I want to start off with that I have a tendency to go through bouts of depression. I'll have great days, and weeks and months. But the depression is always lurking. And when it hits, it hits hard.
Recently, I made a dumb mistake. I thought I hit it off with a guy (yeah, I know, I'm upset about a guy). Long story short, I was used. It's crazy how someone can make you feel so wanted for a split second, and suddenly treat you like you're an acquaintance.
Anyways, this whole thing was the perfect way to kick off another bout of depression. I feel bad about myself, even though I know I shouldn't. It wasn't my fault I gave someone the benefit of the doubt. Either way, I'm hurt. I feel low. And I feel sad.
So yeah, please no judgment or tough-love. I've gotten that before on here, and that made me feel worse.
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Hi there, I’m currently going through an extremely similar situation and just wanted to let you know you’re definitely not alone. I started seeing a guy a little over 2 months ago and the beginning seemed really great (or so I thought). He started out very sweet and caring and affectionate and made me feel super happy and excited about potentially growing the relationship but now things feel completely different and honestly even a little off.. It’s like he just stopped trying. We haven’t ended things yet but it’s really starting to feel like it might come to that point soon. I’ve flat out asked him if he’s still interested in me and he just says he would tell me if he wasn’t..but at the same time his actions constantly make me believe otherwise and I really don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t feel valued and more times than not I end up feeling worse after being with him. I’m fully aware I shouldn’t be settling for someone who doesn’t make me feel good about myself or make me feel loved and appreciated, but my self esteem is already so low I feel like if I end this it’ll just become worse. I apologize if this was a lot lol, but like I said I just wanted to remind you you’re not alone. Dating in these modern times is really difficult and it’s more than ok to feel how you are feeling and know it’ll pass eventually. I hope you feel better soon ❤️
Very similar, you're right. I'm so sorry that you're going through something along the same lines. It does help to not feel alone. You do deserve someone who makes you feel important and wanted. But it's hard to let go when you think back to the "good times." I hope you're situation settles out well💕
So sorry to hear your situation. As a man it always angers me to hear other men treating women like that. Truly we aren't all like that, but from listening to people around me there are an awful lot out there. In fact a friend of mine was like that until he met his future wife and now he's settled down and in his longest relationship and they have adopted a child. He was AWFUL to women, to the point where I'm still dubious if it was real or he just made it up. I honestly wanted to slap him at times. He makes out he's always been mature and a saint, when he surely ain't!
It really ticked me off because I was brought up to be respectful (to everyone), but especially when in a romantic relationship and I seem to keep going from one disastrous relationship to another. I too have been used for 'something to do' and meals out and money and then dumped. I often wonder if I put modern women on too high a pedestal, but that's how I've always been - I'm a hopeless romantic, or maybe, just maybe, I'm just hopeless.
Anyway, think about having a long weekend of watching movies with your friends, or go out for a meal with them or do some fun activity to hopefully take your mind off it. Stay strong, vent, either on here or to your friends and keep your chin up and don't blame yourself for someone else being what I would class as an utter scumbag.
Thank you, I appreciate the sentiment. I know that some people have bad intentions. But I didn't think it would happen to me, very mind boggling. But I guess that goes to show that I need to be even more careful with who I give my attention and attentiveness too. Fortunately, I've had a great support system of friends who let me vent till I had no more tears, amd could eventually laugh. Though I still slide back into the sad at times, as one would a expect. I fun weekend trip to Michigan is in the books this weekend, so hopefully that'll lift the spirits
That sounds like a plan! I always think it's a good analogy to think of female elephants and how intelligent, resilient and strong they are. When they're in a herd they are a solid wall of strength and they look out for each other. No one would dare mess with them.!Basically what I'm saying is hopefully thinking about their strength will keep you strong. You deserve so much better, so don't give up hope, as there are good guys out there, but all you need at present is strength of heart and spirit and to keep pushing on.
You sound like a very empathetic person to me, and it is easy to fall into the trap of loving too quickly, when you may find your emotions dashed by a less than empathetic person. (Been there, done that, got Teeshirts!).
I know it's hard, but try to stay a little aloof, and not commit too quickly, you need to protect your tender heart from further injury.
Yes you're very much right. This has really opened my eyes to how quickly I give my best to people who may not deserve it. I hate that it had to take something like this to make a change in me, but I think I'm finally ready to seek therapy. I want my heart to be resilient and to have my own peace of mind.
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So lonely and depressed 
He left me because of my depression... I’m 20 and he is 27
Trapped in my own head 
I have no idea how to make friends.
Going crazy *trigger
