Feeling lost

[Edoza1127]

Girl left me cause of not showing emotions. I some know how to be happy anyone. I always look for negative in life

[Dolphin14]

Edoza1127

Welcome to the community

I'm sorry about your break up.

Have you thought about some professional help? Maybe you need to get to the root of the reason you aren't able to show emotion

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[Edoza1127 in reply to Dolphin14]

What I'm working on now. But feels like it only last for so long then right back to always worried or anxious

[Dolphin14 in reply to Edoza1127]

Are you in therapy?

[CL3V3R-G1RL]

Welcome to the HU community

Sorry to hear of about your breakup. Breakups are tough. Especially when you mix in things like lack of displaying emotions. Sometimes it's because of past traumas, we hide our emotions for safety. Because we don't wanna get hurt by our emotions being used against us. Or people have abused our confidence in being vulnerable so we lock up.

Therapy is a good start to find out what is the root of it all.

Also get that emotions for a guy is difficult. It's kind of a double edge sword. If you show your vulnerability some people may consider you weak. If you don't show emotions, people think you are cold and standoffish.

I wish you healing and peace 🫂❤️

[Edoza1127 in reply to CL3V3R-G1RL]

I just don't know how to show them. I automatically just shut down and go to routine such as work or home. I don't know how to shut it off. I want to but talk and get it out just don't know where to begin.

[CL3V3R-G1RL in reply to Edoza1127]

I suggest writing in a journal. Pick a memory or a particular event in your life. Write about what you remember about it. And focus on your emotions during this event. Write them down.

That's why a therapist is a good start. Cause your therapist can help guide you like my partner is getting from his therapist. She asking him about family. So my partner is taking up to writing out bullet points about specifics moments in his life that shaped him into the person he is. Maybe you can do something like that.

[Biryanilovergal in reply to Edoza1127]

May I ask you to google Asperger syndrome? when we understand ourselves better things gets bit easier .. that is my feeling.😇