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Hello everyone,

I have never been clinically diagnosed, but I’ve been battling on and off anxiety for the past 10 years, no major setbacks. Since my husband passed away a year ago from Cancer, my anxiety and depression has been crippling. My mental pain turned into physical pain and had me homebound. I have thanatophobia which has been triggering anxiety. I have never taken any medication for these items, but maybe it’s time.

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LunarEcho24

I am sorry to hear about your loss, and your struggles.

It would be good to seek some help. Perhaps medication and/or therapy.

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Willow2022

Hey Aprilstwins. Welcome.

I am sorry for your loss. That is unimaginable to me and my heart goes out to you.

This is a wonderful community that offers many things but given your description, I echo earlier advice: perhaps you can see a therapist for insight into coping skills and a doctor or psychiatrist to ask about meds. Just be honest with them and yourself.

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Agora1

Dearest Aprilstwins, I extend my deepest sympathy on your loss. I agree in that

maybe it is time to be put on medication to help take the edge off your stress.

Seeing your doctor for a physical as well as a recommendation for a therapist

can help immensely if put on medication. Talking about your fears and the impact

in has on your life is important right now. Don't allow it to fester, not allowing you to

live each day. I'm happy you are here with us. We can give you the outer support

you need while addressing your issues. Welcome to our community of virtual friends :) xx

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Perriex

Welcome April.🌹

My condolences for your loss.

I hope being here brings you some relief.

Meds may be worth a try.

You can get lots of great advice here, too.

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blackcat64013

Hi and welcome to your forum.I am sorry for your recent loss.🌹

Our members have offered advice to seek professional assistance through therapy with medication. I agree.

Asking for help is the first but often the hardest thing to do.

Dr Google is no substitute for face to face appointments but can help with information about getting ready to speak about your mental health needs.

Best wishes 💜 🐈‍⬛

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Popcorn12345

I would say seek therapy but avoid meds. Grief is a process and it's OK to feel sad abd worried they are normal human emotions. Therapy is probably the best thing to do

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catsrock

Welcome to the community. I am very sorry for the loss of your husband. I hope you find the support you need here - it's a good group.

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Aprilstwins

Hi, thank you for your kind comments. I did seek therapy with two different Therapist. Neither one was a fit for me. I am an over- thinker and I internalize a lot of stuff. I am the type that doesn’t want to be bothered. I have always been against medication because I see it as just a camouflage. Wouldn’t it be nice just to “snap out of it” like some people say.

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Turnipgirl in reply to Aprilstwins

Sadly it doesn't work that way as there's no quick fixes to sort out problems.

The snap out of it thing is stupid anyway!

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Teaching

Welcome to the community and sorry for your loss.

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Midori

'Snap out of it'. I wish it were that easy.

People who tell you that want a good hard shaking, as they have no empathy.

Grief takes it's own sweet time, and won't be rushed. Medication doesn't help everyone long term; it's not really meant to, just allow us to function until such time as we can find the strength to become a 'whole' person again, although many folk stay on it longer than necessary, until it becomes a crutch in itself.

Don't be afraid of tears, they are healing in themselves, representing the loss you have suffered, the years that didn't come to be, and stretch ever onward: I've been there myself, and it can be soul destroying.

I was lucky, I had my children to live for and fight for, and they brought me through. They are grown now, and I'm a grandma and an old lady, and I'm glad I didn't follow my instincts 33 years ago.

Cheers, Midori

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Turnipgirl in reply to Midori

Yes the snap out of it thing is ridiculous in my view as there are no quick fixes to problems!

Those who say that could do with a good wallop in my view as we all get episodes in life when we're upset don't we?

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