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Blessing or a curse?

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I'm way too empathetic for my own good.

Sure it's a good thing but people take advantage of it, I always think there's good in everyone when sometimes there just isn't...

Tonight I realized that I try to help anyone who needs it, always lending a shoulder to cry on or a listening ear, I do it for anyone I can.

My realization is; that no matter how many people I've done this for, no one is there for me...

I guess that's just life...

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You’re a kind and compassionate person & it makes you feel good to help others..don’t stop..the world needs more caring people..I’ve felt the same at times but the good that helping people does is so important...Just keep being you, the kind and caring soul that you are!💕🤗✌🏻🌸

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gilded_masquerade in reply toSA192461

Thank you ❤️

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You’re very welcome❤️

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Lostandbroken

I can relate... If you need someone to talk to I'm here.

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gilded_masquerade in reply toLostandbroken

Thank you, that means a lot to me

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gerg

The paradox of altruism.

I have changed my perspective when I am doing things for others. I now primarily do things for others only to benefit myself. This sounds selfish, but it is the same as anyone else doing for others and with honesty added. Feeling better about something is the drive that makes us do things for others. I just accept that up front and I always get what I want. I do it for me and if others appreciate it so much better. But in the end I do not rely on their noticing it or their appreciation of it. I do things for others because I like to do things for others, selfish or selfless? That is the paradox.

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I learned to say no. I am only human and can only help a select few very well instead of helping everyone poorly. You got to have boundaries.

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Saying yes is fine if your intent is not vulnerable to the judgement of others. Maintain control of your intent and be the judge of your accomplishments.

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fauxartist

there are people here responding to your post....think of it as a shoulder to lean on. Be more selective who you choose to help in the future....your right, there seem to be more users than givers these days....it's a sad social statement but true...mind yourself.

Hello! It sounds as though you are a hypersensitive person (or Highly Sensitive Person, HSP) There are many free articles about being an HSP (the most common name for it) on the internet. I know it seems as if all you do is care for others, but now at this point in your life you need to practice self-care and keep it going. This is one area that we HSP's neglect: our own emotional lives. You cannot play doctor to everyone; that will exhaust you! Trust me I am very empathetic as well. But as an HSP, you have to put your own needs first; or else you will quickly lose steam and burnout and then you wont' be able to be there for anyone else! You also need to practice psychic (or mental) protection as well as assertiveness to learn how to not let others take advantage of you. I know it is hard but assertiveness CAN be learned. You can find great self-help articles for all of these things on the internet. Learn more about being an HSP. I promise, it is like finding yourself and who you really are. Things in your life will start to make sense now. I hope all this helps you and I wish you the best!

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