Feeling lost

[Purplebiker]

I've been awake since 3 am fretting about work. I'm a nervous wreck. I feel like every job I have done I have felt incompetent at. I don't know that this is true or my perception. My anxiety can come across to people as a weakness in my skills. I'm ready to give up. There's a couple of guys I work with who just seem to give me crap all the time and then go to my manager complaining about me. I know it's my anxiety. When do you come to the conclusion that enough is enough? Enough with trying to keep going at my career or just give it up?

[Tulip1977]

I suffer with anxiety and negativite thoughts at work. I’ve only been there since March , before that I did voluntary work for about seven months. I think a lot of my issues are just in my head and no one else thinks them. Have you spoken to your doctor about your feelings? I didn’t work for years because of depression and anxiety. Do you take any medication? I feel better about myself now I work and it keeps me occupied. Plus the money helps. I hope you can get some help and feel better xxx

[Purplebiker in reply to Tulip1977]

I have talked to my doctor. Unfortunately my psychiatrist is on vacation til early September and I can't see him til October 9th. I do take medication and I'm seeing a counselor. My counselor suggests a different job but I'm not sure that'll fix the problem. I just want to quit but financially it scares me. Do I keep working risking my health to keep my livelihood or quit? My husband works but I don't want to put all the burden of bills on him. I just know that I can't keep going like this.

[Tulip1977 in reply to Purplebiker]

Only you know what’s best for you deep down. I really feel for you having such a big decision to make. Chat to your husband and maybe other friends and family. They might be able to help you. Xxx

[Purplebiker in reply to Tulip1977]

My husband thinks I'm over thinking the situation but is willing to let me quit my job. He says we would just make it work. His fear is I will shut down and hermit at home if I don't work. I think I would be fine. I hermit at home now when I'm not working because of the anxiety. I'm exhausted. I really think I would be better off recognizing enough is enough and realize that I may just need disability

[morenews in reply to Purplebiker]

I did that after many years though, when it got too much ...but i don't feel good at home and looking for a job now. I want to get less stressful job with less money i was making(my husband is ok with that, he works hard, but he does not have anxiety issues, he is confident at his job), but I feel that for my mental health i need to work(and of course for additional income as well). We are all different, and only you know where you are now mentally and it does effect your health...Here i can see a few options, but one of them, yes, quitting. I wish you good luck to figure it out, it is also very stressful to make a decision, was horrible time for me. I don't regret my decision, no, I don't look back and regret things. But i have realized that staying in home could be also a bad thing for me, so i hope to get a job. We will see what happens.

[Rpan]

You say you know it’s” my anxiety” they are complaining about, I’m not sure ho you know that. Anxiety is an important part of life, everyone has it. It’s when we become concerned about it that it becomes an issue. I’m never of the mindset to leave anything because of “anxiety” people will not like us, so be it. All we can do is our best. Your coworkers complaining is not your problem, that is managements issue. If management comes to you about this, that’s a different story. If someone has an issue with you, that’s there issue. Give your job 💯 % and be proud of that. Forget others negative energy, that is their issue!! Don’t leave a job because of “anxiety”

[Purplebiker in reply to Rpan]

It's the anxiety that makes me feel apprehensive and sometimes slows a person's thinking. That's what people see. They don't see or know about my anxiety. My anxiety gives a false impression of me at times because of its effects on my body.

[Rpan]

Ya I know all about anxiety and how at times we aren’t as sharp as we would like to be. I’m a health care professional in a high stress career, with an anxiety disorder. I too often have body symptoms, so do countless others. I know surgeons that have anxiety. We don’t have control of how anxiety will effect us at times, all we can do is our best. Im not the one to agree with leaving a job because of anxiety. That’s just my opinion.

[Purplebiker in reply to Rpan]

I'm a nurse in a high stress job. As you know everyone has different life experiences that make us. I don't share every life detail on here and I never will. I will decide what is best for me regardless what others think! When I post here, I'm posting out of desperation and support. I can't do that anywhere else. This is my safe place. Opinions are fine but encouragement is best. Thank you for your encouragement regardless of your opinion.

[Rpan]

It seems as though my comments struck a nerve, that certainly was not my intention, I apologize if my words were anything less than encouragement. I was hoping that you would see that others opinions of you are not relevant, especially fellow nurses that often have very few nice things to say about others. I’ve worked in the acute care setting for >20 years, most find things to complain about just for sport. It’s a stressful environment, but it doesn’t have to be. I’ve been battling anxiety and depression since my teens all through school and what I’ve learned is to focus on my patients. Give them the attention, my coworkers don’t pay my salary. People will always complain, that doesn’t have to define us. I lead and when a worker comes to me with a complaint I send them back to there coworker, let them work it out, if they can’t I mediate, often what they find is there is some miscommunication or one interprets something that was false or misleading. We who are oversensitive feel anxiety until we find resolution.

[Purplebiker]

It's been an uphill battle for a long time. I'm just trying to decide what is best for my health. I'm going to let my psychiatrist help with that decision. I've been working alot of hours between my shifts and being on call. It's wearing me down. Thank you for giving me some insight

[Hidden]

I left a job due to anxiety. Maybe it wasn't the best way to go about things but there were other factors in play such as toxic coworkers and low pay for high demand work. If you don't feel comfortable with your job, you shouldn't feel obligated to stay. That's just my two cents though.

[Purplebiker in reply to Hidden]

You're absolutely correct! Thank you! I worked 91 hours in 2 weeks. I'm wore out and there are a couple of negative people that don't make the job any easier. I'm just trying to keep in mind that's their problem but it's difficult. It's a constant battle in my mind!

[Hidden in reply to Purplebiker]

Sounds like my old job. Worked too much for little pay. I wish you the best of luck in whatever you choose to do.

[Purplebiker in reply to Hidden]

Thank you! Unfortunately I'm stuck. Damn bills and having to eat. Lol. I'm a nurse so the pay is ok. Not the best for a nursing job but the hours......... Yuck!

[Hidden in reply to Purplebiker]

Hopefully you'll be able to find something high paying in the meantime.

[Purplebiker in reply to Hidden]

Less stressful is my biggest concern when it really comes down to the truth. Money verses peace...... I choose peace every time. Thank you! I appreciate your encouragement

[Gina_B]

There may be some truth to your inadequacies (because everyone has them!) but probably most is just your perception/feelings. Also, everyone has people they work with who are not fans. The trick is to just not think of what those people are thinking and saying. Keep your eyes and mind on what good you can do and those who help and support you in doing a good job. You are not alone in having flaws and they will get better with time. There is no giving up! Your hard work WILL pay off, just keep going. Think of every successful person out there who has a story of times they thought of giving up in their trying times. Never, ever give up! Hugs