How to not rely too much on loved ones?

[Kaashi_Reads]

I have a great partner. He is a blessing but due to issues with my family, I get stressed a lot and depend on him to console me .

He also has a life beyond me but always managed to make me feel good, which I believe tenses him a lot. Because he has to manage time that way.

And due to this when he is not really able to make time for me due to other works , I get upset a lot .

This constraints our relationship.

How should I handle this ? Because it is not his baggage to keep me stress-free. But he is my closest friend that I blindly trust and deeply love. And he is the closest person, I have with whom I can share anything. Before him , I used to lock up my emotions. With him I am able to show emotions better.

[gajh]

Hello and Welcome. Hopefully being here with us you will feel another place to seek support. We are here for you.

[Arymretep]

It sounds as if you have a great relationship, but we do sometimes come to depend on each other too much, ive been in a very long marriage, fifty years plus, and I’ve found having my own interests and friends of my own puts less pressure on my OH, I know he is always there for me, but I do try and be as independent as I can be .

[Kaashi_Reads in reply to Arymretep]

Yes , to have my own interest, I joined this space. I am posting here, otherwise I would have reached him constantly for support.

[Arymretep]

That’s a good start. I’m sure you’ll get lots of support on here👍

[Kaashi_Reads in reply to Arymretep]

I am already getting lots of lovable people here. People like you . . joining the space was right choice.

[Arymretep in reply to Kaashi_Reads]

Look forward to reading your posts👍

[Cavalierrubie]

Me again!! It’s good you have someone you can trust and relieve your pent up emotions. You have such a lot on your plate right now and your partner will understand how much you need him. I think if you make sure it is not all one-sided and you give time for him and his feelings it should work out. It will make you stronger if you keep some independence because if you rely on him too much you will eventually not be able to cope. Keep strong.

[Kaashi_Reads in reply to Cavalierrubie]

For the past two days that I have joined the group, I feel better, moreover he said it too that I am less stressed since past 2 days. I am not irritated particularly. I feel I wanted to express myself for so long. And ofcourse my partner was there to listen all the time but he was scared to give me any suggestions or perspective, because he thought I would rethink what he said and then take it the wrong way. So he was just a listener and a motivator. Here I am blessed to get som many perspectives and moreover to see how people are managing, it's really fruitful for my mindset.

[Cavalierrubie in reply to Kaashi_Reads]

Your partner sounds such a nice person. Try to enjoy life as much as you can. One day at a time. Don’t worry about tomorrow - today has enough troubles of its own. These are not my words but the words of Jesus Christ.

[Kaashi_Reads in reply to Cavalierrubie]

For the treatment of my brother, I have shifted with my family and he is few miles away. We still video call each day. Tell about happenings ....

[Cavalierrubie in reply to Kaashi_Reads]

❤️❤️❤️

[LIFE72]

and just like you, that is the reason i joined this community. We understand each other since we know what we’re going through. Our family and friends try but if you don’t go through it it’s hard.