Ghosts

[Against_the_current]

Oh, my ex texted me again with his nonsense. How am I going to be with someone outside the law, he was going to kill himself. We can't be together. How will I pass this exam? I mean he said those things. The hell of telenovela my life is. He be acting like Al Kapone

[SoporRose]

That sounds scary and serious. Have you considered blocking him? He’s manipulating you with his threats and that’s a kind of violence. If your life is a telenovela, it’s time to get rid of this character.

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

I feel like he's genuine. He's just unstable because of the drvgs and trauma. It's the only relationship I've ever had. We have memories. He called me Rapunzel. Every time i see Rapunzel, i go crazy. He left me on seen now, i think he has gotten asleep. I need someone else and I've already found him but he's in a different country and idk if he feels the same but it would be really better. Just im really lonely. I have nobody. I have no friends from school because i was bullied. No friends from uni because of online classes. I'm begging people from uni to study together but they make excuses especially with my sleep schedule and their own issues. My dad left, mom's distant and drunk, sis is distant and cold and just stays outside or studies and says she's too tired and im annoying. This man was there for me. That's the only relationship I've ever had. I grieve it. I'm scared he will find someone else whom he's not so worried about with his criminal lifestyle and issues. But im damn sentimental. Memories. How do people have exes? I used to think getting married to the first person your parents approve once they want to get rid of you was wrong, but i realise i can't find anything better on my own (we don't count my mom trying to marry me to my step cousin, to a rich loser and to a ghetto guy). Just getting exes seems so wrong.

[SoporRose in reply to Against_the_current]

I don’t understand a lot of your thinking here, but I do understand that you are desperately lonely and don’t want to let go of a connection. But I also read that he's a criminal who’s trying to hold on to you with threats of suicide and in another country. Would you ever advise a friend to stay in such a relationship?

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

He's here, he's moved here, just in different city. In his country it's legal. He doesn't want me to stay, he's more likely telling me this to make ne realise he will leave

[SoporRose in reply to Against_the_current]

I don’t understand. What is legal? Why ds he a criminal?

[Against_the_current in reply to SoporRose]

I've lost all friends. I don't have friends anymore. I ask for help with studying, i ask to hang out. Nobody. I'm using these apps to find friends but they're always away and it's 1 day thing

[SoporRose in reply to Against_the_current]

I do understand that you are desperate for connection and I hope you find some with some decent people soon.

[bethelbee]

Sounds like a toxic relationship and someone you don't need to be around. It's not good for your mental health. Better to be alone than be with someone in an unhealthy relationship. You deserve better than that. If he keeps threatening to end his life, I would report him.

[CLB1125]

I agree with the others. This man is bad news and bad for your mental health.

[Against_the_current]

Thank you guys but i just have memories and feelings and can't find anyone better interested in me

[SoporRose in reply to Against_the_current]

Even if you can’t find anyone else now, getting involved with someone like this man is only going to damage you further. The others are right. Respect yourself enough to back away. I am worried about you.