How do you respond to this?

[sad_watermelon]

Ahh, you are probably pretty tired of reading about my ex boyfriend, now a close friend, and honestly, I'm tired of writing about him. I am waiting to abroad for university so I can naturally stop caring and thinking about him (it's like a habit now, we've been together for 20 months and are broken up since may...)

He's again being rude to me in some very small ways, but I take it really personally. As you may know, he's passionate about history and hates the fact that I am not and don't know things he does (most of our disputes came from this) and now I red something very interesting about the opening ceremony of the Olympics (which he didn't like) and I invested a lot of time reading the symbolic of everything that happened there. At the end, I decided to tell him what I've read, because he always asks me "did you read something good today?" (Good being history and history only...) So when I told him all of that (simplified in a couple of texts of course) he just said "ok, all the time you've spent on this wasn't worth it"......

How do I respond to that for god's sake? I have been telling him to stop being rude to me (this is rude for me, maybe I'm the problem), but it keeps happening!

[Chrysalis3]

I couldn’t finish reading your post…but I just wanted to say don’t ever feel like you can’t continue to post…this forum is here to help so open the flood gates and don’t stop until you need to.

Much love to you !

[sad_watermelon in reply to Chrysalis3]

Thank you so much

[Chrysalis3 in reply to sad_watermelon]

We are hear to listen…and provide honest and good feedback as much as we can.

Hope you are having a better day!

[Alpakka123]

Hi,

I'm not following your story at all, but I did want to pop in and say something about your first sentence. How do you know that we are tired of hearing about your ex-boyfriend? I do this all the time, btw. It's called mind reading and it's a cognitive distortion. It's EXHAUSTING! (oh, which reminds me, I've got to get back to another post and mention this...). Sorry, thinking to myself.

Ok so, mind reading. Unless someone specifically tells you that they are tired of hearing about your ex-boyfriend, you have no idea that they are tired of it.

Ok, that's it. I just wanted to mention that.😊 I hope that it makes you feel better!

[catsrock]

Is there any way you can avoid him until you go away to school? I don't like how rude he is to you and no one needs that. Sending you lots of hugs.

[bethelbee]

I think I have responded to you before about him. It does not sound like a healthy relationship at all; in fact very toxic. He frequently berates you and puts you down. You don't deserve to be treated that way(no one does), you deserve so much better. In my honest opinion it would be healthier for you to stop having contact with him. If he was really any kind of a friend, he wouldn't belittle you. I wouldn't be friends with someone who treated me like that.