgave in reply to sad_watermelon]

Any time. Remember we are here for you when you're away from home.

[Desperate4Happiness]

I would try calling the university in advance and ask what services they provide to students with regard to mental health and/or community resources that you can plan and schedule in advance.

I hope things go well for you.

[sad_watermelon in reply to Desperate4Happiness]

I tried, but they have whole month of vacation

[CLB1125]

It’s natural to be apprehensive and scared. It’s normal to feel anxious about things and even more so for people like us with anxiety issues. Take one day at a time with an open mind. You may be pleasantly surprised. If you are afraid for your safety speak to your parents about safety measures you can take. So you are prepared. I am so excited for you!!