Anxiety is ruining my life

[Kellybelly143]

I have had anxiety as long as I can remember and I can't get doctor's to listen to me. I am losing medical insurance next month and counseling is expensive. I don't have anxiety everyday and don't want to be put on a long term medication just something that takes the edge off when it creeps up (because it creeps up full force) I really need an outlet for everything I feel and people around me are tired of how my anxiety makes me not a fun/happy person to be around. Its ruining my very awesome 2 year relationship which in turn is making my anxiety worse and its a vicious cycle. Please can anyone give advice on how to stop this feeling so I can be happy and normal

[TheNewGirl]

hi!

I’m not sure if I have much advice as I’m in a similar boat and still trying to figure this out too, especially when it comes to the relationship part (been around the same time too 2 years and I’m trying to calm my anxiety so it doesn’t further impact our relationship)… but I will say that something that is sort of helping me is journaling. Either on an app called Day One (it’s free) or actual journal just to get thoughts out and put what’s in my brain on paper. Or even diving into art (I’m not an artist at all but just random art stuff I come across like cheap painting pottery at a store), and trying to find other more creative outlets - like sometimes I’ll ask my partner if they’d be willing to do a quick 10-30 meditation with me (but it’s like a video, it’s not guided and we just sit and listen to nature music or something like that) or even doing that on your own like I’ve tried too sort of helps… not sure if that’s helpful as anxiety really is difficult to pinpoint or just stop when it gets overwhelming or starts affecting relationships but that’s just what comes to mind.

[blackcat64013]

Hi,Thank you for your post.

I have a quick check list I carry with me to find out what's behind my anxiety that leaves me feeling "wobbly".

1. What's the reason for my anxiety

2. Is there evidence to back it up

3. What's the worst case scenario

4. How likely is it to happen

5.How will I cope

6. What's my contingency plan if things go wrong

7. Who can help me

8. What's the best outcome

9. What will I learn from the experience, good or bad

10. What is an action I can take now to decrease the pressure

My diary eventually revealed my triggers to be aware of.