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Age going up is like a curse

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I will turn 47 but i hate to be old especially when challenged with mental and emotional issue along with economical insecurities. I wonder if i will get some discount on the day of judge ment bcos of it.

I am feeling very angry and frustrated and i hate to be old with these issues

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47 is not young like 30 is but it is not old either.

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Mohammad-341 in reply to litethatnevergoesout

U r right, these issues are bothering me and i have no one to talk

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litethatnevergoesout in reply to Mohammad-341

I understand Mohammad. late 40s and trouble with mental health and happiness can just seem like life is not enjoyable. things tend to seem less hopeful. we have the power within us to live happier or more hopeful, that doesn’t mean it’s easy or that we will actually become happy.

what are your plans today? Anything going on this weekend?

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Mohammad-341 in reply to litethatnevergoesout

My kid has been selected for global kids achiver award for 2024 we will celebrate tomorrow evening.

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Arymretep in reply to Mohammad-341

That’s something to be happy about surely, how old is he ?

I’m in my 70’s , as you say getting older isn’t a bed of roses , but what’s the alternative ? I’ve just been in intensive care for two weeks after emergency surgery and believe me I couldn’t wait to get home !

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Mohammad-341 in reply to Arymretep

May u get well soon

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Arymretep in reply to Mohammad-341

Thank you x

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Mohammad-341 in reply to Arymretep

He is 8 and a half. I have only one son. With this age i could not plan second child

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Arymretep in reply to Mohammad-341

You are blessed to have a son

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Mohammad-341 in reply to Arymretep

Thanks to allah

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hypercat54 in reply to Mohammad-341

Do you have any daughters too?

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Mohammad-341 in reply to hypercat54

No, keeping in my mental and professional health i did not go for a second child

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Mohammad-341 in reply to Arymretep

I can understand that its very difficult to be in emergency at this age.

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Celtic274

Hi Mohammad sorry to here how down you feel i undertsand that growing old isnt a bed of roses look at each day look at the good memories dont live in the past if it pains you to do so god blessyou

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Mohammad-341 in reply to Celtic274

What to look for, past is gloomy and future is uncertain

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litethatnevergoesout in reply to Mohammad-341

Do your best today

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Mohammad-341 in reply to litethatnevergoesout

Sure

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litethatnevergoesout in reply to Mohammad-341

that’s the spirit

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bethelbee in reply to Mohammad-341

We can't live our lives in the past, what's done is done and we can't change it. We can only do the best we can from this day forward, taking one day at a time, or even one moment at a time. The future for all of us is uncertain; we don't know what's going to happen. Be kind to yourself.

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Mohammad-341 in reply to bethelbee

its thought provoking although difficult to apply.

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bethelbee in reply to Mohammad-341

I know it's not easy....and I'm 69

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PacoDennis

It is good that you recognize how difficult it can get. I am 71 and feel the same way you just described. My physical problems are chronic and not likely to go away. This makes me feel kind of cheated, that my retirement years are filled with difficulties. Plus there is being on fixed income ( SS ) I am jst staying a float. If anything happens that costs a lot, I will go into debt. Sometimes I don't know why I am going on. Sometimes I would raather stop the wheel and jump off. Up till now, those desperate times have passed. I wonder sometime how I will die, having some many aches and pains as it is.

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Mohammad-341 in reply to PacoDennis

Dear Pacodennis ,

i feel the same way.

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Weatherwoman in reply to PacoDennis

All of you are younger than I am as I turned 80 couple of days ago. Forty-seven is rather young compared to me. I have been Very anxious & nervous all my life, and in a time when the Stigma was So pervasive that I (and, many others) kept our Anxiety/Depression to ourselves & Suffered in Silence! In fact, I did not get diag. with OCD, GAD till my late fifties! And, I have had A lot of therapy, groups, and will be doing some somatic therapy soon! And, I am now all Alone having lost both parents, my Sig. Other of 27 years, and have little family, and some friends, but No one, really, who could just bring me a cup of soup if I got ill! And, Yes, this possibly being alone & not well, or if I should fall, or something (pray not), well this Scares me Silly. I am working on trying not to be SO fearful; but, am a work in progress! I have worked through many of my fears; but, still have lots to work on. I am glad that we have this site to write our feelings, and We are NOT alone in that way!

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Vasiliki99

Well done you got some things to be grateful for , be grateful why not , it's a lottery life .

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PacoDennis

This is true, and we can remind ourselves of the myriad of miracles of life. But, sometimes we can't also. That is just the truth. Most of the time, we pull out of the darkness, but there is the reality of it taking our life. Nothing wrong with that. If one is really true, so is the other. This forum is for expressing tough feelings, and they are just as true as the grateful ones. We need to be supportive in what is, not what we wish it to be. We might as well be throwing our pennies into a wishing well. :)

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dmt1121

I am 65, have stage 4 cancer, a paralyzed foot requiring a leg brace. Sometimes I am really tired and can't do much or I get severe nerve pain but other days, I go out and do small outdoor projects. I had planned to continue working but I cannot because of fatigue and pain. So, I am on SS disability.

I also have bipolar disorder and depression but am on meds. I understand feeling incapable of keeping up with life and the real challenges that you face. It can be overwhelming but after taking some time to rest and maybe meditating to consider what you might do about your situation, some other options may come to mind. Don't say you're old because you aren't! You may feel old and tired of all that you have to deal with and that's understandable.

The more positive things you do, the better you will feel. It may just be a walk on a sunny day that improves your energy, meet a friend to have coffee and/or volunteering for people worse off than you. I have done this and it is very rewarding, as well as giving you more people you may connect with in your orbit. These are people that may turn out to be good friends or even help you find a better job that you like. If you lean into the positive in spite of your real life challenges, you may draw good things to you.

I wish you all the best in figuring out your path and that it gives you happiness, peace of mind and contentment.

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Mohammad-341 in reply to dmt1121

Thanks

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Mohammad-341 in reply to dmt1121

i am sorry to know about you but i am feeling that by god grace i am in much better position

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dmt1121

And that is reason enough to get out there and enjoy life as much as you can!

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