Does anyone get me?

[EricJones]

Hi i'm Eric, and i've just been wondering if anyone gets where i'm coming from. Do people understand what it feels like to go into a room full of people and feel like you dont belong. To go in to the room and see everyone as potential threats. To be afraid that people will notice me noticing them do subtle things with their bodies. To not know if others are gawking at me to see if i have the correct or non-weird body language. I just feel like i'm alone with these types of thoughts and I want to hear your ideas on it.

[Vasiliki99]

everyone tends to feel that way unless you are lying and most people lie - u could have counselling to help u i dont know that anyone wants to walk in a room there is always many pains in life behind the scenes they all feel shit maybe u need different groups we are all weak imperfect and stressed in my view but best of luck you could try landmark forum if it still exists

[Hidden]

Yeah... They may not get bothered by you but you would still feel that you're out of place. It does happens and even happens in the friendship.

[Bluebird91]

I think that's just part of being sick. Talk to someone you trust and counseling should help.

[NovemberBlue]

I can relate to the beginning of it but then I think my experience differs from yours a bit. Lately I feel like I can’t trust what people say or how they treat me. Like they might act nice to me but I don’t believe they actually like me. And that is a mix of my being hurt before and my poor self image. But yours sounds like you fear they are judging you, does that sound right? When I get self conscious around groups of people it is more that being around others makes me judge myself and compare myself to them and feel bad about myself. I do often think people think negatively of me in general but I don’t think it’s the same as your experience. What you are dealing with sounds really uncomfortable. Have you found any tricks or skills that help you deal with it?

[CLB1125]

As others have said we all perceive things differently. I avoid going where there are a lot of people. I feel overwhelmed and panic. i just "know" everyone is looking at me and judging me. Mainly look how fat she is! I have a thing about going where I can watch everyone and the door. I don't want anyone behind me. I trust no one! You are not alone in these feelings. Everyone is unique as far as what we feel and how we see things as reality but there are those of us that have similar feelings that you have. This is a good place to be. We all get it and don't judge. It's safe to talk about your fears, phobias, anxiety, etc.

[Teaching]

I feel the same Eric. You are not alone

[Cocoa_Pebbles]

You're not alone. I feel the same way. I've never felt like I belong or fit in with many people from a young age. I used to feel really down about it, but now that I'm older, I've embraced it. Now I don't want to fit in. I like having my space, being my own person.

[designguy]

For whatever reason, your thoughts and perceptions about how others are judging you and perceiving you and how you perceive them is flawed. the reality is that most people are too caught up in their own thoughts and struggles to pay much, if any attention to you. You may have been bullied as I was in school that led to my lack of self-worth and social anxiety or had a difficult childhood with no emotional support. Many of us were never parented or taught how to develop self-worth so it's something we need to cultivate for ourselves.

You can heal this by learning and developing your own self-worth and how to validate yourself and quit judging yourself and accept yourself. There is a lot of good info available on youtube about how to go about this, I particularly like the youtubes of Julia Kristina, Bernadette Logue, Bernadette Sewell, and Emma at Therapy in a nutshell.

[Agora1 in reply to designguy]

Thank you designguy for this helpful response. xx

[designguy in reply to Agora1]

You're welcome Agora, grateful to be able to help.

[Nothing_but_books in reply to designguy]

Thank you for the YouTube suggestions. I already listened to a couple on Therapy in a Nutshell, and found it very useful.

[EricJones in reply to Nothing_but_books]

theres also Kati Morton

[designguy in reply to Nothing_but_books]

You're welcome, glad you are checking them out.

[Agora1 in reply to Nothing_but_books]

Therapy in a Nutshell is an excellent site in answering many questions

that we all have. xx

[EricJones in reply to Agora1]

not enough on social anxiety , but there is a wide range of issues she clears up

[Agora1 in reply to EricJones]

In my day Eric, social anxiety wasn't a term used.

It was more along the lines of "being shy"..

and I was that person not because of being emotionally

abused but being over protected and over loved.

Through time and maturing, I was able to overcome my

shyness and gained the self confidence and self esteem that

was always within me but hidden by my fears. :)xx

[bluesky85]

@Eric Jones: I do understand where you are come from,what you had experience if you need someone to listen to,you can always message me.