One of those days

[catsrock]

Just down, down, down today. My Mom and sister keep pulling crazy-making, gaslighting, passive-aggressive BS and I'm so sick of it. My Mom is a major enabler with my sister, my sister has almost always lived with/leeched off my Mom and is emotionally abusive to her (screams at my Mom, tells her she wishes she would die and burn in hell, etc..., and this can go on for a day or longer with her having these rants and my Mom won't sleep, etc...) as she is very mentally ill, but won't go get help as "it's everyone else, not her" that has a problem, blah, blah, blah. My Mom is 92, but won't get away from my sister (will say at times that she is moving to assisted living, but never does, and has called Adult Protective Services more times than I can count, and won't except mine or anyone else's help to make it happen). Anyway, there is SO MUCH more as this shit has been going on my whole life and it's painful as my Mom has always put my sister first before everyone else. My Mom is a case in herself: narcissistic, controlling, hates to be questioned, loves to pull guilt trips, shows little to no interest in my life or my family's, possibly has Asperger's because she is very odd socially, and doesn't care at all about what I have to say about pretty much anything. It's always a mess and I've done my best to distance myself from it physically (I live more than 500 miles away) and emotionally, but something always happens and I end up hearing about their extreme dysfunction all over again. Also, I found this out recently and don't care about the $, but my Mom is leaving my sister practically everything, but has lied to me for decades about how she was splitting up her inheritance - too long to go into here and I always knew my sister would get way more, but it's the betrayal/lying that hurts and her inability to see the unfairness (on paper, it's an 89/11 split in assets in my sister's favor). Why do families often reward the abusers? It's maddening.

[TangledUpIn]

Gaslighting and passive aggressiveness are so tiring and frustrating to deal with. Then there is the hurtfulness of how your mom is splitting up her inheritance...I can see why you're at your wit's end 🤯 What can we do to support you?

[catsrock in reply to TangledUpIn]

Thank you. Just the validation that I what she does is hurtful is helpful. I wish I knew how to let this stuff go better and not let it ruin my day sometimes. I'm better than I use to be at letting it go thanks to a good therapist, but it still gets to me at times.

[TangledUpIn in reply to catsrock]

It would get to me too!